Thanks to so many of you who wished me and Raymond a heart-felt congratulations for our recent announcement of engagement!  We're having fun brainstorming many options to exchange nuptials including how, when and where.  Of course I'll share with you what we choose to do.

I decided to do something that I didn't think I'd do.  I was fairly against the idea of it.  For a number of reasons I thought I'd always teach people to read hands in the flesh, in person.  Well, I initiated an experiement starting Jan. 11.  Six people are in the middle of my experiment, doing something I didn't think I'd do; teaching hand analysis over the phone!  Using my current student work book, with illustrations and a fair bit of associated verbage, the students are really learning!  Their feedback in the middle of the 11 week course supports the process of teaching beginning classes over the phone.  Last week we also used an on-line tool to see the hand prints over the computer with me pointing out the specific markings as they were taught.  From 'command central' all was successful.

Of course, much of the real learning comes from reading and touching naked hands. Implementing what is learned is pivitol to the process. There is an energy in the hands that ignites the intuition as well as the learned database.  So, it's true, hands can be read from photos, hand prints and live hands.  Also, just about anyone can learn to read and decode hands and fingerprints.  To learn more click here. 

Thank you for sharing in my journey of illuminating life purpose around the world!  If you'd like a follow up reading, to delve more deeply into your interior life, do call so we can set up a consulation.  Imagine where it might take you.

Another Way to View "Upset"

Last month, Rational Emotive Therapy (RET) was one of the primary topics of study in the Spiritual Psychology Master's program I'm enrolled in. I'm getting a kick out of reading about and practicing this therapy because it points out how we humans maintain neurotic behavior. I love this because I'm learning that I'm not really crazy at all. I have successfully clutched to my share of emotional and psychological disturbances. How about you?

Before you answer, let me explain that this psychological strategy is designed to examine irrational beliefs, judgments and negative self-talk. One example of an irrational belief is:

"One must be perfectly competent, adequate and achieving to consider himself worth-while."

RET assists in the exploration of alternative points of view to promote a more positive approach to oneself and life. Ultimately, with the exploration, practice of seeing things differently and breaking free of patterns of negative self-talk, we create the opportunity for accepting responsibility for our beliefs and feelings.

In the example above, about the belief in needing to be perfect, a person strives for the impossible. Being perfect is impossible! All attempts to be fault-less may be considered neurotic. Larry, one of my students' recently pointed out, "We are perfectly imperfect."

The neurotic behavior can be clearly seen between the occurrence of a particular event (A) and the (negative) emotional outcome (C).

Kay's scenario:

Set up: I took great care, studied and spent an appropriate amount of time to complete a term paper for school.

Event "A": Term paper returned to me to redo

Outcome "C" (my negative emotional response): Great distress

To pinpoint the irrational thought or belief, I have to look between "A" and "C". I must freeze the picture and look at the stimuli between the term paper coming back to me to be redone and my distress. This is "B".

A                B               C

Returned Paper                                  Great Distress

Upon dissecting "B", my internal dialog and associated emotion, I realized that I placed tremendous worth on being perfect and being in control of the outcome of the grade for the paper. Of course I wanted 100% on the term paper. I not only didn't get a 100%, I was asked to redo the paper. To me that means "F"! My first big fat "F" - ever - in my entire life!

A                B               C

Returned Paper    REDO = "F"/Imperfect    Great Distress

By me holding to the belief (and illusion) that I must control outcomes and I must be perfect, I created a psychological disturbance (a.k.a. neurotic behavior). By recognizing it as it is, I can move into acceptance much quicker, take responsibility to see why the paper was returned and see it all in a new perspective.

Now, let's have some fun... while learning.

"Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of them. -Epictatus

-Marti Brasovan, Miami, Florida

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