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Kindred Spirits Network Newsletter
ISSUE 40
"Sharing experience, helping others and finding purpose."
In This Issue
Who are you accountable to?
The Face in the Glass
The Dash
Books that Inspire Me
About us
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Greetings!

The holiday season is upon us and I find myself writing this edition of the newsletter from a windswept campsite (with WIFI) in North Devon!  As it is the 40th edition, I feel a sense of awe and achievement that we have come this far together! 

Holidays are an important time....  Time to slow down, relax and be thankful for all that we have and all that we take for granted.  Time to be in the present moment with your loved ones - often in a way that doesn't happen at any other time of the year. And time to re-charge the batteries, change the environment and consider what's to come.  So I hope you find time to take some "time-out" either with your families, friends or special others. 

But most importantly,  I hope you are able to take some time to think about you.  This issue of the newsletter is one of the most important published so far.  Not just because 40 issues is a milestone but because the content is blended together to create one single message.  Try to find the time to read the main story (one of the most important I have written) and the poem that follows it.  I intend to end my talks on the Power of Being Real with this poem - it's awesome.... And then watch the short video - it's only 2 minutes) - you may have seen it before, but watch it again.

Keep in touch and let me know if the contents of the newsletter help you.  And pass the newsletter on if you feel it could help someone you know.

In love and life,

Love Yourself







Paul
Writer and Creator

P.S. Our mext meeting is on Wednesday 8th September - put the date in your diary! More details on the left hadn panel.
Who are you accountable to?

"What shall I do?" thought Tim.Love Yourself

He looked at himself in the mirror as he was shaving and began a conversation that was to change his life forever....

Tim had been worried about his business for some time as it just didn't feel right anymore.  He had found himself getting involved in areas of the business that were simply uninteresting to him. And there was a nagging feeling that kept returning that there had to be more to life than the constant pressure he was feeling.

As he stood applying shaving foam to his coarse skin, he looked at the wrinkles by his eyes.  He was certain that more lines were appearing on his face.  "Am I getting old?", he thought to himself.

Perhaps he needed to do something different with his life? But he dismissed the idea immediately. He had responsibilities.  His wife, the children, the house, the loans, the staff, and his parents who had lent him money to get started all those years ago.  And his friends at the golf club - what would they say if he told them he wanted to change direction?

The blade of his razor glided smoothly, removing the stubble that had grown in the last 24 hours.  "Was that another grey hair?.." he thought as he gazed at himself. "I'm definitely getting older"...

And then he caught sight of it.  He fell backwards with a start, just catching himself before he fell over completely.  He grabbed a towel and wiped away the remainder of the shaving foam.  Looking back into the mirror - he saw it again.  It was just his reflection but it seemed to look at him deeply, penetrating right into his soul.  It was asking him the question..."who are you really accountable to Tim?"...    Each time Tim looked into his eyes in the mirror, the same question kept coming back to him. 

Tears began to flow from the corners of his eyes and he stared at his tired, emotional reflection.  A memory, distant now, began to form in his mind of a conversation with his grandfather many years ago.  His grandfather had told him, as he lay in his hospital bed just days from losing his grip on life, how Tim should never regret the things he did in life as he would always regret the things he didn't do.  His grandfather had worked in the same place for over 40 years and had died with dreams still unfulfilled.  Tim made a promise to himself that day that he would live all of his dreams - however difficult it would be to do so.

And here he was, staring at a middle aged man in the mirror, knowing that he was going to have regrets.  Unless he changed something in his life.

As he wiped the tears from his eyes, he whispered to his grandfather..."I'll do it...."

And he did.

Tim spent the next few months organising the sale of his business and began a new life doing the one thing that he had always known he wanted and was destined to do.

He grew old but happy.  And not long before he died, Tim was at home chatting to his grown up grandson and told him that in life he will have lots of responsibilities but that he was only "accountable" to his own soul.  And that unfulfilled dreams are the saddest dreams of all...

As they chatted, Tim heard his grandson's wife squeal from the bathroom,  followed by gentle sobs.

With a deep sigh, Tim knew that legacy was passed on once more. 

And that the reflection in the mirror continued to work it's magic....
The Face in The Glass
Face in the Glass


The Face in the Glass
By Dale Wimbrow



When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day,
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what THAT face has to say
 
For it isn't your father or mother or spouse
Whose judgement upon you must pass
The person whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.
 
Some people might think you're a straight talking chum
And call you a great girl or guy
But the face in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look it straight in the eye
 
That's the one you must please, never mind all the rest
That's the one with you clear to the end
And you know you have passed your most dangerous test
If the face in your glass is your friend.
 
You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on your back as you pass
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you've cheated the face in the glass...

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The Dash...
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Are you living the life you want for yourself?

Watch this 2 minute video and it's poignant poem and then answer the question....
Books that Inspire Me
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Last lecture
If you knew you only had a short time to live, what would you do?

In September 2007, computer science professor Randy Pausch delivered a traditional last lecture called 'Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams'. Ironically , it really was his last lecture, as this youthful, energetic and cheerful man had just been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and had only months to live.

Randy's inspirational lecture about the joy of life - his legacy to his three young children - has become an internet and publishing phenomenon.

The Last Lecture has sold over 5 million copies Lecture There's a reason why it has - open this book and find out. It could change the way you live your life.

Thanks to Clare McCabe for this suggestion.
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About us

The Kindred Spirit Network was formed in 2009 to offer an alternative to the mainstream business networking groups that are based upon the principle of reciprocity  - expressed often amongst networkers as - "I help you and you help me in return."

The challenge with this approach is that the element of "giving" or helping comes with an expectation that something will be recieved in return.

The principle behind the Kindred Spirit Network is simple and is based around the following question; Is it possible to help someone else with NO expectation that the person you have helped will help you in return. In other words, you give but do not expect to recieve anything in return.

The nature of giving is then more natural and the receiving, much more synchronistic. 

The members of the Kindred Spirit Network also believe that there may be a deeper meaning to life that can be shared and discussed openly in relation to business and how we progress through our lives.

Meetings are held the Birmingham area on a ad hoc basis and in between meetings, the newsletter provides articles and tips that are designed to be thought provoking and supportive.