So why are you still getting caught in the same
old patterns of behaviour?
You've created the empowering vision of where you
want to be and when you picture it, it's very exciting.
When you look back, you can remember times when
you had some fantastic successes, and when you
think of yourself in action at those times you realise
that you do have a lot of potential that you don't
often give yourself credit for.
But yet, you're still here doing the same things that
have kept you exactly where you are for a long, long
time. So what is going on?
I have a theory that Success = Destination Vision +
Potential - Limiting Beliefs.
Now it's probably not news to you that you have
limiting beliefs. They've been very familiar to you
for a large proportion of your life. You have even
spent time working out what they are, and telling
yourself that they are just your gremlin, your saboteur,
your internal dialogue and not the real you.
But even though logic says that you've sorted that out
and addressed those beliefs, they still come back,
and come back, and .....
So what does it take to actually break through a
pattern of behaviour brought about by limiting beliefs?
Firstly, you need to acknowledge that your limiting
belief served a positive purpose once upon a time.
Originally it protected you from going charging out of
your safety zone and becoming a figure of ridicule and
looking stupid. You also need compassion for
yourself for hanging on to this belief for so long. Self
criticism at this point won't be helpful.
You need courage, determination and the single-
mindedness to break the pattern of behaviour. This
will only happen when you realise that enough is
enough and you really are willing to address
it. There is no place for toleration now unless you want
to come back to this old familiar place yet again.
Finally, choose an action and then act. This is not a
time for planning. Planning will give you the
opportunity to water down what you know you need to
do and, from experience, this is a slippery slope.
So the big question is:
"Are you prepared to think about, logicalise and
then tolerate your key limiting belief for just a little bit
longer?"
or
"Are you ready to address your key limiting belief
now and move beyond your existing limits?"
Thanks for reading. The next issue will be on the 4th
of July.
" by Ian McDermott and Ian
Shircore. Another extremely practical book from Ian
McDermott, this time with another co-author. I
particularly liked the middle section of the book on
Beginnings, Transitions and Endings, but then the
other parts were really good too. *****
