Episcopal Diocese of Oklahoma
Contents
Bishop's Schedule
Diocesan Cycle of Prayer
From Convention
New Curriculum Available for Check-Out
Advent Outreach Ideas
Advent Resources
Job Seeker Group Resource
Do You Work with Youth?
Recognizing Youth in your Parish
St. Mary's Episcopal School Food Drive
All Souls' Episcopal Church - Virginia Campbell Concert Series
Messiah Presentation
When Christmas Hurts
Godly Play Cooperative Learning and Sharing Events
Continuing Education Opportunity
Teaching Generosity and Charity
Journey to the Holy Land
Additional Safeguarding God's Children Training
The Spiritual Side
Young Adult Initiative
Working with Older Teens and Young Adults
Parenting - Children and Theology
2nd Half of Life
Closing Prayer
                            

Companion Diocese Uruguay


Uruguay

     two bishops

 

 

Holy God, source of healing and of peace, bless with your grace the companion dioceses of  Oklahoma and Uruguay. Through our partnership one with another may we grow in mutual affection and communion, seek a more profound experience of truth, build up the Church in unity and give glory to Jesus Christ our Saviour. Amen.

 

 

New Web site:

 

 http://uruguay.anglican.org/

 


 
The Episcopal Diocese of Oklahoma

          

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The Next Issue of this Newsletter will be on Friday, November 25.
 

We Are Epiok.org

November 18, 2011

Issue 39

 

Bishop's Schedule 


11/20                St. John's, Vinita

Diocesan Cycle of Prayer


The new Diocesan Cycle of Prayer which begins November 27, is now on the Diocesan Web site home page: www.epiok.org.

From Convention 

  

The Rev. Mary Ann Hill made reference to several books during her worship time at Convention. Here are the titles and authors if you are interested in reading more:  The Celtic Way of Evangelism by George Hunter and The Cry of the Deer: Meditations on the Hymn of St. Patrick by David Adam.

New Curriculum Available for Check-Out 

The Greatest Story

  

From Augsburg Press, we have purchased two curricula:  The Greatest Story - Bible Introduction; and The Greatest Story - Jesus. Each come with a 16 lesson DVD, Leaders Reference CD, Leader's Guide and Participant's Book. Please contact the Diocesan Office if you want to review or use these materials.

Advent Outreach Ideas 

  

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What about an Advent outreach called "Walk in Love" where the ministry focuses on the purchase of new shoes to give to the homeless people in your community. Shoes could be brought in on the Feast of St. Nicholas and made a part of the offering, blessed, and delivered after the service.

Advent Resources

 

Kerygma is an independent publisher with ecumenical partnerships and offers lots of interactive courses on books of the Bibles or themes (long and short term) with numerous topics.

 

For Advent/Lent, they are offering Hallelujah: The Bible and Handel's Messiah - 4 lessons for advent and 5 for Lent.

 

They are also offering The Light Will Shine: A Study for Advent - four lessons and one for Epiphany.

 

Go to www.kerygma.com for all resources.

Job Seeker Group Resource

 

Job Resources

Strength Finder 2.0 by Tom Rath is an excellent tool. The website strengths.gallup.com/110440/About-StrengthsFinder-2.aspx  features a community area and a library of downloadable discussion guides and activities.

Do You Work With Youth?  

 

Check out this website for great ideas:  http://www.rethinkingyouthministry.com/2010/08/post-secret-youth-ministry.html

Recognizing Youth in Your Parish

 

All Saints', McAlester, had a great idea in their recent newsletter. They took a picture of the young lady who was serving as Acolyte for the first time and put it in the newsletter. What a wonderful way to recognize the "real" work our youth do in the parish!

St. Mary's Episcopal School Holds Food Drive 

 

More than 3,100 food items filled the media center at St. Mary's School, waiting to be boxed and sacked for distribution. All St. Mary's students, preschool through sixth grade, participated in the food drive that will benefit the students and their families of Shildler Elementary in Oklahoma City.

