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Half Time
We are halfway through football season, and as coaches' wives, we are all hopeful for victories ahead. For some of us, it will not be a winning season, and things aren't what we dreamed for our husbands. Celebrating with Margaret Moore in last month's newsletter, we rejoiced in her 46 years of standing beside her husband Jerry. When things are going well, we forget all the losses that were part of the building process. It's during those down times that our loyal support is most needed and treasured. Keep up your faith, in your husband and in the Lord!
"The most meaningless statistic in football is the halftime score." --Anonymous
"Is anything impossible for the Lord?" (said of Sarah having a baby at age 90) --Genesis 18:14 NLT
"When the train goes through a tunnel and world gets dark, do you jump out? Of course not. You sit still and trust the engineer to get you through." --Corrie ten Boom |
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Your Mother-in-law
Of course you love her! 
In my survey for The Coach's Wife, I heard from many wives who said they see more of their in-laws in the fall with weekly games and the holidays. The mother of a coach was also the mother of a star player and his most avid fan. For many coaches' wives, that just means the coach has two cheerleaders! When we think of our mother-in-laws, some of us have warm and loving feelings, and others feel a jolt of tension. Use the 80/20 rule: you like 80% of things about your mother-in-law, so you can handle the other 20%. It's choosing to believe the best. And you can try what my friend Janet taught me to do with extended family: mentally remove yourself from the scene and pretend you are in a movie. Suddenly the things that drive you crazy become funny!
Our extended families are still adjusting to last minute Thanksgiving plans & our NEVER traveling during the fall (on our part that is...they can come see us all they want) but we still have a pretty close relationship with both sides. --TX wife
My husband's parents are hugely involved in his life/career. They never miss a game (and they have always lived in excess of 2 hours away). It is a very competitive atmosphere or at least seems to be. I feel very conflicted because I care deeply for them, but get tired of their constant bombardment on our lives. It is not just there attendance, but their constant need to call attention to who they are...i.e. "Hi, I am so and so and the head coach's mom" etc. It is about the only thing my husband and I have argued about in our 7 year marriage. --OK wife
I have been blessed by my mother-in-law, Joan. My husband George is a baseball coach and we married very young. Joan told George, "Rody needs to be a person, too. You are busy getting your career underway, focused on baseball, but remember, Rody needs her goals and dreams to be realized too!" --CA wife |
Everyone Loves to Visit the Coach's Home
 I was at our local library the other day and saw our librarian Bonnie Case. Eight years ago I lived on the same block with Bonnie and I hosted a Christmas Gathering at our home. A friend had loaned me a copy of the book A Cup of Christmas Tea by Tom Hegg to read at the event. About a week later, Bonnie brought me a gift--my own copy of the book. It is a lovely holiday reminder of taking time for elderly relatives, written in gentle verse. Have you ever thought of hosting such a gathering for your neighbors?
Coaches are not the most social creatures-this is something you can easily do for the ladies on your block, and everyone loves to visit the home of the coach! You will be surprised how many will come. It is such a simple concept- gathering in early December, sharing some cookies and punch, reading A Cup of Christmas Tea, and asking a friend to share the gospel- Christmas is the perfect setting!
If the idea appeals to you, look at your calendar before it gets filled in. I've done this twice and each time it has blessed all of us. Thanksgiving weekend is a nice time to leave the men watching football on TV (and snoozing), stroll the block and deliver the invitations. |
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A Workbook for Coaches' Wives
Spa For the Soul: Six Weeks of Biblical Beauty Treatments for Coaches' Wives
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