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"Raising the Standard of Conversation in Life"
hawaii Loren Ekroth, Ph.D.
 
aka "Dr.Conversation" 
Pull Your Conversation Weeds
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June 12, 2012

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Today's Tip:  Pull Your Conversation Weeds

 

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Tip:  Pull Your Conversation Weeds

 

When you catch yourself making a conversation mistake, remind yourself. 

 

("Do I really make mistakes? Which ones?")

 

Check this list:

 

--Interrupting others.

--Finishing people's sentences.

--Frequently disagreeing with "Yes, but."

--Poor listening. (Distracted, planning what to say)

--Rambling on.

--Competing. Grabbing attention with "Me, too."

--Dominating. Talking over others.

--Being unresponsive

 

Do you recall the old trick to remember to do (or avoid) something? Tie a string around your finger.

This "weed-pulling" method is similar but more effective.

 

If you commit to eliminate a bad conversation habit, ("weed"), placing a rubber band around your wrist can help. First, it is a visual reminder that can cause you to hesitate. Second, it gives a stinging signal to your "habit unconscious" when you whack yourself on the wrist.

 

The cost of this learning aid is nothing, but the pay-off is often remarkable. So I have found with clients who wanted to break a habit such as chewing their fingernails or finishing people's sentences.

 

This is my "Rubber Band Remedy" for getting rid of "conversation weeds" Not fancy, but effective.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Loren Ekroth, Ph.D. is a specialist in human communication and an international expert on conversation for business and social life.  For permission to re-publish, contact author at Loren@conversationmatters.com