 

Shidler Elementary, located two miles south of Bricktown, is home to some of Oklahoma county's most needy children. According to the Oklahoma State Department of Education, Low Income Report 09-10, Shidler Elementary has a staggering 97.15% poverty rate, meaning 334 of children of the 351 enrolled, receive free or reduced price lunch meal.

 

"We are called to help individuals who especially suffer from hungerSt. Mary's food drive 2011 and other misfortunes during this time of year. Although a vast majority of children at Shidler receive food assistance during the school hours, they, and their families, they may not have access to food in the evenings, on weekends and during the Thanksgiving and Christmas season," said Gayle Jones, a spokesman for St. Mary's Episcopal School.

 

The annual tradition of collecting food for Shidler Elementary is a project of the Service Learning Program under the direction of Cathy Pugsley.

 

"Our students absolutely love this project which builds momentum as we begin to collect the food items. They enjoy sorting the food and preparing it to take to our friends at Shidler," Pugsly said.

 

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All Souls' Episcopal Church - OKC 

Virginia Campbell Concert Series

 

Jin Ju

Sunday, November 20th

3:30 p.m.

Concert in our church with a reception following in the Parish Hall

 

Jin Ju has played for the Pope.

For ticket prices and further information, please call Virginia at
405-843-5895

Messiah Presentation

  

Jeanette Clemons Activity Center

First Christian Church of Midwest City

East Reno and Anderson Road

 Sunday, November 20         4 p.m.

 

Andrea Hanson, Soprano

Rebekah Ambrosini, Contralto

John Peebles, Tenor

Jim Henline, Bass

 

Full Professional Orchestra

John Blackwell, Conductor

 

Participating Chorristers from

First Christian Church of Midwest City

Hillcrest Christian Church

Midwest Boulevard Christian Church

Midwest Choral Society

Oklahoma Choral Artists

St. Christopher's Episcopal Church

Wickline Methodist Church

 

All proceeds from the free will offering for the benefit of the Mid-Del Food Pantry.

When Christmas Hurts

 

A Service of Comfort

Sunday December 18, 2011 at 3:00 p.m.

 

Does loss, sorrow, pain, depression, addiction, or anything else make the holidays difficult?

 

Please join with members of St. John's Episcopal Church and the community as we gather to sing, pray, and enjoy quiet together. At the conclusion of the service there will be time for further fellowship.

 

Everyone is welcome to attend this service: those in need and those willing to offer support and compassion. Please invite friends and neighbors who might appreciate this beautiful and peaceful service. 

  

St. John's Episcopal Church 

4200 S Atlanta Place, Tulsa, OK 74105

918-742-7381

Godly Play Cooperative Learning and Sharing Events

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Are you using Godly Play? Would you like to know more about Godly Play? Do you have questions about presentations? You do not have to be using Godly Play to attend. Here's a chance to be with those who are presently using Godly Play and learn! 

 

 

Events will start at 9 and be over by noon. The cost is $5.

 

January 28, 2012 - St. Augustine of Canterbury, OKC

March 10, 2012 - Christ Church, Tulsa

 

Register by calling Sabrina Evans 405 232 4820 or by email at christianformation@epiok.org.

Continuing Education Opportunities

  

Kanuga's Conferences have been set and there are several that might appeal to some in the diocese.

 

June 11 - 15 - Christian Formation Conference - Faith Stories: A Life in the Spirit

 

June 17 - 22 - Adults Who Work with Youth - Rhythms for the Road: Holy Practices for the Long Haul.

 

Check these out at www.kanuga.org. We have scholarship money at the Diocese for those who would like to attend!

Teaching Generosity and Charity

 

giving box

Mister Rogers, whose peaceful "neighborhood" was a comforting presence in millions of homes for more than 25 years created a coaching for parents to teach their children lessons of generosity and charity called THE GIVING BOX.

 

THE GIVING BOX offers wise suggestions and practical guidelines on teaching children the moral lesson of compassion for others and the value of charity. The package includes a box of heartwarming fictional stories set in countries around the world and a small box to be placed in the home to remind the entire family how good it feels to give to those less fortunate, and reveals how even one child's contribution can make a difference.

