June 20, 2011
In Evolution - being more of you:
Emotional and Sexual Maturity...
Without emotional health, well-being, and maturity...
you cannot mature sexually.That's right, you heard it;
you cannot sexually mature if
you do not emotionally mature.Why?
Lots of reasons; the simplest of which is that sexual maturity -
just like physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual maturity -
is an evolving process. As you deepen, enrich, and expand
your self...you grow and mature sexually.
Sex is also a "complete experience." That is, it is a holistic experience. It's physics again; when
all of you is engaging, experiencing, exploring, and expanding...the most enjoyable
and beneficial sexual experiences can be created.
Someone who is not able to grow and
mature emotionally doesn't have the experience, process, or tools to
also grow
sexually.
Sure, lots of people are able to
perform sex well, but that's
exactly what the words belie...
performance. Without emotional maturity a person
does not possess the ability to emotionally connect to their self or to others. Nor can they experience deep, expansive, transformative sexuality. Remember? Without emotion there is no enjoyment.
Sexuality is our most powerful evolutionary tool. You could call it
the "nuclear" tool for personal evolution. Sex is as integral to our
health, well-being, and balance as breath, water, food, exercise, and sleep.
Plus, sexual energy is the gateway to creative energy. That is,
the energy of creation; the energy that can actually create a
human life.
Combine sexual energy, creative energy, and the energy of love...and you have a pretty potent and powerful experience.
How powerful can that experience be if genuine emotion
and emotional connection is absent?As you well know, sexual energy isn't always used for the
creation of a human life (Phew!). Nonetheless,
sex is always a creative act.That is,
sex always creates life: ideas, innovation, healing,
intimacy, enlightenment, expansion, resolution. These key "life ingredients" can be created and experienced via your sexuality through making love.
If a person is not emotionally connected to their self - or to the person with whom they are sharing their sexuality -
what kinds of energy do you think that creates?"Complete" sexual experiences as defined above propel us
beyond our mind to what lay within our unconscious. Sexual
and creative energy give you access to deep recesses of
your own creativity, innovation, ingenuity, and wisdom.
Emotion, emotional maturity, sexual maturity...I cannot
emphasize enough how
critical these are to the enjoyment and fulfillment of your life. I know it seems so simple...
because it is.The growing bonfire of marketing, media, and technology that
inundates us every day has seduced us away from the simple -
but powerful - balance of our own intrinsic well-being, maturity,
and sexuality.
Bottom line?We're engaged in - and attached to - way too much mental
energy and not enough
authentic emotional energy and
genuine emotional expression. We need more balance:
physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.
Did you know that recent reports indicate that people who frequently use online pornography are developing a condition whereby they can
only be sexually aroused by the exaggerated sexual imagery of pornography...and
not by the actual intimate, physical
experience of sex with a real person?
Wow.
That means we are re-wiring our own physiological "circuitry"...
with our minds. We've actually made sex...mental. That gives
new meaning to the phrase "mind sex."
How scary is that? The solution?
Emotion; emotional connection, emotional maturity, and sexual maturity. These provide the checks and balances we
need to learn, grow, and mature. They also provide a solid foundation for us to experience healthy, enjoyable -
even evolutionary - sexuality.
P.S. If you can think of a more fun or enjoyable way to evolve...
let me know!
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