kelly grace smith

August 17, 2011

 

In Evolution - being more of you:   

 

Change your mind...

 

So, as we concluded in the last message...

 

...mind is not the boss of you!

Seriously.

Mind is not more important, nor more powerful, than any other aspect of you: physical, emotional, or spiritual. Your mind -
thinking - is only one part of who you are. As such, it is only
one aspect of balancing you well.

Let's say you're willing to entertain this possibility for a
moment...what's next?

You begin to balance all of you - physical, emotional, mental
and spiritual - every day.

Balancing your life will require you to make some changes.
And that will bring about some challenges.

Why? Why does change create challenge?

Because we must struggle - "work hard" - to be worthy?
Because without suffering there is no real value?
Because anything worthwhile requires sacrifice?
Because life sucks and then you die?

No. No. No. And...no.

Change creates challenge first and foremost because we believe
it does. (There's your mind again!) And as we have said
before, what you believe runs your life!

However, change also creates challenge from a physics
perspective.

That is, you've oriented your life - your energies - in one
direction, so it will take some extra time and energy to re-orient your life in a different direction. Put another way, you've been
doing things a certain way for a long time, so it will take some time and energy to learn how to do them differently.

It's that simple. Change creates challenge. No big deal.

No drama necessary; unless you create the drama. Unless you
allow your mind to make it into a drama.

In order to create a life of balance - a life with more ease, enjoyment and empowerment - we must recalibrate and
rearrange the existing pieces of our lives.

We will need to:

1. Let go of some things.
2. Build some new habits.
3. Be awake, aware, conscious...every day.
4. Be open to seeing things differently.
5. Ground and consolidate new habits.
6. Maintain openness and flexibility.
7. Meet challenges fully: physically, emotionally, mentally,
    and spiritually.
8. Integrate changes thoroughly.

 This takes time. It also takes energy. Plus, you must want to change. And that's where it gets tricky.

Because lots of people do not want to change.

Even though their lives aren't working well at all...they do not
want to change.

That's cool. We all have a sacrosanct right to choose to live our
lives in whatever way we desire. It's called free will.

What's also true in our world right now though is...

...some people do want to change their lives; but they simply
do not possess the energy to do so.

I get that. I really, really get that. I've lived that.

People are stressed, depleted, addicted, numb, fearful, angry,
terrified; or simply empty and/or out of touch with reality. They can't even imagine having the time or energy to make changes.

Here's the thing though...

...if your life is not working well - or as well as you want it to - would you rather spend your energy continuing to pursue
what you know is not working?

Or would you rather spend that same energy trying something
that might work better? Sincerely?

If you are a "victim," you will choose the former. You will choose
to continue on the same path. Why?

Because you have built your identity on the belief that:

· That's the way the world works; life is hard.
· You are at the "effect" of your life - and other people - and not
  at the "cause" of your life.
· Your suffering, struggling, and sacrificing provides you with
  your self-worth.

You do not want to take a chance and make change; you want
someone else to do it for you.

They owe it to you, right? You've suffered, sacrificed, and
struggled "for them" all your life. You've cared and cared and
cared for others; it cannot possibly be true that you have to be
the one to change your life, can it?

If you are a "perpetrator/power seeker" you will also choose
not to change your life because you are in pursuit of power.

Pursuing power - over people, things, your own body, your mind,
your emotions, money, status, etc. - is what you have built
your identity on. Power is what you believe provides you with your self-worth. More power is always the answer for you. You
may even be addicted to power via constant manipulation,
control, activity, etc...of your self, of others, or both.

But the truth is...if you were genuinely "power-ful," then you
would be "full." You wouldn't need to pursue power over
anyone or anything. You would be full, balanced, at-one...with
you and within you.

Pursuit of power is about fear. Being a victim is about fear.

They are two sides of the same coin. Both are about needs within you that you have not tended to. And each of us is
one or the other, or a bit of both.

So, here's the thing...you get to choose whether or not you want step out of that paradigm; out of those beliefs.

Do you want the force - the energy - of your life to be based on being a victim or relentlessly pursuing "more" power? Another
way of saying that is; do you want your life to be grounded
in fear or love?

You choose.

Okay, now we've covered those who believe they are victims
and those who believe they are powerful. This is how these
people identify themselves - and gauge their self-worth - at a
foundational level.

This victim/perpetrator illusion runs our world.

For these people, life isn't working well; and they let you know
that in a variety of overt and covert ways. But they do not truly
want to change it; they want to suffer, complain, manipulate or
get others to carry them.

That's cool. (See some friends, family members, co-workers...
your self here?) As I said earlier, we all have a right to walk our own path in whatever way we choose.

So around and around these people go, complaining that their life
isn't working well, while at the same time perpetuating the same cycle and wondering why it's not working better.

For the most part, these people never truly learn, grow, mature
or evolve.

And because of that, around and around our world goes,
continuing to perpetuate the same cycle.

This is why the world doesn't change.
This is why our lives don't change.

We've built our identity based on an illusion of who we truly are. And our world is only too happy to perpetuate this illusion...

...including the illusion that change is hard!

Round and round we go believing in illusions and beliefs
that are false; that do not truly support us to learn, grow, mature...and evolve.

So, what about the rest of us? Those of us who want more.
Those of us who are prepared to choose more. Those of us:

· Who are willing to recognize it's not working well.
· Who accept that we do indeed have something to do with that.
· Who are ready to embrace some change - even though it may
  involve some challenge - and put our energy into making our
  life better, rather than perpetuating what's not working.

Perhaps we are only willing to do so because we are fed up with
the same sh*t, different day. Perhaps we have an ache inside of
us that will not go away. Perhaps there is a spark within us and
we know we can create a bonfire with it.

Perhaps we cannot seem to stop some things we no longer want
to do. Perhaps we've stopped truly experiencing our feelings. Perhaps we've stopped enjoying our life. Perhaps we are overwhelmed by our life.

Or perhaps...we just want more.

It doesn't matter why you want to change.

Don't allow your mind to make you justify your reasons or
defend your choices. That will discourage, distract, and dissuade you from actually making changes.

The mind likes to do that. That keeps you busy, busy, busy
with the mind, instead of loving all of you well. Because when
you love all of you well, you then possess the balance - and
the energy - to change your life.

As Nike says...just do it.

Change your mind. Do it differently. Change your life.

How? More next time.


    

 

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