 

THE GIVING BOX set is available from The Fred Rogers Company and is great gift idea for parents.

Join Us on A Journey to the Holy Land!

 

Holy Land with Bishop

 

The Episcopal Diocese of Oklahoma 

~presents~

 

A Journey to the Holy Land

 

Under the Direction of

The Rt. Rev. Dr. Edward J. Konieczny

Local Guide: Canon Iyad Qumri

Hosted at Saint George's

 

Limited to the first 25

 Depart: June 8, 2012

Return: June 20, 2012

 

Total Cost: $4,100.00 per person

 

To secure your spot, send your deposit check in the amount of $500,  made payable to the Episcopal Diocese of Okahoma, 924 North Robinson, Oklahoma City, OK 73102  attention: Jeni Kaufman.

 

 Jordan River
Jordan River

For more information, go to www.epiok.org and click on the Journey to Holy Land link.  

ADDITIONAL Safeguarding God's Children Training Opportunities      

   

We now have over 900 people in the Diocese trained in Safeguarding God's People! That is an increase of 300 in the last six months! We have been working hard to provide Safeguarding training sessions so that all clergy, including deacons, would have an opportunity to be trained. It is our intention that all clergy and deacons complete Safeguarding God's Children training  by the end of the year. In order to help you out, we have scheduled the following training opportunities:

  

December 1          Diocesan Office TRAIN THE TRAINER - Last one of the year. Contact Sabrina Evans 405 232 4820 to register. 10 a.m. until 2:30

 

December 5          St. Luke's, Chickasha - 5:30 p.m.


December 8           Diocesan Offices  5:30 p.m.  -  LAST TRAINING OF THE YEAR.

 

 

These trainings should take about 3 hours long.

 

Safeguarding God's Children is required of all clergy and deacons who are active in ministry within the diocese, including clergy that serve as supply. Attendance at one of these trainings is mandatory.  Safeguarding must be retaken every 4 years for everyone.

 

These trainings are open to all in people of the Diocese. Even if you have had safeguarding in the past, you too must recertify every 4 years to keep current. PLEASE NOTE THAT THE RECERTIFICATION TIME IS 4 YEARS AND NOT 5 AS PREVIOUSLY INDICATED. You can download the registration form at: 

http://www.epiok.org/resources/safeguarding_god_s_children.html 

The Spiritual Side- The 23rd Psalm 

 

A Study Guide - Questions to reflect on as you read Psalm 23. Jesus and lamb

  1. Many versions of the Bible translate "I shall not want" as "there is nothing I need" or "I lack nothing," which some readers feel is unrealistic. What are your feelings about this verse? Does it comfort you? 
  2. When have you turned to this psalm--during times of grief, relationship trouble, or financial distress? Why?
  3. What places, people, or situations are "green pastures" or "restful waters" to you? When do you feel God's presence most?
  4. We know many people who have struggled through "dark valleys"--times of severe grief. What have you learned from these people about God's nature?
  5. In the Hebrew Bible and in Christian rites, anointing with oil is associated with receiving God's spirit. How do you understand the idea of being anointed?
  6. The Hebrew word often translated "follow" is actually closer in meaning to the word "pursue": "Goodness and kindness will pursue me." Why would God pursue us? Do you feel this happening in your life?
  7. Do you see "dwelling in the house of the Lord" as a heavenly or an earthly state?

Read more: http://www.beliefnet.com/Faiths/2001/12/The-23Rd-Psalm-A-Study-Guide.aspx#ixzz1dKJoekLY

Young Adult Initiative through Episcopal Peace Fellowship 

 

EPF was created nearly 70 years ago at the dawning of World War II. In the early years it was a place for Episcopalians who were conscientious objectors to come together as a unified group, and urge the national church to follow suit.  By 1966 at the beginning of the Vietnam War, EPF changed its focus to support all peacemakers, not just pacifists.  Now we have a lot of areas of foci -- abolishing the death penalty, non-violent resolutions, nuclear abolition, Iraq/Afghanistan, Palestine/Israel, Cuba and Iran.  They have a strong commitment to young adults. The NEC is made up of laity and clergy from around the country. 

