Anthony Venn-Brown
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Dear
CAN YOU MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY?
Is happiness -
Circumstantial? Genetic? (born that way) -
Purely brain/chemical activity? -
An attitude? -
A choice? -
A combination of factors?
Most people in the world would agree
with the words of the American Declaration of Independence which says one of
our inalienable rights as "the pursuit of happiness." But for
millions of people, happiness remains elusive. They've tried to buy it, sought
it through pleasurable activities or had relationships they believed would make
them happy. Even pursuing certain goals won't necessarily make you happy. You
can spend your life climbing the ladder of success only to discover when you
reach the top that it's against the wrong wall. Why has the pursuit of
happiness in external things left many feeling unfilled or empty?
Read research and top ten tips below. |
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Lottery Winners and Accident Victims
Ronnie Janoff-Bulman,
PhD, a psychologist at the University of Massachusetts, conducted a study
comparing the well-being of lottery winners versus people who had become
suddenly paralysed. Following the initial euphoria of their newfound wealth,
the lottery winners were no happier than the accident victims. The paralysed
individuals had to adjust to the shock of their new physical limitations, but
after this early distress had eased, they were much better able to appreciate
the small pleasures and victories of life and also felt more optimistic about
the future than those who were overnight millionaires.
What the research says
Apparently the left prefrontal cortex
serves as the centre for positive, optimistic, and happy feelings. When people
naturally have higher than normal activity in this brain region, they are more
likely to feel positive moods, and they'll tend to start each day ready to take
on the world.
Researchers now believe that our
brains are hard-wired in ways that, at least to some degree, determine just how
happy we're going to be. In short, it's in the genes. As powerful as these genetic
predispositions may be, happiness is still partly within your control, says David Myers, PhD, the John
Dirk Werkman Professor of Psychology at Hope College in Holland, Mich. "It's
rather like our cholesterol level -- genetically influenced, yet
also influenced by our habits and attitudes."
According to Ken Sheldon, PhD, associate professor in the
department of psychological sciences at the University of Missouri-Columbia,
all of us are born with a particular "set range" for happiness, which
can be fine-tuned by various life circumstances. Your goal, he explains, should
be to reach and remain in the upper end of the happiness range that is part of
your genetic blueprint. Sheldon's research has shown that happiness is associated
with characteristics like autonomy, competence, close relationships, and high
self-esteem.
A study at Wake Forest
University showed that when people simply acted extroverted, they felt
happier than when they acted introverted. Even introverts, said the
researchers, can act extroverted and feel happier.
So the answer is yes, you
can influence your personal happiness. It is determined by the things you do
and the way you view the world.
Have a good day
Anthony Venn-Brown
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Anthony's top 10
list of Things You Can Do To Make Yourself Happy 1.
Be grateful.
This is vital to happiness - be happy with what
you've got - not what you want. Being grateful creates a positive energy. Being envious, resentful or jealous will
produce all the wrong feelings. Research shows that people who
pause each day to reflect on the positive aspects of their lives (for example,
their health, friends, family, education, freedom) are more likely to
experience heightened well-being. Some people do this through a regular
gratefulness journal where they write down their blessings.
2. Be with positive happy people.
Negativity, complaining, and self-pity are draining.
No one likes a whinger. Surround yourself with the positive energy that comes
from positive people.
3. Limit negative input.
In addition to the people you surround yourself with,
the media can also affect your happiness level. Stay well informed, but "God
this world is an awful place" will fill your mind if you watch the news all day
long.
4. Exercise.
Studies show that aerobic
exercise is an antidote for mild depression and anxiety. Exercise raises serotonin levels
in the brain, and it DOES make you feel better. Just do something....walk, take
stairs, leave the car, etc. JUST DO IT
5. Do something for someone else.
Giving of yourself, expecting nothing in return will
surely lift your spirits. Try some
random acts of kindness during the day,
6.
Realise you are in control of your life.
Take
responsibility for your own happiness. Don't wait for someone else to make you
happy. "The route to sustained happiness is not to change the
static circumstances of your life, but rather to change the activities that
you're involved in," says Sheldon. "This could mean committing to a
new vocational plan, pursuing a new set of goals, or joining a new
organization."
7. Spend time outside.
Spending a little time with Mother Nature will always
rejuvenate and uplift you. Take time to smell the roses....switch off the
auto-pilot.
8. Take time to do things you love.
Do things you WANT to do...don't be burdened down with the things you
HAVE to do. Make some new choices.
9. Smile.
Try it.
10. Believe in something bigger than you.
Faith not only provides
valuable support, but it's a way to focus on something other than yourself. Having some spiritual faith
is enriching and it helps get you through challenging times. Whether you call
it God, the Universe, Spirit, Higher Power, find something to look to for
support and peace. Study after study shows that actively spiritual
people are happier, and that they cope better with crises. To put this on your facebook profile, twitter or linkedin just click on the link at the bottom.
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Anthony Venn-Brown
As an internationally accredited coach (ACC
ICF), Anthony has worked with a broad range of clients and over the last nine
years gained many 1,000's of coaching hours experience. Anthony's background includes 30 years in a variety
of educational settings, establishing successful businesses and creating exceptional
sales results. He has presented to audiences of up to 5,000 and appeared on
national television and radio programs numerous times. His award winning autobiography 'A Life of Unlearning,' is now in its
second print.
Richness in life experience is what makes
Anthony stand out as a coach. His proven ability to negotiate challenging
situations, pioneer new opportunities, and commitment to the best possible
outcomes, enables him to connect insightfully with clients. By providing an
objective sounding board, Anthony's clients gain the clarity and necessary
tools to create the career, performance or internal transformation they desire.
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