We spoke last month about lovers. But now you can see that any relationship -- be it somebody you meet on your morning commute or occasionally in your job or business, with your siblings, parents, children, your neighbor, whatever the relationship you have invited in -- you have co-created it that you may come to know the more of who you are.
And how do you know what that is? Again it is to come back to the feeling of it. How does it feel? What feeling does this relationship engender? Do you understand?
So where there is that which is not harmonious, an exchange which engenders an emotion which is not love or peace or harmony, it is to say, "How does it feel and why? Why do I feel this way?"
And when you get down to the nitty-gritty, then you come to the opportunity to know absolutely your own truth. It is about being your own detective here to come to the expanded truth of you. Where it is that you are in a relationship and it is all flow and ease, so you are in the allowance of that wondrousness.
Many of you go to great lengths to protect, if you like, the sanctity of your friendships. Have you ever wondered why you keep your friends forever and your lovers do not last nearly as long? That is because in your friendships there is an allowance and a respect of another's sovereignty.
In your love affairs, or marriage, or your long-term love relationship, you have an investment, an emotional investment in feeling good. And when you do not take responsibility for what is co-created within the relationship, and where somebody else is not living up to
yourexpectations, then indeed the love affair is soon gone or certainly is not a happy place to be.
As you can allow everybody sovereignty, everybody else's sovereign journey, as you can allow for your own sovereignty and sovereign journey, then you are not in any expectation of how it is supposed to be.
Certainly you do come to an area of compromise. Does that sound very familiar to you, my beloved ones? Compromise. Well you know, you do compromise in a way without thinking about it too much in your great friendships. And you allow for eccentricities and differences. Indeed you will celebrate the differences in your friendships and abhor the differences very often in your lovers. Does that make sense to you?
And you can see how you do that and how you repeat and repeat the patterning as you go forth in your day-to-days and years-after-years of love affairs and husbands or wives and whatever and however that is.
So you see how, because of your idea of who you are, you will change your situation because nobody can fulfill that expectation of perfection that you cannot give yourself. And when you can acknowledge your own perfection in every now, so indeed you can allow the perfection in everybody else and celebrate that which be your differences.
It can be much more fun, you know, than you have hitherto allowed. We also say to you that it is not necessary to suffer in that which be your discordant relationship because you are sovereign beings. You can choose in every now how you would desire that relationship to be.
As we said before, as you make your grand changes, it is to look at how you have created that relationship in the first place. How does that relationship reflect your idea of who you are and what you deserve? Because there are many, many peoples who, if you like, suffer that which would be a most discordant relationship from some idea that they must stay together.
Now we say to you unless you can change your idea of who you are and what you deserve, then you all will certainly go forth and recreate and recreate the same old situation again and again and again.
And for those of you who have created a relationship which has brought forth the pain and anguish, termed betrayal and abandonment, then indeed there is some searching to do there. Because that old patterning of abandonment and betrayal has nothing to do with your spouse or your lover, but that which is known from your earlier days.
We have spoken this to you many times before. (Very softly) You see when you really can come to the fact that you deserve all of the wondrousness, then that is what you will create -- all of the wondrousness.
And you do deserve it. But until you can come to that wondrous and perfect relationship with you, it is you who is struggling with yourself, hmm?
All right. Be there query?
Q: How do you change the thoughts of what you deserve?
P'taah: Indeed. That is a good question because is not different, whether you are talking about relationship or abundance or anything else that you desire in your life. Because it all comes down to your bottom line issue which is ,"I am not enough". And when you are not enough, then you do not deserve all of the wondrousness.
How do you change it? By recognizing when you come forth with those thoughts. Catch yourself and change.
You see, because you are sovereign beings and because you are so powerful, when you catch yourself in the act of that thought that says, "This will not work for me. It never has before or it will not now," or "This is too good to be true" -- you know all of those thoughts that you have -- "This never happens to me," -- then you can catch yourself in that timing and recognize, "Ah ha! Here it is again!"
Now say instead, "From the God/Goddess of my being, I recognize that this belief of my inadequacies, of my not being enough, no longer serves me. It is not my truth because I know, I KNOW from the God/Goddess of my being that who I am in this now and in every now is a Perfect, Eternal Expression of Creation and that I deserve all wondrousness simply because I exist!" You see?
Q: Yes.
P'taah: And so, as you have discovered already, my beloved, that which is the power of speaking forth that truth, changes the reality, changes the feeling, changes the knowing. It really is that simple. Recognize it and make a choice.
