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Dear Friends,
With Mother's Day this weekend, I am thinking about all the buzz in the media this past year surrounding how we raise and educate our children to prepare them for successful futures. These conversations were spurred on by the release of the movies Race To Nowhere and Waiting for 'Superman' and the book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. As a result, many of you are asking, "Am I doing enough as a parent?"..."Am I doing too much parent?"
I would like to re-focus your thoughts this Mother's Day on two alternative questions: "Am I doing the right things?" and "Am I doing them for the right reasons?" In helping you to examine the answers to these questions, I am re-running an article I wrote three years ago for Mother's Day on what I think it means to be a "supermom," and which encourages you to reflect on who you are as a parent.
I hope all you moms out there have a relaxing and meaningful Mother's Day, and that you find some time to reflect on your own unique strengths and extraordinary qualities as a mother.
Happy parenting and best wishes,
Meg
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| DEFINING "SUPERMOM" |
Coined in the 1970's, the term "supermom" refers to a mother who seemingly can do it all - manage her kids, succeed at a full-time job, be head of the PTA, act as parent coordinator of the soccer team, sew costumes for the school play, and still find time to bake cupcakes for her child's birthday party.
No parent should have to live up to that standard, and, frankly, I don't really believe that one should be trying. Let's face reality - a parent may do all of the above and still not be a good parent, because none of those accomplishments gets to the heart of successful parenting.
It's time to redefine what it means to be a "supermom." I propose a definition that not only sets more realistic standards, but also puts the emphasis on what's truly important.
So, here it is, straight from Meg's tell-it-like-it-is dictionary of real parenting:
Whether she works full-time, part-time, or is a stay-at-home parent, a
supermom (or dad):
1) Understands her children - She knows what makes them tick and what floats their boat. This understanding enables her to introduce them to a world of possibilities and nurture and share their passions.
2) Knows what her children need - She is their teacher, and knows that they need structure and boundaries along with unconditional love, respect, support, and encouragement. By providing these from the start, she develops a relationship of trust and respect with her children.
3) Knows herself - She does not lose her own passions and desires when she becomes a mother. Balance allows her to nurture herself and take care of her body and her soul. Being a mother is integral to who she is, but she is a multi-faceted person.
4) Walks the walk - She recognizes that the best method of teaching is by example. She embodies the qualities of restraint, respect, and sensitivity towards others, inspiring her children to do the same.
5) Finds the joy in motherhood - She embraces the responsibilities and rewards of being a parent. Reaping gratification inspires her to do the hard work and maintain the consistency that is necessary to raise great kids who are a pleasure to be around.
So, maybe you are a supermom (or dad) after all! I encourage you to examine your strengths and weaknesses in each of the above areas. You may find that certain elements come naturally, and others need nurturing. If you find that one of these realms is challenging for you, let me know if I can help you reach your potential.
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Model 'appreciation' for your child by thanking them often: "Thank you for putting your shoes on right away when I asked." "Thank you for being so gentle with your little brother." "Thank you for that hug - it made me feel really happy."
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Children of all ages love to look at photo albums, especially those that display photos of them. Spend time browsing through family albums with your children; the photos will trigger many memories and inspire stories for you to share.
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Not sure you're picking the best toys and games as presents, or even for your own children?
Are you interested in games that enhance language development? Toys that encourage cooperation?
I will help you select just the right toys, games or books for any child.
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