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Love in the Afterlife
by Hollister Rand
What happens to romantic love after we die?
Don't panic when I say that the way we experience love in the afterlife is different from the way we experience love here on the earth plane.
First and foremost, in the afterlife, love is love. What I mean by this is that the spirits don't differentiate between love for a father or mother or child or spouse. Love in the afterlife is without boundaries, without limitations, without conditions.
In contrast, most love we experience on earth is conditional. If it weren't, people wouldn't fall in or out of it so easily! Even in the best of loving romantic relationships, a loved one's death can feel like a broken promise.
In the afterlife, feelings that we associate with romantic love and all love (feeling understood, appreciated for who we are, being complete and whole in the presence of another, being energized and excited about life, being "one" with another, having a sense of safety and peace) is the natural state for all of us. Spirits have explained to me that we are immersed in love after we die, surrounded and filled completely with it.
Is there sex in the afterlife?
No. It's simply not necessary. The sexual aspect of romance doesn't continue from earthly experience into the afterlife for a couple of reasons. The first, and most obvious reason, is that we no longer have the physical equipment necessary for sex after we leave our bodies behind. Another reason is that there isn't the need or the drive to procreate. This doesn't mean, however, that we aren't close to one another in the afterlife. Without the density of physical bodies, we can experience all aspects of those we love without separation caused by misunderstanding or the limits of personal perspective.
If we're widowed and remarry, do we reunite with all of our spouses after we die?
Yes. And depending on how you look at it, that's the good news or the bad news!
During a spirit circle, a spirit who identified himself as husband Ralph, spoke with three ladies in the group. He expressed his love to each and mentioned that he looked forward to the day when they would play cards together again. I was puzzled by all of this until it was explained that the three ladies were bridge playing friends who had married the same man (not at the same time).
The marriage contract on earth includes the clause "Till death us do part." However, this doesn't mean that spouses in spirit don't express love for the one they've left behind. It is, however, a love without jealousy. Some former spouses have even taken credit for helping to bring a new love or marriage partner into their beloved's life!
Does the drama of love gone wrong persist beyond death?
As a medium, I've chosen to work at the frequency of love. In this space of divine, unconditional love, those in spirit express clarity about their own part in what either helped build love on earth or destroy it. For instance, during a recent session, a husband in spirit made it clear to his wife through me that he was very sorry for being an abusive drunk. He hadn't learned how to be a husband or a father because his own father had abandoned the family when he was young. His wife was delighted to learn from her husband that he is around his a son-in-law who is the loving father to their grandchildren. In this way he can participate in raising children in a loving way from his place in the spirit world.
In the afterlife, the drama of love gone wrong doesn't persist beyond death because the cycle of blame is broken. Love prevails, heals and changes people (and spirits).
Does the love from the spirits affect you as a medium?
When the spirits express love to those they've left behind, they give me a feeling that is fulfilling and warm, gentle yet powerful. During a session, my heart can become so filled with love that tears threaten to spill down my cheeks and I feel as though I'm going to burst. The intensity of this love cannot be limited by our definitions of love or relationship.
Many times I've wished that I can give this feeling to those who come to hear from their loved ones in spirit. I can only hope that, in some way, they feel it, too. | 
