Have you ever seen a TV show called the Dog Whisperer? Even if you don't own a dog, and especially if you do, it's a great program. Cesar Millan, dog training expert and star of the show, doesn't just work with dogs, he teaches the owners of those dogs how to be a successful pack leader. His motto is "I rehabilitate dogs. I train people." It's all about creating the ideal owner-pet relationship.
Cesar's key messages are:
- We all communicate energetically
- In order to be leader of the pack, you must maintain a calm assertive energy.
I think this training is important and applicable to all of us, not just the dog owners, which is why I am making that the subject of this month's newsletter. Staying calm assertive helps you build better, stronger, longer-lasting connections with your "pack". In other words, you'll have a much better time in your relationships.
Energetic Communication
It's more and more common to hear about human energy as it relates to communication and the Law of Attraction. Our emotions and thoughts create a vibrational energy that is tangible, even if we're not aware of it. Whether you're aware of it or not, we "read" each other just like the dogs in Cesar's shows "read" their human companions, and we react to what we're sensing. We may not be conscious of the energy we're emitting, or of the energy we're receiving from other people, but we understand it nonetheless. We "get" each other's "vibes", so to speak.
Energy Rules. People who are most effective in their relationships (and therefore in life!) are those who are able to manage their own vibes and who know themselves well enough to read the vibes of others. Truly managing your vibes means staying calm assertive, as Cesar trains his dog owners to do.
Calm Assertive
Calm Assertive is a very powerful energetic space. Take a good, hard look at yourself. How much of your state of mind, your heart space, and your life is lived in that calm assertive place? How much of it is lived somewhere else?
To deepen our understanding of this state, let's look at what each of these words mean:
Calm - a state of tranquility, peace, harmony, and balance.
Assertive - characterized by boldness and confidence, the act of stating with certainty, without need for proof or regard for evidence.
Do these resemble you in any way - - - or not? Chances are, you are able to get to this state of being, and you go there from time to time. The question is, how often?
Obviously, whenever you're irritable, angry, sad, fearful, grieving, yearning, stressed or resistant, you're not in a calm assertive place. Being overly excited, amped up or nervous isn't calm assertive, either. Cesar calls these "weakened states". They don't produce a strong, cooperative pack of dogs, and they don't help human relationships either. Remember, like energy attracts like energy, which basically means you reap what you sow.
Want to know what energy you're putting out? Look at what you're getting back. Your "pack" and your life experiences will show you what you need to know.
How to get there?
First and most important: Do what feels good to you. Reenergize, replenish your soul; surround yourself with things you love, people you love and focus on doing the things you enjoy. If you don't know what that is, try making a list of things that bother you or cause you stress, and then look at that list to see what you can change or eliminate. When you get rid of those negative influences, you'll then have the space to explore the things you do want in your life, to determine what it is that you need to sustain a calm, happy space.
Other things to consider doing:
- Build your confidence levels - you can't be truly assertive if you're not truly confident.
- Maintain a spiritual practice - Who is your God? How connected are you? Prayer and meditation are great ways to manage your energetic vibes.
- Get supported - humans are not meant to live life in a vacuum. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and want the best for you. Learn to receive their positive energy, and let them help you stay calm and confident.
- Keep growing - as you become increasingly self-aware, you'll find more ways to be happy and self-assured, your relationships will be more fulfilling and your life will reflect.
These days, a calm assertive energy can be a difficult thing to maintain. We are constantly challenged with things like traffic, stressful jobs, difficult co-workers, families to care for, financial worries, weather disturbances, noise pollution, air pollution, electropollution - - - the list goes on and on. The key is to get to a place within yourself that's OK no matter what happens outside of you, and to find the best ways to get back to that place when things get out of balance.
Stay cool!
Patty
