|  | Forgiveness is a Gift
Do you hold grudges?
Try unsuccessfully to "forgive and forget?"
Feel if you forgive you are dishonoring a transgression?
Forgiveness is a tough subject for most of us. Not forgiving someone often is a greater burden to us than them. Yet most of us have a problem in letting things go. Something that has helped me is an idea from Clarissa  Pinkola Estes in her book, Women Who Run with the Wolves. Estes suggests that forgiveness rarely comes at the 100 percent level. She believes that if we can muster up 50 percent forgiveness that we are doing very well . Once we begin forgiving even a small percent, we seem to be able to increase our forgiving as time goes by. Self care is about relieving yourself of burdens. If you know you are holding a grudge, try releasing some of that negative energy percentage point by percentage point.
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