 

If you are a young adults in this diocese and are interested in learning more about this group or participating in a pilgrimage with a theological component to the mission work, please contact the Diocesan Office for more information. You can also check out their website at:  http://epfnational.org/.

Working with Older Teens and Young Adults - Balancing Your Life 

 

balance
 
Lately, many articles written for adults are focused on the importance of a work/life balance. Although teens may not be holding down full-time jobs, they are still under a lot of pressure from their daily responsibilities, and can benefit from finding a healthy balance. School, extracurricular activities, sports, part-time jobs, and responsibilities at home can cause a teen's life to feel like a juggling act. 

 

If you feel stressed or overwhelmed, it is important to speak with the adults in your life. They may not realize how much pressure you are feeling if you manage to "get everything done." Talk to a parent, teacher or counselor, and ask for help in dealing with stress using the suggestions below.
 

Set Priorities

Decide what is most important and what needs to be done first. You do not need to do everything in one night. Prioritize what needs to be done early in the week, and what can be done later. If you are focusing on a few projects a night rather than worrying about all of them every night you will do a better job on each assignment.
 

Do Not Be an Over-Achiever

Being well-rounded is important. However, you do not need to be the captain of the football team, the lead in the school lay and employee of the month. Choose one or two activities that you can enjoy while also getting your school work done and having time to relax or visit with friends. 

 

Set Realistic Goals

Set goals that you can see yourself achieving within a week, two weeks or maybe a month. Setting goals that are too high can make you feel more stressed if you cannot realistically achieve them.
 

Acknowledge Your Feelings

It is normal to feel overwhelmed when things get busy, assignments are due and the coach scheduled extra practice. If you are feeling especially stressed or depressed, you may want to look at everything you are involved in and see if there are one or two things you can cut out until you feel better.
 

Take Care of Yourself

Eat a balanced and healthy diet, exercise regularly and get enough sleep. Do not sacrifice your health because you feel you are too busy to take care of yourself. A combination of a healthy diet, regular exercise and plenty of sleep helps relieve stress. 
 

Schedule Time for You

Set aside a half an hour a day to do something that just makes you feel good. Read a book or a favorite magazine, take a walk or ride your bike. This time that you take for yourself will help you focus when you sit down to finish your homework or practice lines for the school play. Try new ways to deal with stress such as Yoga, Tai Chi and meditation.

  

Go to Church

Be a part of a functioning youth group or other church group. This community will pray with you, support you and provide a place for you to express your concerns. Church can help you see things in a different perspective and help prioritize your life. Find adults in your parish that can be role models and listen to you. Pray for yourself as you make decisions.   Added by Sabrina Evans
 
 

Parenting - Children and Theology 

by Catherine Maresca, MA

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Theology is "faith seeking understanding" (St. Anselm). But in the 20th Century theologians have learned to pay attention to whose faith is seeking understanding of what experience of God. These components significantly nuance theology. Theology that incorporates the insights of women, the poor, people with disabilities and from around the world, will be a fuller, richer understanding of God than one impoverished by a narrow perspective. Children also have a significant contribution. This paper argues that theology of children does exist and ought to be seriously considered. Maresca uses principles of Aquinas to support the idea that children contribute to theology. While children do not develop a formal and systematic theology they are full of faith, and seeking to understand their physical and metaphysical world. The paper goes on to explore three characteristics of children that create their unique perspective of God: essentiality, wonder and joy.

 

To read this article, go to http://www.cctheo.org/op.php and click on Download this paper for free.

2nd Half of Life- Spiritual Care of Persons with Dementia

 

elderly and spiritualityResearchers in Dementia Care (Bell and Troxell, 1999) note that a person with dementia is a person with a spirit, feelings, will, personality and a life story, as well as a present moment. These same researchers suggest that a person with dementia may still be a person who gives and receives love and affection; a person who is compassionate and concerned; a person who enjoys verbal and non-verbal communication; a person who has a sense of humor; a person who maintains old skills and talents; and a person who responds to the experience of new information. What does the person with Dementia need? (You might use the following list to evaluate present efforts and guide future ones.)

