Mr. and Mrs. Love Lab: Everyone has their ideas about relationships.  John Gottman did the research. The founder of the well-regarded Love Lab (www.lovelabresearch.com) in Seattle, Gottman has been a leader in the  serious study of relationship dynamics and satisfaction for over 30  years, and he's also skilled at distilling his knowledge into readable  and interesting books. Couples with young children might find something they can relate to in his latest book like "And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan For Preserving Marital Intimacy And Rekindling Romance. After Baby Arrives"- which despite the suggestive title is mostly about having a great marriage. Others in longer relationships might find some helpful ideas in "Ten Lessons To Transform Your Marriage." Don't be put off by the overly-prescribed titles-that's just marketing and packaging.  These books, which Gottman wrote with his Love Lab co-founder and wife, psychologist Julie Schwartz Gottman, have a lot of wisdom to be mined.  Also worth reading: the fascinating section on Gottman and his ability to analyze and even predict relationship obstacles in Malcolm Gladwell's "Blink."

Pink Proceeds: In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I'll be recommending one item in each weekly newsletter this month that helps raise funds for the cause. This week's pick is Bobbi Brown's Pink Ribbon Collection, a limited edition lip set in colors of pink shimmer and sand pink. Chic for mom, it's also cool for teens and tweens. $30 at Bobbi Brown counters in department stores.

World Bling: My latest jewelry find is the World Pendant, designed by Manhattan mom and jewelry designer Kelly Gerber. The round charm is engraved with a world map and is available in gold or silver, with or without diamonds. It can be turn it into a special keepsake by engraving it with your child's name! Starts at $75. Available in children's and adult sizes at Yoyamart (15 Gansevoort Street, 212-242-5571), or www.kellygerber.com.

Fat Furniture: Moms and dads with a taste for modern design will want to eat up the original fatboy pillow by dwell. One of the most comfortable oversized pillows in the world, it comes in striking geometric prints, which makes them a good fit in either a child's or a grown-up's room. $299. Available at www.designpublic.com.

*Joy Sherwood is the Style Director of New York Family

Pumpkin Patch: There's nothing like exposing children to the farm life...in the city, and at the Queens County Farm Museum families have the opportunity to pick pumpkins, run around an amazing corn maze, meet some friendly animals, and go on a hayride. Details: The farm-museum is open from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m., on Saturday, Oct. 13, and Sunday, Oct. 14, and on Saturday night the three-acre maze is open to about 9 p.m. Adults: $7, children ages 4-11, $4. Free for ages 3 and under. 73-50 Little Neck Parkway Floral Park, New York 11004-1129. (718) 347-3276. www.queensfarm.org. (All Ages)

Kid Culture A-List: The seventh annual CultureFest 2007, hosted by NYC & Company, brings more than 100 New York arts and cultural institutions together at Battery Park to introduce their upcoming seasons (i.e. have lots of fun stuff) for families. It's the A-List of local kid culture, including the Children's Museum of Manhattan, Central Park Zoo, and New York Hall of Science, among others. There'll be lots of live music, from salsa rhythms to young Opera singers, and lots of yummy ethnic food. Details: The fest will be both on Saturday, Oct. 13, and Sunday, Oct. 14, from 11 am to 5:30 p.m., rain or shine, at the section of Battery Park, at State Street and Battery Place.  (All Ages)

Nursery School Admissions: Your Questions Answered! Parents interested in knowing more about the admissions process for independent nursery schools-or who just want to get some questions answered-can attend a free New York Family-sponsored seminar on Saturday, Oct. 13, from 12 pm to 2 pm. The event will be moderated by Roxana Reid of Smart City Kids, one of the city's most well-regarded school admissions consulting groups, and will include representatives from the nursery school programs at Claremont Prep and Tribeca Community, both in lower Manhattan, and from Union Temple and the International School of Brooklyn, yes, both from Brooklyn. The event will be hosted byRichard Meier on Prospect Park, a new luxury residential development, at its sales office at 78 Leonard Street (between Broadway and Church Street) in lower Manhattan. For more information or to sign up, contact Stephanie Musso at smusso@manhattanmedia.com or 212-894-5441.