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ENERGY VAMPIRES
Most of you are looking for ways to have more energy so I am surprised at how many of you continue to associate with people that you don't really want to be with. Why are we so afraid to let people go in our lives that serve no purpose but to bring us down?
One of my client's came in completely exhausted, when we backtracked to see where the exhaustion had begun, we traced it to some individuals she had spent time with that are very negative. I gave her the homework of making a list of all the people she spends time with. On one side of the paper she was to write down the people that she feels terrific with and on the other side the people that drain her energy.
When we reviewed her list it was very revealing to see all the people that she didn't really want to be with but had not thought to just say, "No" to. The tension was already lifting from her face. Why is it we forget that we are at choice of who we give our time and energy to? Our free time is so precious these days, why would we want to spend it doing things with people we don't really even like that much?
Each time I have talked with her since she has been amazed at how much better she feels. A middle column has been added for those individuals she is unsure of. She now has an arrow pointing where she thinks they will end up. It has been incredibly helpful for her to notice and know that she can choose the people she actually wants to spend time with and let go of all the others.
We seem to forget that we are at choice and we do not need to spend time with others that don't feed our spirit. Even at work we are at choice of trying to talk things out, asking for a transfer, quitting or just not emotionally connecting with those people that drain us. Clear the air and make sure you haven't made up a story about what is truly going on in a relationship.
I recall years ago being friends with a woman that was terrific as long as I was unhappy, honestly we were both pretty unhappy when we met. As soon as I found my happiness she seemed to only say things that brought me down. I felt judged and unhappy each time I spent time with her when even on the phone.
In my new found happiness I decided I didn't want anyone in my life that spurred unhappy feelings in me. It was difficult to tell her how I felt, but after I did I was so relieved and felt a weight lift off my shoulders. I never looked back. She had served her purpose in my life and I was complete without our relationship. | 
