So... Are You Horseman Material????
Dominance, Leadership, Control and Fear Setting boundaries and dominance are NOT the same thing. Let's use barbed wire for an example. A special shout out! :D Now some people may think barbed wire is a dreadful thing and no doubt, people and animals have been cut up on occasion. You can drown in water but that shouldn't mean you don't drink it. However, barbed wire doesn't attack, never goes after, has no intent to harm. It merely states its space and boundaries. It is not an enforcer, it simply holds it's own. What you do about it is up to you. Horses are very willing to challenge boundaries and can be very dominant. As are we. Many people do not realize that they have stepped back when the horse moves toward them. Nobody was hurt, it wasn't any big deal. Yet, it trained the horse that you are not going to maintain your boundary. In helping people with this, it's fun and interesting (at least to me :D) to watch them as we're talking and I just keep getting to say, "You moved your feet." over and over again. Sometimes I just think it if they aren't students or aren't interested in my opinion. So, they grab the clip and push the horse back. This only gets the horse back in that moment. It does not teach the horse to respect your space and not move. That's why people have to keep doing it... the horse says, "This is fun. I get 15 points every time I move and then another 15 every time I make my person move me back! And extra points if my person moves out of my way and doesn't make me move back!" Maybe someone reading this will invent horse smilies for the end of sentences like that! This scenario includes all the words at the top: Dominance of the horse, lack of leadership by the person, lack of control and fear of 1) holding your own space, 2) getting stepped on, 3) establishing consequences and MORE! I'll try to have more on the blog . There's a difference between techniques and technique.
For exceptional results, think "how and how can I".
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