'Tis the season for gift buying and yet, this year's financial challenges make shopping more stressful than ever.  This week, I wanted to focus on the kind of gift that could really make a difference in someone's life - a gift that not only brings joy after the holidays have passed, but also gives you an opportunity to strengthen a relationship with someone you love.  It's the gift of your time and talent.

Right now, in this very moment, there's someone you care about who is burdened by a project they feel unequipped to handle - something you do well.  Think about it.  Is there a family member who has trouble getting organized, a sister who would love help with holiday decorating, or a friend who needs curtains for his new apartment?  This year, instead of spending money on gifts, why not offer to help out?  Here's a fun, new approach:

1.  Make a list of five people you intend to buy gifts for.

2.  Schedule a time to call each one.

3.  When you do, say something like:

"Hey Maggie, I know we all have a project or task hanging over our heads that we keep meaning to get done.  This year, rather than buy you a gift, I thought I'd offer my time and talent to help you get a project completed.  If you're willing, why don't you spend some time this week thinking about something we could do together, and when I call you back next Monday, let me know what you've come up with and we'll schedule a date.  How does that sound?"

4.  Follow up with a call and, if the person agrees, schedule a date to work on the project together.

There are several benefits to giving this kind of gift.  First, you relieve a loved one of the emotional stress that comes from procrastination.  Second, you give this person an on-going reminder of how much you care.  After all, if you help a friend organize a kitchen closet, he or she will think of you and feel loved every time they open the door.  Third, giving the gift of our time adds less "stuff" to the planet.  And finally, sharing your talent gives you a chance to spend meaningful time together.

So, this week, consider a new tradition.  Just imagine how life would be different if everyone helped each other in this way!  Now, let's see.  I still have boxes that need to be unpacked, a pantry that needs to be organized, and pictures that need to be hung on a wall.  Hmmm....