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Be Careful What You Say
Did you ever stop to think that what your mouth says your ears hear? It sounds obvious but it is important to realize that what we say can have an impact on what we think or feel. For example, when you make a mistake, goof up, or say something you wish you hadn't said, have you ever blurted out...?
"I'm stupid!"  "What an idiot I am!" "I hate my big mouth!"
Or maybe you've heard yourself say:
"I can't."
"I'm not good enough."
"Why would anyone like a dummy like me?"
When you say these negative things about yourself your ears hear the words and your brain reacts to their negativity. It doesn't stop to weigh the truth of the statement. It takes it at face value. It makes you feel worse.
While at times in your life you may have, or even now, believe some of those negative descriptions of yourself, you don't have to re-enforce them. The next time you find yourself being nasty to yourself, try to stop yourself and substitute something more kind like:
"Wish I hadn't done that."
"Everyone makes mistakes."
"Next time I'll do better."
Be careful what you say, you just may believe it!
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New Group Forming for Step-Mothers
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Are you a step-mom? Are you contemplating becoming one? Do you know someone who is? 
Whether we call them blended families, bonus families, or step families...being in a relationship with someone who has children born or adopted to another mother can provide joys and challenges. What it surely brings is complexity.
Rather than join a self-help or support group for step-mothers, you may be interested in group therapy. This group will be facilitated by Karen Rowinsky, a psychotherapist, social worker, and step-mother. Group therapy offers the benefit to learn from others along with the help of an experienced family therapist. The group can also offer you: - A safe place to share concerns with others that have "been there" too
- Proven strategies to help you make your role more positive for you, your partner, and the children or adult children
- Help in setting boundaries with your partner and kids (both younger and adult)
- Ways to deal with the challenges of "yours, mine, and our" kids
- Time to share feelings whether they be positive or negative
- Communication tactics to deal with the children's mother
- An economical way to obtain professional counseling
Call Karen at 913-663-3511 if you would like to learn more. Please pass this on to any other step-mothers you know. |
