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September 5,2010
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As I was trying to decide what to write about in this month's newsletter, I started to think about all those things that hold us back from doing what we love to do. One of the major deterrents that came to mind was "fear of the unknown." This summer I had the opportunity to experience this firsthand. And as a result, I now have a deeper understanding of what it feels like to go through the process of facing your fears as you engage in something unfamiliar or unknown. 

Lois, my wife, and I love recreational bike riding, and while living in Ottawa we were fortunate enough to live beside the Rideau Canal which made bike riding very convenient. Since moving to Toronto we were challenged with finding a way that was relatively easy for us to enjoy one of our favourite pastimes. We tried loading our bikes on the rack on the back of our car and driving to a place that had good bike paths, but that somehow felt too onerous to do on a regular basis. So I suggested that we venture out into the residential area behind our condo to see if we could find a good bike route that we could access on a regular basis. I guess I could have consulted a map of the area, but being an explorer, I decided to just head out, weaving through the streets to see where we'd end up. I guess I have a reasonable sense of direction because, although the streets were not designed in a grid-like fashion, I was able to find a route that took us to Edwards Gardens one of our favourite parks in the city. On the way home, we had to renegotiate the streets, trying to remember the route that had taken us to this final destination. 

I truly felt like an explorer as we rode and rode sometimes taking detours in an attempt to retrace our route. I recall the feelings I had as we were riding without really knowing where we were going. There was a certain sense of trepidation and fear that I would get us lost, or lead us in the wrong direction. Being aware of these feelings was an interesting experience.

Now, having found our route and enjoying the whole experience, Lois suggested we do it again a few days later. So there we were trying to remember our original route paying great attention this time to where we riding. I'm pleased to say we did it, but that is not the point of my learning. The second attempt at finding our bike route felt slightly different than the first.  I didn't feel as anxious, because this time things were not quite as unknown. We repeated our bike route a few times in the next few days and each time it felt more comfortable as the route became more routine. All of my original emotions around fear and anxiousness of getting lost and not knowing where I was going had disappeared. Our route felt comfortable and familiar. Have you ever noticed that it often feels like it takes much longer to drive somewhere for the first time than it does on your way home, once you are familiar with the route? Perhaps it is our emotions that make the journey seem longer.

So, what I was privileged enough to learn this summer is how many of us react to the unknown and how the more we become familiar with things the more our feelings change. I guess there are some people who really love the feeling of doing something for the first time, but there are also many of us who find ourselves feeling a little less thrilled when we're forced out of our comfort zones. What was interesting for me was after I finally got comfortable with our bike route I thought to myself: "how would you feel about doing this all over again and finding another new route?" The answer came back fairly quickly: "not yet". The feeling of comfort in doing something that is familiar is very different than the feeling we get from moving through the unknown. However, if we choose to never challenge ourselves by embracing the unknown we deprive ourselves of so much in life.

My challenge to you this month is to find something that scares you, something that seems new or difficult, and then embrace the change while paying attention to your emotions along the way. It's OK if you feel anxious or nervous. Just watch your feelings and allow yourself to feel anything that comes up. I'm confident that once you get past the fear, you'll feel inspired and empowered.

 Love and Light,
Jeffrey Eisen
jeff@awakeningtheself.com

www.awakeningtheself.com

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                 The Courage to Stand Alone on the Road Less Travelled

I believe that one of the most difficult things to do is to stand alone and not follow the crowd. It must have been very difficult for the great inventors and innovators of our time. They must have been under such extreme pressure to conform to the beliefs and expectations of society, while trying to break free from these in order to accomplish something different and unheard of. Can you imagine how Christopher Columbus felt when he decided to set sail to find the New World? He was told he would perish off the end of the earth and that he was foolish for attempting such a careless feat. And yet here we are in Columbus's New World. His courage provided us with so much opportunity. And what about Thomas Edison when he was asked how it felt to have failed 10,000 times in trying to invent the light bulb. He turned this scepticism on its head when he responded: "I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that won't work." Of course, he went on to successfully invent the very light bulb which allows us to enjoy the luxury of light in the midst of darkness, today. 

I attended a Paul McCartney concert recently and it reminded me of the courage it took four young men from Liverpool, England to play music that was unheard of and scandalous at the time.  And, there we were sitting with thousands of other fans, both young and old, applauding the musical phenomena that came from having the courage to stand alone.

