To read part one of this two-part discussion, click here: Last Month's Newsletter
First, more about fear...
The thing to remember about fear and freedom is that feelings attract. That's what the Law of Attraction is about. Your thoughts and beliefs create feelings, and feelings create your reality. So, if you feel freedom (or love, joy, gratitude, and the like), you will attract things that will create more of the same.
On the other hand, if you feel fear, you will draw to you the very thing you fear! It is a spiritual truth: you will continue to experience whatever it is you fear until you do not fear it anymore. This is because we are wired for bliss, joy and freedom. If we're not there yet, we have to grow out of the things that are in the way. In other words, we have to face the things we fear until we are strong enough to move beyond them.
This is especially true in relationships. Common relationship fears are of:
- being rejected
- being abandoned
- being controlled
- not measuring up, not being good enough
- being a failure
- not being accepted or valued
- being "found out" as damaged or not lovable
Many people have at least one of these fears. The goal of overcoming them is to know yourself so well and so deeply that you love and accept all of you all of the time. Then, when you are in that powerful place, you will not be afraid of what someone else thinks, says, feels or does as it regards you. Bobby Drinnon calls that being bazooka-proof.
Being Bazooka-Proof is about as free as one human being can get: total and complete freedom, confidence, solidity of character, full self-realization, individuation, and an inner peace that can't be shaken.
This state of being comes from the Higher Self, that part of us that knows who we are, our purpose and our place in the world. It is the part that is connected with Spirit/Divinity/God, whatever you call that power greater than our human selves. It is a place of knowing and of true faith.
In BP-land, we stay calm and solid, no matter what happens in life. We are not dependent on others' acceptance, approval, moods, or behavior. We are not even impacted by our own negative thoughts and bad feelings. In fact, we hardly have them.
When BP, we do the right thing - even if we don't feel like it, even if it hurts, and no matter the consequences. We don't worry about things that are beyond our control, and we live in a state of detachment - not attached to outcomes, people, places or things. We thrive amidst the craziness and unrest that surrounds us. We are not controlled by fear, shame, guilt, obligation, or other such influences. We are free to live life on life's terms.
Two perfect stories of what it is to be Bazooka-Proof are found in Eckhart Tolle's book, A New Earth. "Is that so" can be found on p199 and "I don't mind what happens" is on p198. Highly recommended reading.
Becoming Bazooka-Proof is a process that requires awareness, persistence and determination. I hope you will choose to seek it for yourself.
I offer a Spiritual Self Assessment for those who want to know where they are on the path, how close they are to Bazooka-Proof. If you're interested, contact me.