Dear Harlan,

My girlfriend has become a totally angry girl ever since we moved here to go to school. Every time I go to campus, she always makes snide remarks about how I'm going to pick up girls or leave her for a girl, or whatever. It has gotten to the point where I feel like I'm not allowed to be social at all. I have never cheated on her, and her accusations are completely unwarranted. She stresses out about school 24/7 and takes it out on me, and is never happy. I love her very much, but she is starting to make me think that she's going to be a grumpy old woman the rest of her life. And here is the kicker - I'm in a lease with her for a year.

Stuck with Grumpy

Dear Stuck with Grumpy,

Can you say "sublet"? Here's the deal: She thinks you're going to find someone better because she's completely insecure and doesn't think she's good enough. The more she expresses this to you, the more likely you're going to start believing she's right and think there's someone better. Explain that you think she's the best, and that's why you're together. Explain that part of being in a relationship is making choices. You choose her and she chooses to be with you. If she can't feel comfortable with your choice, then this will not work. She's not grumpy - just terribly insecure.