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Just because somebody says something to you or about you does not make it true. Just because someone assigns you a label, 'good girl', 'troublemaker', 'the successful one'; does not make that label the truth.  Even the labels you assign to yourself are not necessarily true.

Great, then how are you supposed to know the truth behind all of the words? Well part of the how is using doubt, being skeptical.  The other part is using doubt and listening together. It works like this; first listen to what people are saying to you. Then use doubt to go beyond the words. That means, don't take the words at face value, it does not mean tell your friends, family and co-workers that you think they are liars. Listen carefully to what is being said and how it is being said. What story is really being told? Everyone has a story, that story is real to them. It may not be real to you and it may not describe the real you. Let's look at an example.

You have a team member who tells you that you are inflexible. You could believe them and assume the label of inflexible. You could use skepticism and doubt them and decide that they are wrong and that you are not inflexible. Or you could pay attention, listen to them without judging and then decide, are you inflexible? What is their story? Is it the story of a team member who wants you to change a deadline because they are running late? Is it the story of someone who has been told that they are inflexible and for some reason they think you are alike? Maybe it is the story of someone who truly cares about you and thinks they see inflexibility in you and they are concerned.

Only you can listen carefully to every message you receive and use skepticism to decide if what you hear is really the truth. Listen without judgment, just listen and work to objectively understand that each person is simply telling you their part of a story. You decide what to do with the story; truthfully you don't have to do anything at all. Sometimes all you need to do is listen and let it go. You don't have to build a story based on something that seems false; you don't have to build a story at all.

1) What Agreements are You Making with Yourself? - One of the sources of your inner peace is your own self awareness and self acceptance. This is the kind of peace that allows you to handle conflict and other difficult situations in the workplace and beyond. It is the inner peace you create that allows you to bring peace to the outside world.

A great way to work on this is to step back and think, 'What agreements have I made with myself?' Well this eBook and coachinar were created just for you as my gift to you to help you decide who you are and how you want to be. Follow this link and help yourself to this gift or enter this url http://www.margaretmeloni.com/agreetopeace.html into your browser.

2) Why you Avoid YOUR Resolutions and What to Do About It - New Year's resolutions are about change and sometimes change is difficult. Let's explore some of the reason you make and then avoid (or don't keep) those resolutions. Read about it by clicking this link or by typing http://blog.melonicoaching.com/?p=768 into your browser.