Tyler Clementi killed himself shortly after footage of himself streamed online. (AFP/Getty Images)

When columnist Dan Savage read about the suicide of 15-year-old Billy Lucas (Greensburg Indiana), he had the same reaction he has whenever he reads about the death of a teenager who struggled with bullies: "I wished I could talk to him for five minutes. I wished I could tell him that things change, that things get better."

A few days later, he wrote in his column: "Many LGBT kids who do kill themselves live in rural areas, exurbs, and suburban areas, places with no gay organizations or services for queer kids.... But gay adults aren't allowed to talk to these kids. Schools and churches don't bring us in to talk to teenagers who are being bullied."

Savage realized he did not need to wait for an invitation to talk to the teenagers; he could use YouTube to speak to them directly. Last week, he and his husband, Terry, sat down before a camera and talked about their experience with bullying and how good their life became once they left school.

"We wanted to show them that happiness was possible in the future," Savage said in a phone interview.

He asked people to submit similar videos to a YouTube channel, It Gets Better. More than 200 videos have been uploaded to the site.  Read Full Story 

We cannot afford to be silent about Bullying any longer, it cannot be tollerated.  Out of Love and Compassion for another human being~  Don't be silent when you experience someone you care about being bullied in any way.  Stand with them... Stand for them.... Just STAND!  

(AFSP) Suicide and Anti-Gay Bullying

Recent news reports surrounding the suicide of several youth who were harassed with anti-gay sentiments continue to underscore the need for a concerted effort to address the harmful effects of anti-gay bullying. Multiple studies in the United States and abroad have shown that lesbian, gay and bisexual adolescents attempt suicide at a rate three to six times that of comparably aged heterosexual youth.

There is increasing evidence that much of the self-harm behavior reported among gay youth is related to anti-gay stigma expressed through bullying, harassment and violence. Further, studies show that children and adolescents whose appearance and personality traits do not conform to prescribed gender roles are often the target of anti-gay stigma, regardless of whether they consider themselves to be gay or lesbian. Such harassment can lead to feelings of isolation and despair, and, as has been shown through AFSP-funded research, is most likely to lead to suicidal behavior in youth who are already struggling with depression and related mental disorders. Data from many different studies in the United States and abroad point to significantly higher levels of depression in LGBTQ compared to heterosexual people of all ages.

As helpful as the media can be in shining a spotlight on anti-gay bullying and risk for suicide, scientific research has shown that some media reports about suicide can be harmful and contribute to contagion, or "copycat" suicides. Reporting graphic details of the suicide method, publishing photos of the victim and sensationalizing or romanticizing the suicide can inadvertently lead to copycat behavior, especially among vulnerable youth.

We encourage journalists reporting on all suicides to review the nationally recognized media recommendations developed by AFSP, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the Office of the Surgeon General and a number of other suicide prevention and government agencies. Following these recommendations, available at www.afsp.org/media, can reduce the risk of contagion and help prevent suicide. 

AFSP is committed to bringing more research and attention to the issue of suicide in the LGBTQ community. Recently, AFSP formed a Chapter Advisory Committee on LGBTQ Issues and is in the process of developing crucial, scientifically-validated educational resources and training tools on LGBTQ mental health issues.

For more information about AFSP's LGBTQ Initiative, click here.

For journalists: Please contact AFSP for any assistance as you develop these stories and consider your coverage of these tragic events.