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|You Know Less Than You Think |
The vast majority of comments people make about others are just plain false because they can't know what they think they know. Consider the examples below. Do they sound familiar?
- George has no ambition
- Sarah takes pride in her work
- Bill has a bad attitude
- Connie cares only about herself
These comments are typical in that they address characteristics on the left hand side of this diagram, all of which are completely invisible.
Any statement about invisible characteristics is a personal opinion, an assumption, a judgment.
- You can not see ambition; you can only see behavior that you interpret as ambition or a lack of ambition.
- What you interpret as pride may be perfectionism.
- You may think you "see" a bad attitude but what you are seeing is behavior that is probably a symptom of other things you can't see such as Bill doesn't like his job, doesn't feel that he can succeed, or is dealing with stressful factors you know nothing about.
However, you can see the way a person behaves. And you can see the impact of that behavior, whether positive or negative, whether it affects you, others, or the entire company. If you focus your attention and comments on that which is visible, the observable behavior and its impact, and leave the speculation about cause out of the picture, you will:
Take another look at the diagram. Think of all the other words that could be added to the circle of invisible characteristics. Words like experience, confidence, and intelligence. There are innumerable possibilities.
- Avoid destructive comments
- Prevent putting others on the defensive
- Help others understand their behavior and its impact
- Set the stage for involving the other person in improving the situation
Clearly, you know less than you think!
Would you like all of your employees to embrace this concept and develop the constructive benefits of focusing on observable behavior and its impact? Call 800-527-0087 today and find out how we can help.
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|There is No 'C' in SWOT - The First of Many Troubles |
SWOT - Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats - is a tool frequently used for formulating strategy.
Is it a good approach for aligning the company's strengths and resources behind the greatest opportunities? No. SWOT is flawed for many reasons. Its greatest achievement is that it is simple to use and has a memorable acronym. Read more ...
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#1 Best-of-the-Web business article for FIVE months running: "Why Training Fails" by Ann Latham!
Ann's article on "treadmill agendas" was published in Corp! Magazine in March
"Leaders Don't Wait and 7 Other Traits" by Ann was published in The CEO Refresher in March
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|Parting Thoughts - Ignore the Past at Your Peril|
You can't change the past but you can't ignore it either unless you want to repeat the mistakes and relive the disappointments.
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