Dear
Friends and Colleagues,
Another summer has come and past. It is hard to believe we are already into September. Time sure flies when you are having fun. I hope this newsletter
finds you well. I want to share something I read recently that encompasses what
we do on a daily basis. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.
Ten Ways to Support People
in Being Their Best
One of the greatest responsibilities we have is to support ourselves and
others in living at our highest and best. Whether we're parents, partners,
friends or leaders, it is incumbent upon us to help others to live as close to
their unique potential as we can.
With everything we
say and do, we're influencing, positively or negatively, the people we care
about. The ideal is to do this with consideration and intention. Here are ten
ways you can help others see and realize the best that's within them.
1. Believe in Them: We all have self-doubts
from time to time. Our confidence is shaken. We lack the faith in our talents
and skills to go for an important promotion or launch a new initiative. Having
someone believe in you at these times is priceless. The stories of great men
and women are saturated with examples of someone who believed in them even when
they didn't fully believe in themselves.
2. Encourage Them: "You can do it. I
know you can." These are words that are all-too-infrequently voiced.
Sincere encouragement can go a long way in helping someone stay the course. The
more specific you are, the better the results. "I remember when you got
through your slump last year and ended up winning the sales contest. I'm
willing to bet that you'll do even better this time."
3. Expect a Lot: We're often told not to
get our hopes up. We're encouraged to have realistic expectations. But
when it comes to helping others operate at their best, we sometimes have to
up-level our expectations. This can be taken to extremes, but there are many
times when a teacher, a parent or even a boss has required more of us than we
thought we were capable. And we've risen to the challenge which enabled us to
see further than before.
4. Tell the Truth: And tell it with
compassion. We often avoid telling the hard truth because we don't want to
upset anyone. We want to be nice. But telling the truth is a loving act.
You may be the only person who can or will say to another what needs to be
said. And you can confront someone without being combative.
5. Be a Role Model: One of the best ways we
influence is by our own actions. Who we are speaks much more loudly than what
we say. Don't think that people aren't watching you. They are. And they're
registering everything about you consciously and unconsciously. We
automatically emulate our role models. And we're all role models to someone so
let's be good ones.
6. Share Yourself: Too often, we miss the
value of sharing our failings. We don't want to be vulnerable so we hold back.
In doing so, we deprive others of our experience, our learning and our
humanity. When you share from your own experience, especially your failures,
you increase empathy, you're more approachable and you increase your
relatability to others.
7. Challenge Them: The word
"challenge" has some negative connotations. The meaning we're using
here is, "a test of one's abilities or resources in a demanding but
stimulating undertaking." We all need to be challenged from time to time.
Doing it for another is an art form. Go too far and it will backfire. Go too
easy and you will appear patronizing. Remind people of their commitment to
being their best and state your challenge. "I challenge you to overcome
these unimportant opinions and get on with the real task at hand, get the job
done, make the commitment, etc."
8. Ask Good Questions: A good therapist or coach
doesn't tell their clients what to do. They ask good questions in order for the
client to understand themselves better, to get clear on what the issue is and
from there to make good choices. You can do the same. By asking elegant
questions, you cause people to think and come up with solutions. They'll
appreciate it.
9. Acknowledge Them: You find what you're
looking for. If you're looking for the best in someone, you'll see it. If
you're looking for their failings, you'll see those. Catch people doing things
right and tell them. When we acknowledge the good deeds of others, they tend to
do more of them. Write a note. Send a card. Give them a call. Praise them in
front of others.
10. Spend Time With Them: We love what we give our
time to. By devoting your most precious resource (time) to another individual,
you're showing them that you truly value them and your relationship with them.
by Michael Angier -
download as PDF
All my best,
Your Ally in Good Health! 
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Invest time
in your relationships; it's what life is made of.
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INTEGRITY - Professional Ethics
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Remarks at Joint
Services Conference
on Professional Ethics
We study and we discuss ethical principles because it serves to
strengthen and validate our own inner value system...it gives direction to what I
call our moral compass. It is the understanding of ethics that becomes the foundation
upon which we can elaborately commit to inviolate principles. It becomes the
basis of what we are...of what we include in our character. Based on it, we
commit to doing what is right. We expect such commitment from our leaders. But
most importantly, we must demand it of ourselves.
Sound morals and ethical behavior cannot be established or created in
a day...a semester...or a year. They must be institutionalized within our character
over time...they must become a way of life. They go beyond our individual
services and beyond our ranks or positions; they cut to the heart and to the
soul of who we are and what we are and what we must be...men and women of
character. They arm us for the challenges to come and they impart to us a sense
of wholeness. They unite us in the calling we know as the profession of arms.
Of all the moral and ethical guideposts that we have been brought up
to recognize, the one that, for me, stands above the rest...the one that I have
kept in the forefront of my mind...is integrity. It is my ethical and personal
touchstone.
Integrity as we know it today, stands for soundness of moral
principle and character-uprightness-honesty. Yet there is more. Integrity is
also an ideal...a goal to strive for...and for a man or woman to "walk in
their integrity" is to require constant discipline and usage.
The word integrity itself is a martial word that comes to us from an
ancient Roman army tradition. During the time of the 12 Caesars, the Roman army
would conduct morning inspections. As the inspecting centurion would come in
front of each legionnaire, the soldier would strike with his right fist the
armor breastplate that covered his heart. The armor had to be strongest there
in order to protect the heart from the sword thrusts and from arrow strikes. As
the soldier struck his armor, he would shout "integritas"
(in-teg-ri-tas), which in Latin means material, wholeness, completeness, and
entirety. The inspecting centurion would listen closely for this
affirmation and also for the ring that well-kept armor would give off.
