"By
understanding that death is neither an enemy nor an ending and that there is no
judgment anywhere in the universe, we can
release our fear-based notions of punishment rather than correction, judgment
rather than support, and an eternity of idleness rather than limitless
opportunity for growth."
Portland, OR, June 10,
2010 -- These are the words of author Terri Daniel, from her new book, "Embracing
Death: A New Look at Grief, Gratitude and God." The
book explores
cultural and religious myths about birth, death and the afterlife, and offers a path to alternative
perceptions via the use of intuitive tools such as meditation and after-death
communication. Terri's work has been
praised by theologians, physicians and grief counselors as providing revolutionary insights
into death and dying that offer enormous comfort to the bereaved.
"In Western culture, our fear
of death is so all-encompassing that most of us neither live nor die peacefully
because of it," Terri explains. "The idea of death as a terrifying experience
to be avoid at all costs is instilled in most children by everything from
religious doctrine to video games. Even the so-called 'positive' images of
death -- sitting next to Jesus on a throne or floating on a cloud playing a
harp for eternity -- keep us from a meaningful understanding of the sacred
transition from physical to non-physical existence. These images do nothing to
explain or justify our purpose on earth, and they offer a stagnant, rather
pointless afterlife."
Terri's previous book,
A Swan in Heaven:
Conversations Between Two Worlds, is based
on after-death dialogs between Terri and her son Danny, who died from a
degenerative metabolic disorder at age 16. Her experience with Danny, during
his life and his afterlife, prompted her to become a hospice
volunteer and grief guidance facilitator with a unique metaphysical focus. Since the publication of
A Swan in Heavenin 2008, Terri
has traveled around the U.S. speaking to bereavement groups, hospices, churches and private gatherings helping the
bereaved to navigate the grieving process with an inspiring, non-traditional
perspective. Via guided meditation and
intuition-development processes, her audiences learn to see the connection
between a death and the shift in
consciousness it provides for the bereaved. In this sense, any death, no matter
how tragic, has a purpose, and the ability to see that purpose can
help the bereaved feel less victimized.
"Yes,
my books and teachings are channeled," says Terri. "But I don't consider myself
to be a psychic or a medium. We are all capable of receiving guidance from the
higher realms. I just happened to have
an experience that opened that conduit for me, so I think of myself as a spiritual
teacher who has a little help from the Other Side. It is not a special gift;
everybody is able to receive these messages."
Terri
has worked with grieving individuals from every religious perspective,
particularly parents who've lost children, and they all have one burning question... Why would God let this terrible thing happen?
"It depends on what you
think God is," Terri explains. "If you assign human
characteristics to the concept of God, and you believe that this God will
reward you with a conflict-free life in exchange for your devotion to a
particular set of beliefs, then you're going to question those beliefs whenever
conflict arises. This questioning is one of the hidden gifts of grief because
it presents an extraordinary opportunity for growth and expansion."
Terri teaches that pain
forces us to change our positions, and the pain of grief is our greatest
teacher.
"If you get a leg
cramp from sitting in an awkward posture, the pain will signal you to change
your physical position in order to regain your sense of comfort. Emotional pain
signals us in the same way, and this is particularly true with the pain of
loss, whether it's a death, a relationship, a job or a house in
foreclosure," says Terri. "We can respond to these events with panic
and helplessness, or we can find meaning and purpose in the event, allowing it
to lead us to a higher understanding of human experience. In this view, illness, loss, trauma
and death are not experiences to be avoided, but to be embraced with gratitude
for the shifting of perceptions and gifts of growth they provide."
Thousands of bereaved individuals have found an
unexpected peace through Terri's books and workshops. Lisa Melaerts, past president of The Compassionate Friends
Las Vegas chapter says, "I see a need for an alternative
approach to grief, as many bereaved are looking for bigger answers. I've
watched Terri work with an audience using guided meditation, and the room
shifted from heavy sadness to hope and amazement. "
Dr. Ken Stoller, a pediatrician who
lost his teenage son in a train collision, found that Terri's counsel helped
him shift his perspective and feel more grounded.
"Terri's support was key to my surviving the death of my
son," says Dr. Stoller. "She
addresses death with profound analysis, compassion and insight. We all need to draw on this type of wisdom."
Terri believes that the
time has come to take death out of the closet, and because baby boomers are now watching their parents
die and facing their own mortality, death must be looked at in the harsh light
of truth.
"Many popular spiritual
teachers are beginning to address this, and I'd like to think that we are
pioneering this new territory, which is not new at all, but quite
ancient," Terri says. "As spiritual teachers, have a responsibility
to include death and after-death in our work. I hope that we will be the first
generation in post-industrial America can talk about death in an intelligent, conscious way. "
Embracing
Death: A New Look at Grief, Gratitude and God, will be released by O
Books in September 2010. For more information or to obtain a review copy,
contact Amy Henry at 541.549.4004 or
press@danieldirect.net.
Terri Daniel
is an author, spiritual teacher and Certified Transition Guide who works
with
assistance from the Other Side to advance a metaphysical perspective on
birth, death and the afterlife. Her recent book, "A Swan In Heaven" is
based on
after-death dialogs between Terri and her son, who left the physical
plane
at age 16. Her new book, "Embracing Death: A
New Look at Grief, Gratitude and God," examines cultural myths about
the afterlife and offers a path to alternative perceptions via
meditation,
visualization and channeling.
Terri conducts workshops and metaphysical study
groups around the U.S. and also counsels bereaved individuals by
offering
alternative perspective
s on the experience of grief and loss. She has
spoken on
the topic of conscious death to community gatherings,
churches, bereavement groups and spiritual conferences, and her
articles have been published in Whole Life Times, Neurology Today,
Exceptional
Parent, Pure Inspiration, Special Child, Children's Hospice.org and
related websites. More about Terri can be found at
www.AfterlifeAwareness.com