WHEN TWO SIDES ARE STUCK IN CONFLICT

In today's news, two titan forces are stuck in their views, possibly resulting in our  government shut-down.

 

No one is willing to compromise.  The eagle EGOs are flying.

 

Have you ever been in a situation like this, or watched two sides lock horns?

 

Currently this is happening with two of our family members.

 

Both sides have valid points.  However, a very special relationship could be destroyed for life if they don't come together.

 

So what do you do watching these conflicts in politics, between two people you know, or your own conflict with someone?

 

Trying to change opinions doesn't work when raging egos are involved, so it's best

to take a spiritual perspective.

 

Observing Conflicts Between Others

 

Sometimes people attract these situations because there is something they need to see in their lives.  They needed this lesson for growth. Often we don't know that we are on the wrong track until we hit a wall.  We wake up.  This is not the way it has to be, but for some, it does.

 

And, if you are watching this happen to others, and you can play peace maker, Great!  But, if not, hold the light for them in your mind's eye.  See the two sides coming together in love.  Be careful not to try to will this to happen.  See the picture and let it go. For some, it's best they part, even if it's for a little while until they both cool off.   We don't know what is best for their personal growth.  Maybe a heated argument is best for those who haven't communicated at all.

 

Listen, but try not to take sides.  Know we are all one, and we are one with our Higher Self.  Be the light, and know that eventually they will come together.

 

Try not to be dragged into their stuff.  Stay present with your feelings and thoughts.  Observe them impartially.  Ask yourself,  "What in me, needed to witness this conflict?" Perhaps there is something you need to work out too. 

 

Mindfulness releases the tension and keeps you balanced and calm so that you are not dragged into their "stuff."  Stay present with your feelings, thoughts, and emotions.  Impartially observe what is going on inside of you, without judgement.

 

If You Are In Conflict With Someone

 

Ask yourself, "Is it important to be right or more important to show love and understanding?" 

 

In some cases, it is important to stand up for your rights.  But, it's also how you approach the situation.  Face-to-face meetings are the best.  Start out with the old "I felt (bad, angry, upset) when you________."

 

Do not let your frustrations with someone drag on.  Try to resolve the conflict as soon as possible.

 

Again, as in all cases, stay present with your feelings and thoughts.  Be careful not to suppress, and stuff your feelings. 

 

Bad News in the Media

 

Everyday we are challenged to stay balanced with bad news in the 24/7 news cycle.

 

 Ask yourself, "How am I feeling right now?"  Allow those uncomfortable feelings to come up.  Your awareness acts like a laser, dissipating them.  Again, try not to stuff those feelings down.  When you spotlight them with Mindfulness, they leave on their own.

 

This is important when news of any type spins you into fear.  Embrace your fear with love.  "Fear and love cannot occupy the same space." 

 

Despite what is happening in the world, have faith, and know you will always be Ok.  Why?  Because you are one with your Higher Power.  Remember, this is faith in action. 

 

Love, Light and Blessings.

Janet and Walter

 

 

 

 

Here I am with our oldest son Ryan.  He surprised me with a trip t to the San Diego Zoo for my birthday last week. It was just the two of us, our special time to strengthen our bond. It's great if you can give someone a gift, but if you can give them a memory, it's even more special.  They will never forget.  I will never forget our great mom and son time together.

I graduate to become a Zoo docent next week, and I am so excited.  Finally finished this UCLA college class credit.  Hadn't taken a final or a midterm exam in 30 years, but I did it.  Keeping my fingers crossed for the results.

Learned a lot about conflicts in the animal kingdom. More importantly, I learned how the Universe always provides for them,  and especially for us humans.

Love,

 Janet

 

 

Coming Soon, "Your Happiness is Within"

 
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