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Tony's Coaching Tip Let the river flow
February 2007

Greetings!

Welcome to the February 2007 issue of Tony's Coaching Tip.

Once again it's time for me to look at what is going on in my life right now and identify what the most recent lessons have been for me.

I started training to become an NLP practitioner during the last month. For those of you that aren’t familiar with NLP, it stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming and is "the study of the structure of subjective experience". In simpler terms, NLP looks at how the mind-body works and the language we use to describe and categorise our world and make sense of our experience. It also looks at the sequences that repeat, and the patterns of thought and behaviour that help us or hinder us.

You probably wish you hadn't asked, but then again maybe you didn't.

The training, so far, has been fascinating and this month's feature article is born out of a new insight I have gained as a result.

I hope you enjoy the tip this month and, if you do, please forward it on to friends and colleagues and ask them if they would like to subscribe too.

in this issue
  • Quote of the month
  • Bits and pieces
  • Feature: Let the river flow

  • Bits and pieces
    Book & tea on windowsill

    Books

    "Thorsons Way of NLP (Thorsons Way of)" by Joseph O'Connor & Ian McDermott. Ian McDermott is leading my NLP training. His writing style, similar to his training style, is relaxed, informative, practical and without jargon. I have read a couple of other NLP books before, but this is by far the easiest to understand and the easiest to relate to your own life. It also highlights the difference that using NLP concepts and techniques can make in your life. *****


    Feature: Let the river flow
    Beaver dam on river

    Over the last month I have been looking at my marketing of my business. Although I spent 10 years in sales and marketing, I have done precious little of it for a long time now.

    My tried and trusted technique of business coming to me as a result of word of mouth, or just meeting people and enthusing about what I do, has been surprisingly successful up until now. However, this approach on its own has created a cycle of feast and famine, with far too much famine, for my liking.

    There is a lot of truth in the saying "If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got."

    So why does someone, who has a large amount of knowledge and experience of what works and what doesn’t when it comes to sales and marketing, only use one approach and avoid all other approaches? I can assure you that as an expert marketing avoider, I could give you many reasons and excuses for why other techniques and approaches wouldn’t work and why there is therefore no point in considering them.

    For all my eulogising on the merits of setting future intentions in a number of my past coaching tips, when the distinction was made on my NLP course between a problem frame and an outcome frame, I realised that I have been looking at marketing through a problem frame for all this time.

    In what tense do you think a problem frame might look at everything? You’ve got it – THE PAST! The problem frame is all about: what the problem is; how long it has existed; whose fault it is; who is to blame, what your worst experience is with the problem; and why it hasn’t been solved.

    When I see it in that light, I’m not surprised that I haven’t managed to address or solve the problem yet.

    Since redefining my marketing in an outcome frame, I have worked out where I want to be in a year, in 3 months and in 1 month. As a natural progression from this, I have created several marketing sub-projects to take me from where I am now to achieving those outcomes.

    Just that simple distinction has removed the accumulation of obstacles that had piled up and had created a dam in my marketing river.

    So my question for you is "which particular river within your job, business or life is currently blocked with obstacles and you can only see it through the frame of a problem?" For those of you who manage teams, the outcome frame also applies if you want to help team members reframe any problems they are currently facing.

    Identified the river? Good. Now ask yourself (or your team members) the following questions?


    "What do you want?"

    "How will you know when you have got it?"

    "What else in your life will improve when you get it?"

    "What resources do you already have which can help you achieve this outcome?"

    "What is something similar which you did succeed in doing?"

    "What is the next step?"


    Have fun reframing.

    Thanks for reading. Next issue will be on the 28th of March.

    Until next time,

    Tony

    Tony's Coaching Tip is published on the last Wednesday of each month to challenge, stimulate and inspire people who want to unlock their own potential and learn in the process. It is written by Tony Phillips, who coaches organisations & individuals to recognise and reach their true potential.

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    Quote of the month
    Tony (cropped)

    “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right.”

    – Henry Ford



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