June 17, 2011

 

In Evolution - being more of you:   

 

A little help with the happiness thing...

 

The other day I heard someone say, "She knows how to make
her man happy."

Okay.

Uhhhhhhh, I was kinda thinkin' what would be really great is
if "her man" (or "his lady," this is a gender neutral discussion!)
could make himself happy and she could make herself
happy...

...then imagine how great their relationship could be?

Two happy people able - and willing - to do what it takes to
make themselves happy.

Wow. What a concept.

How great could that be?

Pretty great.

Seriously, why do we believe that "the relationship," or our
partner, should "make us" happy? Maybe if we learn to provide ourselves with what makes us genuinely happy...that will
tangibly change  our relationships.

Now, I know full well based on my own life experience that it's
not that easy...but it is that simple. And that's a starting point.

And we all need starting points.

Two people who each love themselves well - and accept responsibility for their own happiness - create good
relationships; relationships that get better and better.

How happy are you? Do you make you happy? Do you rely
on anyone or anything outside of you to...to make you happy?

If you're not happy, why aren't you making you happy?
If you're not happy - or not as happy as you'd like to be - you
can begin to get happier today by taking responsibility for
your own happiness.

Ever heard the expression, "God helps those who help
themselves?"

That doesn't mean you have to save the world...your spouse,
your child, or your neighbor. It means you must open the doors
in your own life to allow the great stuff to come in.

How about, "Do unto others as you would have them do
unto you?"

That doesn't mean go to Darfur and become a missionary
(although you can), it means learn to love you really well
and then loving others will come easily and with grace.

Happiness begins with you; begins within you.

The more you create happiness for your self...the more
happiness, enjoyment, and fulfillment you will draw to you.
That's the law of attraction.

What the "gurus" don't often tell you about the law of attraction however, is that the sword cuts both ways. If you are unhappy, unwilling to make your self happy, or simply denying how truly unhappy you really are...then you will draw those same kinds
of people, events, and experiences to you.

In other words, you will draw people to you who are unhappy,
in denial, pretending to be happy, and/or people who are
unwilling to make themselves happy. Though they may arrive
in many clever disguises, I can guarantee you the truth
of this.

We reap what we sow; there's no way around. It's the physics
of who we are. It's the physics of the universe. Period.

Do you really believe that you are here on this earth
for any more important reason than to be happy? What
would be the purpose of that?

Why would you be here for any greater reason than to know you, love you, and experience enjoyment and fulfillment?

Further, if you believe in God - Jesus, the Buddha, Mohammed, Great Spirit, etc. - do you think he/she wants healthy, happy, mature, fulfilled people doing "God's work" in the world?

Or, does he/she want unconscious, immature, unhappy,
repressed, suppressed people doing "God's work?" 

Seriously. Get serious and go make yourself happy.
I guarantee it will provide you what you seek.

And for some simple support with that....follow me on Twitter

at http://twitter.com/kellygracesmith I am tweeting a bit of

humor, humility, wisdom, and grace each day.

(More on emotional and sexual maturity next week.)

    

 

(For more about the concepts in this message, go to "Redefining Relationship: love, acceptance, freedom," "For Women & Men: the transformative ground
of the goddess," "dear kgs... Sometimes I feel like my spouse and I are on a different wave length," & "The Certainty of Intimacy: being more of you" at www.kellygracesmith.com.)

 

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