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The fourth and final Pillar for a powerful relationship
foundation is READINESS.
The Miriam-Webster dictionary describes the word READY to mean: Life these days looks very different than that of prior generations. READINESS back then meant young and single, and the final goal was almost always to get married and have children. Now, we have more choices of when, why and how to do relationships than they ever did. And our standards have changed, so it takes more to have a successful relationship today. Therefore, it takes more to be READY. |
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One of the biggest misconceptions I come across
these days is the confusion between wanting a
relationship and being READY for one. Many
people believe that because they long for romance
and love, or because they feel lonely for a
companion, that means they’re READY for it.
Not so. Quite often it means the exact opposite.
Let’s look at an example. One common experience during single life is that of feeling lonely. Everyone who is single is bound to have a bout of loneliness from time to time. However, when this feeling exists as an ongoing condition, sort of like running a low- grade fever, it’s an indication that one is not READY for relationship. Usually, this kind of loneliness is a signal that there are unmet needs, unresolved experiences from the past, or places inside where there’s a lack of confidence or an underlying belief that one is not deserving, all of which are barriers to love. And even if a relationship were to show up, chances are the loneliness would still persist. Whether you are in a relationship or not, this is a signal to look within, to get complete, to nurture yourself and to remove the roadblocks that either keep love away or draw in the wrong people and have relationships not work out. When you’re READY for a healthy relationship, the right partner will appear. “Build it and they will come,” so to speak. So whether it’s loneliness or something else keeping you from a relationship, this is probably a sign that you’re not quite READY. This does not mean that you have to be perfect in order to have your dream come true. Perfect is never the goal; your journey is. Having the willingness to be READY and taking steps in that direction can be as good as being there. |
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Getting READY means different things to
different people, but in general it requires looking
inside yourself for the things that are in the way, the
barriers between you and the vision you have for
your love and your life. Here are some activities that
will help:
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The four pillars are a powerful way to create a strong
relationship foundation. Safety is the rich soil in
which you plant your seeds. Agreement is the water
that feeds the seedlings and encourages them to
grow. Commitment is the powerful sun, which
sustains your garden over time and draws it out of
the ground to bloom. And Readiness is the seed
itself, full of life and potential.
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QUESTIONS? COMMENTS? Feel free to call or email
me about this or any other relationship concept. 770-
730-9896 or patty@pfcoaching.com
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Please join me at the following events:
SOLO TO SOULMATE - a
workshop for single women who are ready to create
the right relationship with the right man. You don't
have to be single any more! Next class - Three
Wednesdays Septmeber 14, 21, 28
Other Workshops, coming October and November: |
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I want to publicly thank Anna L. for her support in
the
creation of these newsletters. Your reviewing and
editing feedback are invaluable. Thanks, Anna!
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