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"Better Conversations Make a Better World"
Loren Ekroth, Ph.D.
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Sept. 16, 2009 Contents
Resourceville
Conversation Quotation
Famous Quotations
La Triviata
Jest Words
Word-a-Week
What I'm Reading
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Better Workplace Conversations
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September 16, 2009

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This Week's Contents, Sept. 16, 2009
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  1. Resourceville
  2. Conversation Quotation
  3. Famous Quotations
  4. La Triviata Culture Quiz
  5. Jest Words
  6. Word-a-Week
  7. What I'm Reading
  8. Changing Internet Services?
  9. Article:
  10. Today's Answers
1. Resourceville: Great fresh quotations

For those of you who love pithy quotations, you can get this complimentary newsletter from quote-master Leonard Roy Frank, editor of many books of quotations.

To add your name and email address to the "Frankly Quoted" Listserv notify Mr. Frank at [email protected].

2.  Conversation Quotation

"Do you see someone who is hasty in speech?  There is more hope for a fool than for anyone like that."

--Proverbs 29:20

3. Famous Quotations:  Who said this?

"If you listen carefully, you get to hear everything you didn't want to hear in the first place."

  1. P.J. O'Rourke
  2. Sholem Aleichem
  3. George Carlin
  4. Anton Chekhov

(Check your answer at the end of today's article.)

4. La Triviata culture quiz

What is the capital city of Nevada?

  1. Reno
  2. Carson City
  3. Las Vegas
  4. Virginia City

(Check your answer at the end of today's article.)

5. Jest Words

My neighbor said, "I just bought a new hearing aid. It cost me four thousand dollars, but it's state of the art. It's perfect."

"Really," I responded. "What kind is it?"

"Twelve thirty."

6. Word-a-Week:  odious (adj)

O-dee-uhs

highly offensive; inspiring and deserving hatred. (from Latin odium (hatred))

Example sentence:

"There is no act more odious than the rich and arrogant scoffing at the poor and jobless."

7.  What I'm Reading

The Shadow of Sirius, by W. S. Merwin

A few years ago I began the habit of reading new poetry, or re-reading what I'd read before.  This new book of poems was given to me by W.S. Merwin, Pulitzer Prize winning poet who lives on Maui.  He is one of a small number of American poets who has made even a modest living by writing poetry and presenting a few readings at colleges.  Here's one of his shorter poems as a sample:

"Lights Out"

"The old grieving autumn goes on calling to its summer

the valley is calling to other valleys beyond the ridge

each star is roaring alone into darkness

there is not a sound in the whole night"

I recommend this book or any of Merwin's works.

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9. Article: Better Workplace Conversations

    The ability to create relationships of trust and sharing, so valued in family life, has taken on new importance in the workplace.  As our economy is based more on knowledge, the single most important asset in many organizations is the knowledge worker who has the ability to learn from others, create new knowledge, and transfer that knowledge to co-workers.   

    In organizations where informal conversation is seen as time-wasting, the rule has been to "Stop talking and get back to work."   This rule may have been appropriate to the assembly lines of the industrial age, but it is not helpful in the workplace of the information age. The life-blood of the knowledge economy is conversation. Through all kinds of talk in the cafeteria and hallway, in bull-sessions around the water-cooler, phone visits, shop-talk over coffee, knowledge workers are often sharing critical business information.   Perhaps they'll sketch a new idea on a napkin or ask a challenging question that will change another's thinking so that a fresh insight comes to mind. 

     Data and information can be transmitted electronically, but it is nearly impossible to transfer knowledge by technological means alone.  That is because true "working knowledge" contains values, personal experience, expert insight, and emotion.

For one person to actually absorb knowledge coming from another person usually requires direct contact between people -- what the military calls "face time."  Second best can be "voice time" -- contact by telephone.  To understand, we often need to get the "feel" of the knowledge as conveyed through all the senses.  Because knowledge is "alive" and has a personal flavor, it needs involvement of the heart and gut as well as the head.  It doesn't thrive in hard-copy  or electronic captivity.

     Some time ago I had several serious computer problems.   I dutifully read through the detailed manuals and found some information that seemed relevant.   Then I spent a lot of time trying things -- few of which I fully understood -- worrying that I might create even worse problems.          

     Giving up, I came to my senses and hired a knowledgeable computer science student to help me for a few hours, and that made all the difference.  His "felt knowledge" conveyed a quiet confidence, and his simple, well-paced explanations made sense.  I experimented; he gently coached and corrected.  After a short time, I "got it" and was able to manage on my own with much more confidence than any manual could provide.

    To share, acquire and even create working knowledge, we need the abilities to establish rapport and create trust, to suspend premature judgment, ask good questions, listen for connections among ideas, and honor diverse perspectives. And, certainly, we need to know when to talk and when to remain silent and receptive.   The new knowledge economy requires such conversational skills so that we can learn from each other.

    Leaders in some of America's most successful companies such as Intel have removed the barriers that used to discourage "learning conversations" and now actively reward employees for sharing knowledge.   They are encouraging "communities of practice," informal groups where novices can learn from more experienced people.  They make it easy to have access to anyone who has the useful knowledge you need by arranging open spaces and eliminating closed doors.  Other companies are experimenting with new approaches like "Appreciative Inquiry," an informal process for drawing out knowledge of what has worked best in the past.  

     Because the greatest portion of the knowledge assets in any organization is not in manuals and data bases but within the minds of its people, and because most knowledge transfer takes place informally, the "soft skills" for effective relating to other human beings will continue to be needed.  With the right skills and attitudes, a CEO can learn from a worker on the assembly line, a General Halftrack can pay attention to a lowly Lt. Fuzz, and left-brained engineers and right-brained customer service folks will be able to learn from one another.

     Might a better rule for organizations in this new knowledge economy be:  "Stop working and talk it over"? 

 

10. Today's Answers

Famous Quotations:  Who said this?

"If you listen carefully, you get to hear everything you didn't want to hear in the first place."

Answer:  Sholem Aleichem, author.  "Fiddler on the Roof" musical was loosely based on his humorous stories.

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La Triviata:

What is the capital city of Nevada?

Answer:  Carson City

Loren Ekroth �2009, all rights reserved

 

Loren Ekroth, Ph.D. is a specialist in human communication and a national expert on conversation for business and social life. 

 

Contact at [email protected]