Idea to Action quote: Not the maker of plans and promises, but rather the one who offers faithful service in small matters. This is the person who is most likely to achieve what is good and lasting - J Wolfgang von Goethe.
You have heard the stories, harambees raising impressive amounts of money, only it is pledges never honoured. Or someone promises to call at a certain time, and you wait and wait, and the call never comes. Many a time there is a reason, except the 'promiser' didn't let you know. They take goods on credit and don't pay. They promise children gifts and outings and don't show up.
If you ask me, keeping your word is one of those things that, simply, matters.
So if you have been passed over for a promotion, again, or there was an uncomfortable silence when you got up to speak about what you will do to help the late so and so's family, it may be because everybody knows you 'just talk'. They don't take you seriously. They cannot depend on you.
If you are doing this, take some time to reflect on what drives you to make promises you cannot or will not keep. And if you are struggling to stop making promises you cannot keep, it is time to simply stop making them, and to reflect on the need you are looking to satisfy by making all those grand promises you have no intention of keeping. Think about the damage you cause when they come to no good.
How about just doing what you can in the moment, rather than making a pledge for later?
Some ways to keep your word:
- Accept and believe in yourself. It will help you be realistic about what you can and cannot do.
- Respect your promise. Take your words seriously and honour them with action.
- Don't make a promise to get someone off your back. Rather let them know and respect your boundaries.
- Keep track of your promises. That way you eliminate forgetting as a reason for not keeping your word.
If you cannot do it as promised, be proactive in letting the other person know, and offer an alternative or back out politely.
And the person you promise isn't always someone else. Many a time we let ourselves down. So start by being true to yourself.
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