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2010
Newsletter
Topics:
Love - Feb
Let Go - March
Live - April
Laugh - May
Learn - June
Lead - July
Look - August
Listen - Sept
Law - Oct
Legacy - Nov
Leap! - Dec
A series of little lessons for your
Journey to Success
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Maryanne's Presentations
"Take the Elevator to Success"
April 13, 2010
Brandywine, DE
"How Attitude Affects Health, Wealth, and Happiness"
March, 2010
Leesburg, VA |
Testimonials
For Maryanne's Work:
"Maryanne is one of the most creative people I know. During our association of more than 15 years, she has acted (at different times) as a training provider, workshop participant, and motivational consultant. Her specialty is customizing material to accommodate a variety of learning styles, personality types, and intellectual interests, making her audience WANT to learn. Her training style is nurturing, supportive, and encouraging. She has a sharp sense of humor and clearly loves what she does."
Susan Neff,
Test Developer at National Institute for Certification in Engineering Technologies
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Prayer for Letting Go
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I asked God for strength, that I might achieve,
I was made weak, that I might learn humbly to obey.
I asked God for health, that I might do greater things,
I was given infirmity, that I might do better things.
I asked for riches, that I might be happy,
I was given poverty, that I might be wise.
I asked for power, that I might have the praise of men,
I was given weakness, that I might feel the need of God.
I asked for all things, that I might enjoy life,
I was given life, that I might enjoy all things.
I got nothing that I asked for
- but everything I had hoped for.
Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers were answered.
I am among men, most richly blessed.
Found on the body of a Southern soldier
1861-1865
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| Greetings!
It seems like my "Let Go" topic resonates with many of us! I've received a number of emails from friends and contacts who tell me that they want to Let Go, but just don't know how to begin. Having been stuck in that awful position for years, I've decided to put out a special mid-month edition devoted to the subject of blasting the mind monsters who seem to come out of nowhere and try their hardest to sabotage our success.
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How to Let Go of Limiting Thoughts and beliefs:
Most of us struggle with negative thoughts and beliefs, but with practice we can learn to overcome these habituated thoughts so that we can achieve the happiness and success that is our birthright.
How to Challenge Your Thoughts:
I've tried for years to drop thoughts that dragged me down. But they always returned, sometimes stronger than ever, and when I least expected it. A few years ago, I found a process of inquiry by Byron Katie called "The Work" It is a simple but profound four step process and you can go to her website: www.thework.com and get worksheets which will help you use the process to rid yourself of your painful thoughts.
In a nutshell the process works this way:
State your troubling thought. An example might be "my boss doesn't like me". Now ask yourself these questions:
1) Is it true?2) Can you absolutely know that it's true?
3) How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4) Who would you be without the thought? Take your time working through each step, and record the pain associated with holding onto your troubling thought and the relief associated with letting go.
Now, turn the troubling thought around: "My boss should like me" turns around to:
He shouldn't like me. (This is reality.)
I should like my boss.
I should like myself.
Here's another example from Katie's website:
"Paul shouldn't shout at
me" turns around to:
Paul should shout at me. (Obviously: In reality, he does sometimes.
Am I listening?)
I shouldn't shout at Paul.
I shouldn't shout at me.
(In my head, am I playing over and over again Paul's shouting? Who's more
merciful, Paul who shouted once, or me who replayed it a 100 times?)
When you first start using this process, I highly recommend that you download the worksheets and write out your troubling thoughts and the turnarounds. The writing helps to crystallize your thoughts and your pain so that you can release it.
Another way to learn to let go is to recognize the high price we pay for holding onto troubling thoughts. A big worry tormenting Baby Boomers these days is the concern "I need more money for my retirement". I want to share a very personal story about the price one person paid for holding onto this thought of torture. Nineteen years ago I went to work for an incredible, vivacious, and extremely talented woman named Deborah. I watched her push herself to work an endless number of hours per week, stress herself out over work related issues, obsess over material management issues, to the point that she used food, alcohol and cigarettes to release her tensions at night and massive amounts of caffeine to get going again the next day. Our work and personal relationship deepened and she taught me many important things, like how to control inventory in a fast-paced automotive environment, and to drink Italian Margaritas. I taught her how to finesse her memos and that it was okay to go out to lunch in the middle of the week. Over the years and as we grew closer, she confided her fears of running out of money when she retired. She grew up in a poor family and never wanted to be poor again, so she drove herself to make the money she was sure she would need for her old age. When she moved to Texas and I moved to Virginia we burned up the telephone lines and remained best friends.
Two and a half years ago, on a beautiful July morning, she called and announced in her breezy style that she had been in bed for a week with excruciating stomach pains. As she casually described her doctor's course of treatment, every nerve in my body went on alert. This was the same person who never even allowed herself time for a cold or headache! Her pain continued and three weeks later she was hospitalized and diagnosed with advanced colon and liver cancer. Three weeks after that, she passed away. I still miss her laugh, her blond jokes, and her imitation of bacon frying. I hate that we won't grow old sipping margaritas by the sea like she promised. I really hate that this person who gave so much to others traded her todays for worries over her tomorrows, assuming that the tomorrows were a given. The experience left me committed to living in the present and to helping others do the same.
Let me know if this information helps you, and please remember that the time has come for you to learn to just Let GO!
Maryanne
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