June 9, 2011

 

In Evolution - being more of you:   

 

Your emotions or your life!   

 

Who says the universe doesn't have a divine sense of humor?

The irony of a person named "Weiner" being humbled by events
having to do with a cell phone photo of his "you-know-what,"
isn't lost on any of us, I'm quite sure.

The consequences of his choices however, are pretty serious.

Congressman Anthony Weiner joins a long list of public figures
who - despite great health, wealth, education, and success -
chose to risk everything. The list includes Bill Clinton, Tiger
Woods, Martha Stewart, Mark Sanford, Tom DeLay, Eliot Spitzer, John Edwards, and most recently...Arnold Schwarzenegger and Dominique Straus-Kahn.

Bottom line?

No matter how smart you are...
No matter how strong you are...
No matter how spiritual you are...
No matter how successful you are...

...without emotional well-being and balance you cannot
become a mature person.

Period.

Without authentic emotional experiences, consistent emotional
expression, genuine emotional connection, and balanced
emotional well-being...a person will not mature.

No matter how much you try to suppress it, repress it,
anesthetize it, medicate it, manipulate it, or bypass it...emotion
is critical to the quality of your life, the maturity of you as an individual, and your evolution as a human being. To put it more bluntly...you cannot learn, grow, and mature if you do not tend well to your emotional well-being.

· Without emotional maturity, judgment is greatly impaired.

· Without emotional maturity, there is no sexual maturity.

· Without emotional maturity, physical health suffers.

· Without emotional maturity, people become dominated by
  their unconscious.

· Without emotional maturity, otherwise healthy, powerful,
  well-educated, smart, successful people will eventually...
  risk everything.

Why?

It's simple physics really. When you neglect, suppress, or
repress any one part of you...another part of you will
step in to dominate.

In our society, so many people are ignoring or avoiding their emotions - with attachments, addictions, antidepressants, technology, drama, dysfunctional relationships, repressed
(or excessive) sexuality - that as a result, they are
allowing their mind to dominate.

What does that look like? It looks like the stories of all of the
public figures listed above. It also looks like a society founded
on - and fueled by - an excessive dependence on mind
and intellect.

Bottom line?

We have come to believe that our mind is the master, that our mental functions should be the dominant force in our life, and
that our mind is superior - makes us superior - to others. We
have come to believe that our mind is more important and
more powerful than any other aspect of ourselves.

This is an illusion. A big, fat world-wide illusion.

Sexting, texting, tweeting, Facebook, media, marketing, and
technology are inundating us with mental stimulation 24/7.
This is grossly out of balance with what we need to be healthy,
balanced, mature individuals: physically, emotionally,
mentally, and spiritually.

Some people allow their physical bodies to become dominant
and they use their mind to maintain power and control. What
does that look like? Our obsession with "looks" and physical perfection, compulsive running, yoga, weight training, obesity, eating disorders, and sexual disorders...just to name a few.

Some people allow their "spirituality" to dominate; they use
their mind to manipulate all of their thoughts, feelings, and perceptions to fit into a very narrowly defined belief system.
Or, they abdicate their free will to a group or a "guru." Yuck!

What does that look like? That looks like fundamentalism, radical
religion, dangerous sexual practices, mental manipulation, and taking the "woo-woo-train-to-airy-fairy-land-and-dysfunction-junction."

And some people, in avoidance of authentic emotional experience become emotional addicts. They need to constantly attach to drama, addictions, crises, new relationships, extreme risks, excessive social networking, or engaging in deviant
behavior in order to feel worthy.

You can see lots of these people on television; news
broadcasters, Glenn Beck and Rush Limbaugh, and the people
in every reality TV show you can name. (I'm sure you can also
see some of these people appearing "live" in your own life!)

So, what's this all about? And, how did we get here?

More next time.

    

 

(For more about the concepts in this message, go to "For Women & Men:
the transformative ground of the goddess," "How to Make love: spirituality,
sex & the self," "Energy: the science and spirit of you," & "dear kgs: I am
a thinking person, but I tend to get caught up in analysis..." at www.kellygracesmith.com.)

 

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