March 2006 Relationship Concepts
APPEALING - Part #4
Concept
 
The next aspect of APPEALING is so important it warrants its own newsletter. It’s Integrity. The more I explore life, love, success and spirituality, the more I realize that this aspect provides the fertile soil that allows your dreams to grow. Without it, you don’t get very far – at least not in an authentic, life-affirming way.

  • Appearance
  • Personality
  • Passion
  • Essence
  • Able to receive
  • Lives values
  • INTEGRITY
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Discussion
 
The dictionary defines Integrity as: adherence to a code, an unimpaired condition, the state of being whole and complete. And in love and life, what does this mean?

On a very basic level, it means you can be trusted to do what you say you’re going to do. You show up on time, tell the truth, pay your bills, do the best you can, take care of yourself and others. You live according to your standards and values. Bottom line, your life works.

On a deeper level, Integrity is about honoring -- honoring and understanding that what you think, feel, say and do has an impact on your life and on the lives of everyone (and everything) around you. Respect for the fact that you are the creator of your results and that your word is the most important asset you have. It is a mindfulness to boundaries, details, what’s working and not working, so that movement is always forward and intentionally toward the state of being “whole and complete”.

One thing to consider is that Integrity is rarely 100% attainable. Just like housework, there’s no way to ever really get ahead. At best, you’re just maintaining order. But that’s ok, because in a paradoxical sort of way, you have integrity if you are managing your integrity. The intention begets the result.

Coaching
 
This concept is best understood when explored in real time. Here are some ways to do just that.
  • House, car, office are clean– clutter in your environment equals clutter in your mind. It zaps energy and attention, whether you realize it or not.
  • Checkbook is balanced, finances are handled.
  • Projects are finished or headed that way (Be honest – saying “I’m working on it” when you haven’t touched it for months doesn’t qualify.).
  • Health is managed to the best of your ability.
  • Your relationships are “complete” (no withholding, no dishonesty, no blaming, everything has been said, love is present, no gossiping).
  • Responsibility-is-you – keep returning to yourself as the source of your results (problems, solutions, failures and successes).
Parting Thought
 
I like to describe Integrity like this: Every out-of- integrity item in your life is like throwing an anchor overboard and wondering why you’re not getting anywhere. Managing your Integrity is like lifting those anchors out of the water and sailing away full-speed ahead! Now wouldn’t that be APPEALING!?!
Ask the Coach
 
QUESTIONS? COMMENTS? Feel free to call or email me about this or any other relationship concept. 770- 730-9896 or patty@pfcoaching.com
Upcoming Events
  Thought you'd want to know:

PATHWAYS TO SOULMATE (Success through conscious courtship)
A workshop for men and women who want better relationship results and more positive dating experiences. With coinstructor, Ken Jacobsen. Next class - Three segments: Saturday 4/1, Wednesday 4/5 and Wednesday 4/12.

SOLO TO SOULMATE (How to find the love of your life!)
A workshop for single women who are ready to create the right relationship with the right man. You don't have to be single any more! Next class - Three Wednesdays, May 3, 10, and 17.

Other workshops coming in March and April:
How to Become a Relationship Magnet
Be more APPEALING to the opposite sex so that you can attract a relationship into your life. Hosted by the Phoenix & Dragon Bookstore on April 8
Creating Love that Lasts
Five ways to create the possibility of happily ever after right now! Hosted by the Marcus Jewish Community Center on March 23.
Dating Dynamics
New perspectives for improving your dating results... and experience! Colead: Ken Jacobsen. Hosted by Upscale Singles on April 2.
Top 5 Dating Dont's
Get your relationship off to a good start. Hosted by Nature's Break, Sandy Springs on April 13.

ATLANTA BACHELOR
I am a Contributing Editor (relationship department, of course) for the new Atlanta Bachelor magazine! Look for my article in the debut issue coming out this month. www.atlbachelor.com

Relationship Radio
 
Listen in, web in, call in to my radio show every Thursday at 5pm on AM 1620, Radio Sandy Springs. Upcoming topics include:
  • 3/16 - The Flirting School, Steven Kane and Adela Raffa
  • 3/23 - Atlanta Bachelor, Dennis Hogaboom
  • 3/30 - The Future of Love, Ken Jacobsen
  • 4/6 - Atlanta Dating Services, The Right One, 8 at 8
  • 4/13 - Becoming a Couple, Growing as Couple, Kay and Joel Rachelson
  • 4/20 - Radical Forgiveness, Colin Tipping
 

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