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As a practitioner, "getting out of the way" means
leaving behind my own beliefs, judgments and biases
and being present "over there" with my client. "Being
in the flow" occurs when I open to my intuition along
with my client's and trust the dance of our work
together.
My experience is that healing works "through me"
rather than "by me" when I'm "getting out of the way".
I'm not the one healing the client. I truly believe that
clients heal themselves with the Universal wisdom
that is available to all on an unconscious level. All I do
is support them in finding the blocks to their freedom
and tap them out. If I think I can fix their problem, I am
doing them (and me) a dis-service. "Getting out of the
way" helps me to put my ego aside and spiritually
focus on my client. From this place, my intuition can
lead me to (and through) non-existent doors. I step
into my creativity. My mind is open to all possibilities.
A flow develops between us (the client and myself)
and the work.
To describe how I am able to do that is rather difficult. I
prepare for a session simply by saying silently "Mother
(my connection to the Universe), let me hear what I
need to hear so I may serve. Thy will be done." I then
focus on my client as if I was focusing on Mother
herself. When I'm "out of the way", I'm not even aware
of what is coming out of my mouth. I have a difficult
time remembering what was even covered during the
session.
I do know that as I started trusting my intuition
and theirs more and more (with a lot of help from Gary
and his Ultimate Therapist videos), I was able to 'let
go' and really listen to what my clients were
expressing. All judgment regarding the client's issues
go out the window as well as any fear I may have
of 'stubbing my toe'. I'm not afraid that I will make a
mistake. If a client tells me a certain statement I make
isn't true, I then ask them "Well, what is true?" They
usually have an answer, and an opening to a
previously-closed door occurs. The interplay of
insights that result from being in the flow creates its
own unique rhythm between the client and me. I am
out of the way, and we are dancing.
Try it out! Trust that EFT will do its job. All you have to do is "Get out of the way"! |
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I thought I'd share a few of my experiences of using
EFT with friends and family because I have found that
this can be more challenging than working with clients
who walk through your door requesting EFT. Often,
people who are close to you, don't come asking for
your help - you see an opportunity where you might be
able to help them and cautiously make an offer.
One of my first experiences was with my friend Leona
(she doesn't mind if we use her name) who had an
overwhelming snake phobia. When I first learned EFT
from David Rourke, I couldn't wait to tell Leona about
this amazing technique (but I didn't really feel
confident enough to tackle her fear myself). Until then,
she had never even been willing to talk to me about
her phobia, I knew more about it from her husband.
So when David was in town giving another workshop, I
encouraged Leona to book a session with him (I was
so sure he could help her) and that was the beginning
of her starting to overcome her snake phobia. After
that, Leona and I did some EFT sessions focussing
on specific encounters she had had with snakes and
she became more and more comfortable talking
about snakes and thinking about snakes. Before EFT
Leona's fear of snakes was so overwhelming that she
would experience tremendous fear if she saw a snake
or even thought about a snake; at times she had
actually gone totally rigid and she had to be carried
away from the area by her husband. Leona began
using EFT whenever her anxieties about snakes
started to surface. Recently, she was golfing with her
family and when she saw a snake nearby, she slowly
and calmly walked away - her family couldn't believe
it!
The other experiences I thought I share are about my
sons. I excitedly shared EFT with them when I learned
it and they both seemed unconvinced - until they had a
need to use the techniques.
My oldest son Matt (18 at the time), called one weekend when we were at the cottage because he and his friends had been hassled by another group of guys when they were downtown the night before. In fact, one of his friends was assaulted by one of the guys from the other group and apologies were made immediately by the other group because their friend was drunk. It wasn't until later that my son felt incredibly high levels of anger about the unfairness of what had happened to his friend; he was so angry that he couldn't sleep and he kept feeling like he wanted revenge (an uncommon feeling for him). When he called me he was still angry and also frightened about his level of anger so we talked and tapped over the phone for about 45 minutes going over many different aspects of the event. Matt eventually yawned, told me that he thought he needed to get some sleep and thanked me for 'Getting his mind off the incident'. We actually hadn't taken his mind off the incident at all; we had focussed specifically on it and the tapping helped him to release the negative emotions. I also had an opportunity to use EFT with my younger
son Jeff (16 at the time), when he was having a hard
time making a decision. Jeff is a musician and an
athlete and he was trying to decide if he should take
part in a school wrestling tournament because he had
injured his hand previously while wrestling and his
was band was practicing for an upcoming 'Battle of
the Bands' contest. We talked about the pros and
cons for a long time and he still felt 'on the fence' and
unable to make a decision. We tapped on his fear of
injuring his hand and not being able to play guitar; we
tapped on feelings that he would disappoint his coach
and team mates if he didn't participate, but he still
couldn't make a decision. Then we decided to do
some continuous 'argument tapping' (where we
tapped for each decision):
I want to participate in the wresting tournament.THEN I want to skip the tournament so that I can play guitar. Eventually he felt he'd had done enough tapping and after he allowed the tapping to 'settle in' he was able to comfortably decide that he really wanted to skip the tournament to ensure that his hand was healthy and that he could give the 'Battle of the Bands' contest his best shot. Jeff never regretted skipping the wrestling tournament and his band actually went on to win the contest after that. It's always interesting to introduce EFT to friends and
family because they don't always have the same
respect for you and your skills as your clients do. It
can also be harder to accept a lack of interest on their
part because you care so deeply about them and want
to help them with their fear / pain / confusion. I have
found that it's still worthwhile to try to help family and
friends with EFT and I will continue to do so when the
opportunity comes my way.
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It has just been announced that Gary Craig will be at the EFT Masters Showcase in Boston, MA. Gary will demonstrate live EFT sessions with subjects while they are hooked up to a brain wave monitoring device. This will allow everyone to see on a large screen how brain waves improve WHILE THEY ARE DOING EFT. Gary says: "I have personally witnessed this equipment used with EFT on three occasions and the results have been impressive. We will also use this equipment to experiment with surrogate EFT and other possibilities." This event will sell out! Book now by going to www.eftmast ertraining.com |
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Please forward this newsletter on to your
friends and
loved ones.
Sincerely,
David Rourke, EFT Master
David Rourke & Associates
email:
david@davidrourke.ca
phone:
1-888-834-7073
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