So much of our world today would not be as we know it, if it weren't for the courage of a few who chose to take the road less travelled. You would think, with all that has been accomplished as a result of this courage, more of us would feel comfortable taking risks in our own lives.

But, I have found that this is not the case. Despite all the progress that has been born from innovation, many of us are still too afraid to strike out our own path as Columbus did. Why do you think that is?

Fear is one of the most debilitating deterrents that prevents many people from going against the crowd. But do you think it is possible that there is more fear in the world now than there was in the days of Columbus, Edison, Galileo and Einstein? I don't think so. Our world has always been full of fear. Fear has been handed down from generation to generation for as long as man has existed. Yet some people have had the courage to overcome that fear and have gone on to invent, discover or innovate those things which we sometimes take for granted today. They rose above the naysayers and the fears of the day so they could move forward, sticking relentlessly to their beliefs. They had the courage to stand alone and as a result, we benefitted.

Are those courageous innovators and inventors really any different from you and me? Did they have some God-given talent or skill that we do not have? Or were they simply more brave; less afraid to take a risk? What would your life be like if you were willing to follow your own dreams and aspirations, rather than keeping your head down and following the crowd? What wonderful things would you bring to our world if you let go of your fears? Take some time to reflect on what it would be like to have the courage that Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela and Mahatma Ghandi had. It was Mandela who said: "I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear." Is it possible that deep down we are all brave and courageous; that we have the capacity to do great things. I truly believe so.

While it is much easier to be a follower rather than a leader, choosing to be a leader feels much more rewarding in the end. We all have the capacity to lead if we choose to do so. In order to join the ranks of Columbus and Edison we must first let go of the opinions and judgements of others. Be prepared to stick to your own beliefs no matter what others say. Then, we must find within us the faith and trust needed to not give up. Even the possibility of falling off the end of the earth did not keep Columbus from setting sail to find the New World. Edison too demonstrated determination and faith, by trying thousands of times to accomplish what he'd set out to do.

I truly believe that the courage to stand alone on the road less travelled rarely comes from our mind, but instead from some place deep within. Often those who have had the courage to stand alone have done things that were totally contrary to accepted beliefs and even logic itself. And yet they persevered with great resolve, always believing strongly in what they were doing. I am sure many of them did have doubts along the way, as most of us do, but they did not allow any trepidation to get in their way. They forged ahead as something deep within spurred them on. I truly believe we all possess that inner knowing, drive or passion. If only we could connect to that part of ourselves and, as Mandela said, "conquered the fear that holds us back," I'm sure it would be much more crowded on the road less travelled.

When you do connect with your inner passion you will find that what you are doing may take effort, but it will not feel onerous or hard. You do it because you want to, not because you have to. There is something that drives you onward despite the obstacles that get in your way. How else could Edison have tried so many different ways to invent the light bulb before achieving success?  That inner passion is the deep sense of knowing that often transcends our logical mind. It is what will allow us to remain diligently focused on what we believe in and not give up until we succeed. But so many people don't ever find that inner spark, or if they do they ignore it or let their mind talk them out of doing something about it. And, as Wayne Dyer says: "they die with their music still in them." Don't be one of those people. Find your music and play it loudly to the world.

Are you ready to muster the courage to stand alone and move forward toward what you know is right for you? Are you ready to ignore anyone who says: "you're crazy," "you'll never do that," "you don't have what it takes," "what makes you think you can succeed where others have failed," "you're not smart enough to do that," or "that's never been done before"? Where would we be if the great innovators, discoverers and inventors would have listened to the naysayers and fear-mongers? What would we be living without today, if it wasn't for the few who had the courage to stand alone on the road less traveled? How many amazing and unthinkable things could be accomplished if more of us had the courage to join them on that road?


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One of the falls on the trails at High Falls Resort in Bracebridge, On.
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 Inspirational Quotations
 
"One man with courage is a majority." Thomas Jefferson

"Hope lies in dreams, in imagination, and in the courage of those who dare to make dreams into reality."  Jonas Salk

"Any intelligent fool can make things bigger and more complex... It takes a touch of genius - and a lot of courage to move in the opposite direction." Albert Einstein

"All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them." Walt Disney
 
"We must build dikes of courage to hold back the flood of fear." Martin Luther King, Jr.