Dear Harlan,

Am I wrong for not trusting women when it comes to relationships? I feel like most college-age women aren't serious in what they want and just want to play someone. I'm starting to lose faith that there are girls who want real relationship with guys. They say it's what they want, but they don't act like it.

Seeking Something Real

 

Dear Seeking,

Yes, you're wrong. You got it all wrong, man. You're too resentful and too busy making excuses to find a serious girlfriend. If you dated more, you'd find a lot of women looking for something serious. The secret is that dating isn't supposed to be so serious. It's supposed to be fun. Most women want to get serious with a man who knows how to have fun. There are millions of women looking for good men who aren't jerks. Yes, some women like to be treated like dirt, but not all of them. Dating lots of men isn't playing games or wrong. It's how you figure out what you love and don't love. Talk to more women. Date more of them. They are everywhere! Put yourself on an online dating service. Get set up. Talk to women you want to meet. Talk to women during daylight hours (not as creepy as doing it at night). Talk to them while sober (scarier, but easier to look into their eyes). Date a lot of women. Don't force anything too serious too fast. The ones you have the most fun with will become the ones who want to get serious with you. Do this for the next year and you'll discover that you have endless options. So, start pretending to be more fun and you'll find more women who want to get serious with you.

 

 

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