Three Reasons

There is a conflict with our personal value system

For example the job/career initially gave us challenge or it was a stimulating learning environment. That no longer exists. We once felt valued by the company or our boss but it seems like the corporate giant has sucked us up and we are no more than a cog in the wheel.

We are burnt out

Life these days can be very demanding. Too many hours at the office. Additional demands upon at home or in the relationship. Renovations, buying a new home, raising a family, illness, all deplete us of our emotional reserves. You know you are burnt out when you find yourself angry or resentful a lot. Or you may be emotional. These are the signs telling you something is drastically wrong.

Life transition

Mid-life crisis is a term many of us would rather not use, which actually can be a part of the problem. Denial. Mid-life is a time of transition and evaluation. What happened to the goals and dreams for my life? Will they ever actually happen?

Four Things To Do

1.    Get clear about what you really do want. Your subconscious value system is what you use to measure you success, happiness and fulfilment. If you don't know exactly what that is then you are flying blind and left with a feeling of unease, unhappiness or even depression.

2.    Stop tolerating. Tolerating things will never make you happy. It leaves you once again with resentments which are like a power drain on your life.

3.    Stop whinging. If we are in one of these situations we probably speak to lots of people about. Your negative mindset is often verbalised. Don't keep talking about how bad things are. Do something about it!

4.    Make a decision. You have three options.

·         Accept. One is that you can remain in the situation and instead of tolerating you accept that this is the way things are and will not change for the time being or ever.

·         Change. The second is the commitment and courage to change the situation. If it is really important to you than its worth the effort in the long run

·         Leave the situation. Some things or people will not change and for us to remain there will only be detrimental to us and those around us. Get out!