... can't you help with this project?  

... don't you want to join us?  

... aren't you doing it this year?  

... didn't you ______? You always do!  

... won't you try this treat ... drink this?

 
This may be reverting back to the school yard, but mind your own beez-wax!  

 

Keep in mind that just because someone feels comfortable and within their rights to ask a question does not mean you are obligated to answer it! Your reasons are your own and you are entitled to keep them to yourself. 

 

Be prepared with a few responses, such as: 

 

1.  I have other commitments / plans for that time.

2.  I'm taking a break and trying new things this year.

3.  I'm doing just fine, thank you!

 

Say with a smile, a thank you/no thank you, if needed, and repeat as necessary. For example:

 

"What other plans?" ...

• "Some other things on my schedule."
• "Some things I committed to a while ago."

Close the conversation to avoid further discussion: "Thank you for thinking of me. I hope you have a wonderful time / enjoy that cookie" etc.

   

It doesn't matter if your plans include curling up with a book for the evening, spending time with family, or cleaning the kitchen floor. You are choosing not to gorge yourself on holiday treats because you are dieting. You are avoiding alcohol because drinking issues run in your family or you simply don't care for the taste. They are your reasons and you do not need to justify or explain them to anyone.

  

Take some of the pressure off of yourself. If you do not feel like or want to do something this holiday season, don't! Keeping these tips in mind, no one should know enough to argue with your reasons!

PS.  This goes for the rest of the year as well!