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"Follow your bliss and don't be afraid, and doors will open where you didn't know they were going to be." - Joseph Campbell
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Greetings!
Welcome to the latest of the increasingly sporadic editions of A Mile in My Shoes. Since you last heard from me four months ago, I completed 2 years of running at least a mile each day on 31st December, I changed the twice-weekly possibility reminder to become the once-a-week Monday 8 a.m. Boost, and I've written over 90 posts in my Mile each day blog. It's now 2012, ten years since I started my journey of discovery as a coach, beginning with my coach training. I spent an hour the other day in a cafe, jotting down the most important things that I've learned on my coaching journey. My main article is the 39 most important lessons I've learned along the way. |
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The following is a list of the 39 most important lessons I've learned on my 10-year coaching journey so far.
I've learned that:
On Potential
- We are all wounded in one way or another, yet we are still creative resourceful and whole.
- We all have infinitely more potential than we use or are even aware of.
- We spend a lot of time learning and trying to perfect ourselves, when in most cases we know all we need to know, and we just need to get out of our own way.
- If your performance is your potential minus your own interference, you have to learn to remove your own interference.
On Following your dreams - A great many people reach the end of their lives and realise that they forgot to chase their dreams.
- If you don't follow your dreams, they will either come back to haunt you or you will find yourself simply existing rather than really living.
On Just doing it - People nearly always regret what they haven't done, far more than what they have done.
- This day is the only day that you can be sure that you have.
On Happiness - On their death bed no one expresses regret that they didn't spend enough time at work.
- Material goods bring pleasure for a very short time, experiences and spending time with those you love bring lasting pleasure.
- Each day is unique and is full of possibility, and you will only be aware of it if you stop regretting what you have and haven't done, and stop worrying about what you should or shouldn't do.
- Being in the present moment is very important, and yet hard.
- You might as well enjoy the journey because the destination is only a short stop-off on the journey anyway.
- Your life purpose will invariably involve some form of making a difference to others in the end.
- Gratitude is probably the most powerful tool for being happy.
- There are techniques that you can use to change your mood and the way you feel.
- You will never be happy unless you are true to yourself and not to someone else's ideal of how you should be.
On Planning - If you make plans you should hold them lightly because life will invariably give you something you hadn't planned for.
- New Year's resolutions rarely work.
On Habits - Establishing new inspiring habits that you do every day really does work and make a difference.
- Seeing if you can run a mile ever day for a month can sometimes lead to you still doing it more than 740 days later.
On Choosing - There is always a space between what happens and how we react to what happens, and that space always contains a choice.
- Your life is not the result of your intelligence, your education or your talents but the result of the choices that you have made.
- It is never to late to choose something different and create a new life.
- Taking care of yourself is not a selfish act because it helps you fill up your tank so you've got more to give to others.
On Listening - People get enormous value, and find it unique, just being listened to.
- Listening requires you to be present.
- We have all the answers to our life's challenges and problems within us and having someone to help us look at our life from different perspectives will help us to find those answers.
- Real listening involves suspending your own thoughts, opinions, judgements and agenda and being curious about the person you're listening to.
On Attaching meaning - People don't always mean what you think they mean.
- We are all meaning-making machines.
- There is what actually happens and then there's the meaning that we attach to what happens.
On Intuition - Your intuition speaks to you and never lies.
- The answers aren't always in your conscious mind, they're often in the "other than conscious" mind or your body.
- Writing down what's in your head and your heart, particularly what you're feeling, can release answers from your subconscious.
- Your intuition never lies. You just need to get better at interpreting its messages through practice.
On Mottos - "Just take the next step" is a great motto for your life.
- "Follow your bliss" is also a great motto for your life.
- "If anyone can, I can" is yet another great motto for your life.
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That's all for this month, and don't forget if anyone can, you can!
Sincerely,
Tony Phillips The Coaching Approach
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