 

To feel connected. To have a sense of belonging

To feel competent To be able to share

To be useful To be respected

To be successful To be appreciated

To be loved and to love To have a sense of control

To have a sense of hope 

 

Since persons with dementia increasingly have no past or no future (a spiritual gift?) they need to be addressed in the present. Being in the present is specifically what many persons have difficulty with in ministry. When the ordinary person visits a friend in the hospital, what is often the topic of conversation? The past and the future. "Did the doctor come in yet today?" "What have the doctors said about your condition?" "What did you have for breakfast?" "How long do you think you are going to be in here?" Some persons with dementia cannot remember what happened five minutes ago, much less what they had for breakfast or when their doctor last visited. They might not even understand where they are or why they are there. In fact, this 'new place' might become the topic of conversation, even complaint. "I don't want to be here." "Will you take me home?"

 

What does the caregiver/visitor say or do in this situation? Keep in the moment. Keep in the present. One day, at a long-term care community, I engaged a resident who was looking for his wife. I knew that he had been widowed for at least a couple of years, but that information was in the past. It was not present. So after some conversation about his wife (tell me about her, etc) I volunteered to take the person on a walk to search for his wife. I knew that all I needed to do was to change the environment and/or the subject of conversation, and the person would 'forget' that he had been looking for his wife. We went outside (safe to do so in this retirement community) and in the process began talking about the weather and the flowers. After a few moments, I invited the resident to rest and enjoy the beauty around him. He thought that was a good idea, sat down and enjoyed the view, totally forgetting about his search, because now the search itself was a part of the past. A few moments later, this resident might have gone on a new search for his wife, but it would have been a new search, not a continuation of the old one.

 

Try bringing items on your visit that you can talk about. Photos are good. Perhaps a pet (if it is allowed and welcomed in the community). Remember that a person with dementia may not be able to process things cognitively like others can, but they can still see, feel, smell and touch. Use these immediate sensory abilities to guide your conversation. What is around the room? Is your chair hard or soft? I like the color of your blouse. What colors do you like? How do they make you feel?

 

Touch can be very effective in ministry with a person with dementia. Never touch a person with dementia from behind in that it might startle them enough to take a swing at you. Always approach a person with dementia from the front, where they can easily see you. Ease in gently rather than quickly. If it feels appropriate, reach out to touch a hand or a shoulder but be ready to stop immediately if the person pulls away. Once a person with dementia feels comfortable with your presence, a light touch of the hand might be welcomed and assist the resident to focus on you and your conversation.

 

Use the senses as your ally as you speak with a person who has dementia. A 'surprise box' can be as simple as a shoe box with a hole at one end. Place an item, any item, into the box and see what the reactions are when the resident reaches in the hole and touches the item. Possible items: a spoon from the kitchen, tissue from the bathroom, a pine cone from a vacation, cotton from the nursing station, even a piece of carpet from the resident room that has been refurbished. Then engage in dialogue. "What does it feel like?" "Do you like it?" "What does it cause you to think of?" "What is it? (although some residents might not be able to remember the names of items)"

 

What about getting some water-based paint (like the powdered stuff that water needs to be added) and finger paint the sun, or the experience of being hot, or the warmth of a kitten. Again, anything in the moment is good.

 

And don't forget about religious expression. For those whom you know it is appropriate, what about hymn sings (one verse only from memory), or lead in a simple devotion (Psalm 23 is a favorite, but don't be surprised if a number of residents 'chime in' on the reading), or use the Lord's Prayer (again, even persons with advanced dementia often remembers this ritual. Touching persons with their past while not requiring them to remember the past is an important principle to remember.

 

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Lutheran Homes Center for Spirituality and Aging

Closing - Prayer for November 

 

              
   Moravian Blessing      

                              give thanks 

 

Come, Lord Jesus, our guest to be
And bless these gifts
Bestowed by Thee.
And bless our loved ones everywhere, 

And keep them in Your loving care.

Contact Information

Sabrina Evans