Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy, but this is not accurate. You make yourself unhappy    -  Wayne Dyer

 

So you want to make changes to your life, huh? How do you see that happening? The mind has te amazing capability of seeing what could be, and we usually have pictures in our mind of what we need or want in order to be satisfied. Imagine you are talking on phone to someone you have never met. Your mind will most likely begin to conjure up an image of the person at the end of the phone. In fact it is almost impossible to have such a conversation without holding some kind of image of the other person in your mind.

 

Who is in the pictures  in your mind when you visualize the change you want to make?

  

I know someone who grew up in the rural area, and who, in her own words, 'always' participated in retail promotions, picturing herself the winner of the grand prize. She would spend hard earned money to mail off entries, and then go around for weeks talking about how she was going to win a 'pick up', or a TV set, or a whole lot of money. Eventually it would dawn on her that she was not a winner, and she let go of that image, until the next one.

 

But that is not the story.

 

What I find compelling is that eventually she understood that promotional winnings would not get her what she wanted, which was to pass her exams well enough to go to university and study for a 'serious' profession.

 

"The day I realized that I started acting differently to realise my dream," she says.

 

She started seeing herself as the solution provider in the picture in her mind. She no longer played the role of victim, waiting to be rescued by some kind soul (usually a more successful relative!). Today she looks back on her hopeless dependency on promotions and laughs.

 

When you think about fulfilling your need or want,  making changes to your life, who's in the picture in your mind? If that person is not you, think again. You are counting on the wrong person.