Satisfied that the armor was sound and that the soldier beneath it was
protected, he would then move on to the next man.
At about the same time, the praetorians or Imperial bodyguard were
ascending into power and influence. Drawn from the best "politically
correct" soldiers of the Legions, they received the finest equipment and
armor. They no longer had to shout "integritas" (in-teg-ri-tas) to
signify that their armor was sound. Instead, as they struck their breastplate,
they would shout "Hail Caesar," to signify that their heart belonged
to the Imperial personage-not to their unit-not to an institution-not to a code
of ideals. They armored themselves to serve the cause of a single man.
A century passed and the rift between the Legion and the imperial
bodyguard and its excesses grew larger. To signify the difference between the
two organizations, the legionnaire, upon striking his armor would no longer
shout "integritas," but instead would shout "Integer"
(in-te-ger). Integer (in-te-ger) means undiminished-complete- perfect.
It not only indicated that the armor was sound, it also indicated
that the soldier wearing the armor was of sound character. He was complete in
his integrity ...his heart was in the right place...his standards and morals were
high. He was not associated with the immoral conduct that was rapidly becoming
the signature of the praetorian guards.
The armor of integrity continued to serve the Legion well. For over
four centuries they held the line against the marauding Goths and Vandals. But
by 383 AD the social decline that infected the Republic and the praetorian
guard had its effects upon the Legion. As a 4th century Roman general wrote,
"When, because of negligence and laziness, parade ground drills were abandoned,
the customary armor began to feel heavy since the soldiers rarely, if ever,
wore it. Therefore, they first asked the emperor to set aside the breastplates
and mail and then the helmets. So our soldiers fought the Goths without any
protection for the heart and head and were often beaten by archers. Although
there were many disasters, which lead to the loss of great cities, no one tried
to restore the armor to the infantry. They took their armor off, and when the
armor came off, so too came their integrity."
It was only a matter of a few years until the Legion rotted from
within and was unable to hold the frontiers...the barbarians were at the gates.
Integrity...it is a combination of the words,
"integritas" (in-teg- ri-tas) and "integer" (in-te-ger). It
refers to the putting on of armor, of building a completeness...a wholeness...a
wholeness in character.
How appropriate that the word integrity is a derivative of two words
describing the character of a member of the profession of arms. The military
has a tradition of producing great leaders that possess the highest ethical
standards and integrity. It produces men and women of character...character that
allows them to deal ethically with the challenges of today and to make
conscious decisions about how they will approach tomorrow. However, as I
mentioned earlier, this is not done instantly. It requires that integrity
becomes a way of life...it must be woven into the very fabric of our soul. Just
as was true in the days of imperial Rome, you either walk in your integrity daily,
or you take off the armor of the "integer" (in-te-ger) and leave your
heart and soul exposed...open to attack.
My challenge to you is simple but often very difficult...wear your
armor of integrity...take full measure of its weight...find comfort in its protection...do
not become lax. And always, always, remember that no one can take your
integrity from you...you and only you can give it away!
by General Charles C. Krulak, USMC (RET.)
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Listen TODAY to Nanette Zumwalt
Original Show Date: August 24, 2009
LA Talk Radio
Answers For The Family
With Allen
Cardoza
This show was born out of the
desire to help guide parents and adolescent service industry professionals alike
to professional resources as they face critical moments with their children or
clients addressing critical issues such as:
Locating runaway teens
Family crisis interventions
Building self-esteem
Dealing with addictions
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Meet
Faith Strong!
Author of The Glories of Sobriety
Book
Signing
Saturday,
September 12th at 1:30pm.
The Latest Thing
1576 Newport Blvd
Costa Mesa, CA
92627
CAADAC 2009 Annual Conference
Moving Beyond Tolerance: Creating
a Multiculturally Competent Addiction Workforce."
October 1 - 4,
2009
Sacramento,
CA
Summit for Clinical Excellence
Advanced Clinical Training - Therapists & Counselors
October 1 - 4, 2009
San Diego, CA
La Ventana Treatment Programs
Food & Feelings Workshop for the Holidays
December 4 - 6, 2009
Ojai Retreat Center
Ojai, CA
SECAD 2010
February 21 - 24, 2010
Gaylord Opryland
Nashville, TN
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HP CPRA
SPOTLIGHT
(we keep our faces to ourselves)
Meet Laura C.
40, Female
Laura has maintained
18 years of continuous sobriety as an active member of a twelve step community.
She has participated in the 12 step affiliation Alcoholics Anonymous. Laura is
extremely active in both Alcoholics Anonymous and Cocaine Anonymous. She was
also a Child Development teacher for over 10 years. Laura has been with Hired
Power for a year and in that time she has completed many different assignments
and has become one of our most liked and requested PRA's.
Laura is
energetic with a very nurturing, calm, gentle personality combined with
strength and awareness for helping, guiding and mentoring clients through
recovery.
Laura enjoys
all indoor and outdoor activities. She does yoga, weights and loves cardio and
staying fit. Her other passion is cooking and enjoys reading and listening to
music.
In addition to her years of recovery experience Laura attended Touch Therapy Institute Encino to acquire Massage/Body Work therapy tools. She also has her degree in Child Development.
We are grateful to Laura for her dedication to recovery
and her ability to mentor others as part of the Hired Power team!!
Feel free to request Laura for you or your clients CPRA.
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