Greetings!
15 THING I'VE
LEARNT NO.2
Following on from my previous newsletter (see below) here is the next instalment of 15 things I've learnt about human beings and success in 3,500 hours.
No. 2 Nothing
happens without action
It is almost
a ridiculous statement isn't it? Of course nothing happens without action. But
not everyone moves into action. We see that all the time with family members,
work colleagues and friends. Why?
Some reasons
why people don't get started
- Procrastination is the most
obvious one. The dictionary says procrastination is 'to put off till
another day or time; defer; delay'. In the self evaluation process of
coaching we ask about 30 important questions. One of those is 'do I have
the habit of Procrastination?' Out of the 350 people I've coached, only
about 5 said NO. We soon found out though possibly that wasn't the correct
answer. Everyone procrastinates about something. Dishes, cleaning, tax,
having that important but difficult conversation with someone. We procrastinate
because it rewards us in some way to put the task off till another time. The
secret is to find out what that reward is and compare it to the reward of
actually doing the task. The benefits of action are always greater in the
long run than inaction.
- Not chunking down. Some tasks
are too big. Take de-cluttering the house for example. Looking at the
lounge, bedroom, study and garage can be overwhelming if you are a clutter
or hoarder. Best to start small. Maybe the dining room table and keep that
clear. Or the desk in the office. They say the best way to eat and
elephant is one mouthful at a time. One great little trick I use is, to
ensure the first step my clients take in achieving their goals is one that
can be done in 24 to 48 hours. At least they are off the starting block.
- Being double minded. A proverb
says 'A double minded person is unstable in all their ways'. If you are vacillating
between two positions it debilitates you. Get off the fence. Take some
action.
- Indecision. What's stopping you
from making a decision to begin? Lack of clarity. Fear of failure. Some people
are cripple by the fear of making a mistake. Especially if they are a perfectionist.
'If it can't be done perfectly then I won't begin. I'd hate to be seen as
a failure'. The failure is not in attempting, the failure is in doing
nothing. The best way of framing life is that there is no such thing as a
failure only a learning experience. That takes the judgement out of it.
- NOW GET CRACKING!
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| Lessons from the Melbourne Cup this Week
It's never too late
Did you see Efficient come racing in at the last minute. Jockey and horse saw the finishing line. Often the last minute effort is what gets us over the line. 2007 is coming to an end and Christmas is the finishing line. Have you considered the
possibility of being coached this year but somehow didn't get around to it?
Well it's not too late. In fact, if you act now you will have the best of both
worlds. We can cover off all the foundational stuff and get you clear on your
values and beliefs then in the New Year you can start the year running with a
new vision and goals. Book your complimentary session to find out how now.
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