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 Cootamundra Wattle Australia
Pretend you don't care!
If you have a quizzical look on your face, let me explain. Have you ever been in a situation where you just 'had' to help out in some crisis or other? Without thinking you just "got on with it" and it wasn't until later that you realized what you had actually done.
Well this has happened to me on a few occasions. I'll share one of them with you. We were living on our yacht in a Marina and late in the afternoon I had reason to visit the marina office. The lady in the office was alone and running around like a chicken with it's head cut off trying to do a dozen things at once so I asked "Can I help with anything". She replied that is was a bit late in the day but if I was free the next day she would love some help.
The next morning at 9.00am I went up to the office ready to lend a hand and the minute I walked in she gave me a list of people and said "Can you call these people up and see if they want tickets for the Xmas Ball at the yacht club. I forgot to do this and it is all organized and we don't have the tables full. Many of these people went last year and I haven't been able to get anyone to sign up."
So I immediately got on the phone, rang one of the numbers and said " Oh hi, this is Joan from the yacht club, we haven't got your numbers yet for the Xmas Ball. How many will be at your table this year? Then I told them about the great band that was booked and the fun 'we' had last year. I got a booking for a table of six straight away. If I had simply asked them if they wanted tickets I wouldn't have gotten the same response I'm sure.
The lady in the office was thrilled and I continued until the list was completed. My sales pitch worked because I was enthusiastic, engaged the caller in conversation and was totally focused on filling the tables. I was actually having fun.
I DIDN'T CARE about myself at all. I didn't care what they thought of me or my approach or whether they liked me or thought I was a bit over the top or whatever. It had nothing to do with me.
Imagine for a moment how you would feel if you were able to do what you want to do with that same mindset. If the result wasn't a big deal to you personally. How much better would your approach be and how much more authentic could you be without the nerves.
You may be going for an interview. You may have met someone you really like. You may be in sales or have a business. You may be taking some kind of exam. Imagine if you didn't care about the outcome. The pressure would be off. You could have fun with it. You could really let loose and say what you would love to say or do something the way you would love to do it. Very liberating.
The next time you feel pressured to "perform" pretend you don't care and that you are doing it to help someone else and 'switch' your mindset. Then I would love to hear from you, and please, feel free to share this newsletter with your friends, colleagues or family members by clicking 'forward' in your email options.
COACHES CHALLENGE 
Think of something that you need to do to get a result in your life or work; something that is challenging you in some way. Imagine for a moment that you have no investment in the outcome and then do what you would love to do with this in mind. Totally remove yourself from the situation mentally.
It may even be something that you aren't looking forward to doing but it is necessary. Whatever it is - stand firmly in the belief that it is of no consequence to you at all and GO FOR IT!........
I'd love to hear from you if you decide to take this challenge. | 
