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1) Do Less - Right away, you might think; "So this article was written by a crazy person, nice." This is the time of year of endless to-do lists and events and all kinds of opportunities to drive yourself nuts. You don't have to accept every invitation that comes your way. If you think you have to go to an event because you only see the people involved once a year - doesn't that already tell you something? Your going to wear yourself out for someone you only see once a year? Why don't you try to see them some other time during the year?

Remove unnecessary chores from your list. Save yourself at least a night or two each week where you can go home and hibernate.

You don't have to bake every cookie from scratch; you don't have to make every gift look like it was professionally wrapped. You don't need the perfect wreath or tree. You do need your health and your sanity.


2) Expect Less - Please stop thinking that if you have the perfect dress or suit for the holiday party that your life will be perfect. Don't expect your partner to turn into the man or woman of your dreams because you bought them the perfect present. Stop expecting others to give you the perfect present.

So many people enter into the holiday season with such high expectations. The truth is that if you and your family do not get along during the rest of the year, the holiday spirit will not magically cure your relationships. The time to work on your relationships is throughout the year.

Try entering the season with almost no expectations and lot's of positive thoughts, which leads us to....

3) Smile More - Smile at everyone you see. They might smile back, they might not. It does not matter. Smile when you don't feel like smiling. Sooner or later the smile will extend from your mouth to your soul.

Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Don't beat yourself up if you have an unhappy or negative thought, just note the thought and redirect yourself. It is absolutely impossible for you to have a bad thought and a good thought at the same time, so push the bad thoughts away and bring in the good!

4) Breathe More - If you start to feel tired and overwhelmed, don't push yourself to peddle faster. Don't head for the caffeine and the sugar. Stop and breathe. The world will not come to an end if you just take a break. Sit still and breathe. You can do this in your car, at your desk, on a bench in the mall, in a restaurant. Don't worry about your thoughts, just inhale and then exhale. Do this when you feel stress or anger or negativity creeping in. You will be amazed at how a five to ten minute break can center you and reenergize you.

5) Give the Gift of Compassion - You know that person who cut you off in line yesterday at the store? What if they were so upset because they just received a layoff notice and all they could think about is, "Will I be able to pay my rent come January 1st?" 

Well maybe.... But then you think no they knew what they were doing. They looked right at me and pushed their cart right in front of mine. OK. Isn't it unfortunate that for whatever reason they felt the need to cut you off? Think about how that type of thought pattern and behavior bleeds into the rest of their life, you are not witnessing a truly happy person. You are seeing someone who is under duress and who alienates other people.

When you are compassionate toward others, you look at them and you feel sympathy toward them.  Compassion allows you to listen to your co-worker complaining about everyone under the sun without becoming upset. Instead you think something like, "Wow, I am sad that they only way in which she can communicate with the rest of us, is to spout complaints. It is too bad that she is not a happier person."

This is a very difficult time of year for many people. Some people are haunted by the ghosts of holidays past; others are lonely or depressed. You don't really know the story. You don't need to. Just dig deep and replace anger and annoyance and frustration with compassion. Circling back to what we discussed under 'Smile More'; you cannot have a bad thought and a good thought at the same time. Bad thoughts do not lead you to a peaceful enjoyable day, good thoughts do. So if at first you practice compassion just to give yourself a better experience, that's OK, it counts.