kelly grace smith

March 3, 2011

 

In Evolution - being more of you:   


The Facebook Factor #2

 

You may have heard that Aaron Sorkin (formerly a writer for the
popular TV series, "The West Wing") won an Academy Award Sunday
night for best adapted screenplay for "The Social Network." As we
mentioned earlier this week, the movie itself is really a cautionary
tale about social networking.

Sorkin recently said of Facebook co-founder Mark Zuckerberg,
"Mark invented a world in which people can reinvent themselves."

That's a sobering thought.

In balance, social networking can be beneficial, but it does not create
real connections or authentic relationships. In order to truly begin
to "know" a person, you need to connect with them. It's physics,
but it's also common sense.

We are physical beings in a physical body - in a physical reality, in
a physical world - that's not an accident. We must experience one
another "physic-ally," in order to truly connect to one another.

A disproportionate amount of communication via technology - without
real connection - stymies emotional growth, intimacy, and socialization
skills. It also encourages people to use their mind - and mind only -
to label and define other people...without ever experiencing those
individuals emotionally or physically.

As we outlined earlier in the week, a "real" relationship must include
physical presence or voice vibration. That's because you are composed
of energy; there is an electro-magnetic field (EMF) of energy that
emanates from you. Your EMF responds and reacts to everything and
everyone around you. It is your EMF - and the impact your voice has
on others - that helps you fully connect to and experience other
people with clarity and accuracy.

Your EMF helps you to distinguish and discern a person's character,
integrity, authenticity, sincerity, honesty, and maturity. In other
words, your EMF is your best protector...and bul*sh*t detector.

Our privacy, intimacy, boundaries - our personal freedom - is
impacted every time we use the internet. Here are some thoughts:   

 

Personal information is best shared with those with whom you

  have developed a personal relationship; people with whom
  you have built acceptance, respect, and trust.


Intimacy is for people with whom you have developed truly
  intimate relationships - over time - up close and in-person. 

 

Be authentic all of the time; express yourself freely, but also
  maturely and responsibly.


Know your boundaries, keep them, and no one will ever have the
  ability to impinge upon them; or the power to invade your privacy. 

 

Say what you mean, mean what you say, and abstain from
  sharing anything on the internet you wouldn't claim with your
  own name...or be willing to say aloud to another person.

Why? Because something you are not willing to put your name
to...or speak out loud...is something you are not yet emotionally
prepared to express.

Sadly, but not surprisingly, the internet and social networking is fast
becoming a place where bullies hide. They range from the ridiculous to
the genuinely dangerous. Beware and be aware.

A healthy, well-balanced, emotionally mature person is willing to
express who they are fully and freely, without hiding behind anonymity
or the internet. Self-expression is a measure of our overall maturity;
it is how we learn and grow. It's how we share ourselves. It's how we
connect. It's how we become more of ourselves.

And anyway, we already have a wonderful way for you to express
those things you may be shy or fearful of expressing...

...it's called creativity.

Write. Sculpt. Sing. Paint. Dance. Speak. Make Love. Build. Innovate.

Create.

I can personally (and scientifically) guarantee you that any time
you spend engaged in creative activity will support you - physically,
emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually - more beneficially than
time spent social networking or on the internet. I promise you.

Creativity is "self" expression. Creativity transforms you and your
life...from the inside out.

And that's the first and best place - from within you - to begin to
build real relationship...with your self and with others.    

       

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(For more about the concepts in this message, go to "Energy: the science &
spirit of you
," "Words: words have power," "Redefining Relationship: love, acceptance, freedom" & "The Certainty of Intimacy: being more of you," at  www.kellygracesmith.com.)

 

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