Issue #2 - March 12, 2011

Counseling Comments & Insights from
Debbra Bronstad, MS   

Marriage & Family Therapist Intern

Grief Recovery Specialist

Life Coach 

Serving men, women, children and couples in San Luis Obispo County  

(805) 242-3569 

In This Issue
Grief Recovery Group Starts April 7
What to Do with Worry
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Welcome to Issue #2 of Counseling Comments & Insights  featuring counseling-related articles for the Central Coast. 

Debbra Bronstad, Counselor for San Luis Obispo County
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Before I get to the articles about Anxiety and Worry, I am excited to share with you about a new collaboration with Captive Hearts, a non-profit Christian ministry to women who have been released from or sentenced to jail and are seeking to make changes to live healthy and productive lives.  


Captive Hearts provides an intensive live-in program to help the women overcome their addictions and wounds. I will be leading a 10-session Grief Recovery Workshop for women in Arroyo Grande/ Grover Beach hosted by Captive Hearts.  As I read some of the testimonials of the women on their website I was moved by how their stories illustrate a lifetime of grief and loss.  They have lost homes, children, mates, family members, freedom, and more through unimaginable abuse and neglect. 


Would you be willing to partner with me to support this ministry?  I will be giving the women from Captive Hearts free registration for the Grief Recovery Workshop, but they still need books that will cost approximately $50 in total from Amazon.  You can make a tax-deductible contribution directly by mailing a check to Captive Hearts, PO BOX 1272, Grover Beach, CA  93483-1272 or contribute via PayPal from their website. Let them know you heard about their need from my newsletter. Any donations received above that needed for the Grief Recovery Books will be used to support their continued ministry to hurting women.

Grief Recovery Group for Women Begins Thursday April 7


The Grief Recovery Workshop will be on Thursdays 12:30 - 2:00 pm in the Arroyo Grande/Grover Beach area for 10 sessions beginning April 7th through June 16th and is open to women only.  Registration is $299 with a $40 discount for registrations by March 31.  Please forward this. Click here for registration information.
Anxiety & Worry


Anxiety & worry are a part of life

Anxiety and worry are a normal part of everyday life for most people.  Some anxiety can even be helpful when it leads to effective problem solving or preparation for the future.  Physical symptoms of fear and anxiety can produce an adrenaline boost that helps you confront real danger or handle a difficult situation, such as protecting your family or meeting a deadline.


Stress leads to anxiety

The stresses of life such as conflict with your spouse, family or boss, credit card debt, unexpected car repair or doctor bills, or a family crisis all can Anxiety and Worrycreate anxiety.  Anxiety may come while we are trying to find a solution.  We worry about what will happen if we can't pay the bills, or if we can't make peace with our spouse, or if something else bad happens.  To some extent these types of thoughts go through everyone's mind to a greater or lesser degree on a daily basis.


Worry and anxiety are on a continuum.  Usually anxiety is short-lived and the mind and body quickly return to normal. On the other end of the spectrum, worry and anxiety can become a chronic pattern.  Individuals with chronic worry may experience some or all of the following:

  • Excessive and unreasonable worry over events or activities, such as work, school or health
  • Excessive worry about their capacity and confidence to deal with situations
  • Inability to stop or control their worrying
  • Feelings of apprehension
  • Restlessness and muscle tension
  • Feeling keyed-up or on edge
  • Fatigue
  • Tension headaches

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What to Do With Worry


If we do not identify worry in our lives it can become a habit that gives birth to negative expectations in life.  We were created for an abundant life with overcoming joy. The first thing we need to do is acknowledge when we are worrying by admitting it to ourselves and to God.  I have heard many good Christians say "worry is a sin." It is true that the Bible tells us not to worry, however when the worrier hears this, then he or she begins to worry more about how they are failing God and it becomes a vicious cycle.  


Many people will try to distract themselves with TV, busyness, alcohol, drugs or other means, while the worry just continues on unabated in the background like a leaky faucet.  Here are some ways to intervene with worry:


1.     Become conscious of the worry and acknowledge it. Pray and ask God to take the worry and give you His peace.

2.     Ask yourself, "Are there certain times I am more likely to worry than others?" (i.e. when its time to pay the bills, when a child is sick, when you feel a physical symptom, etc.)

3.     Challenge the worry.  Ask, "How likely is this to happen?" "Did it happen last time I worried about this?"

4.     What is a positive thought you could dwell on instead of the worry? (i.e. Instead of worrying about not having enough, say to yourself even out loud, "I am thankful that all my needs are provided for."

5.     Meditate on Scriptural truths that challenge your anxiety or worry. Speak these paraphrases out loud as personal statements:

  • My God will supply all my needs according to His glorious riches in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:19) 
  • I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread. (Psalm 37:25) 
  • God has not given me a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, love and a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7) 
  • I will not be anxious about anything, but with prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, I will present my requests to God and the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will keep my heart and mind in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7) 
  • I will lie down and sleep in peace, for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety. (Psalm 4:8)  

6.     It may also be helpful to talk with a loved one, friend or counselor about problems you are facing. 


I work with people to identify worry so they can develop personal strategies to overcome and manage anxiety.  Some people are helped by identifying the sources of worry and finding healing for wounded areas of their life.  Others need to learn ways to take their thoughts and imaginations captive.  If you struggle with worry and anxiety, give me a call at (805) 242-3569 and let's talk about how we could work together to find solutions. 


These are more ideas on how to deal with worry online at my website. Do you have some other ideas?  There is a space for you to share them on my website so that together we can help visitors from around the world overcome worry and anxiety.  

I hope to see you on the teleseminar.  If you have a question, please give me a call or reply to this email. See the Free Resources section below for complimentary access to an online resource for articles, self assessments, and tips for relationships.





Debbra BronstadDebbra Bronstad, MS  (805) 242-3569

Marriage & Family Therapist Intern IMF 62480
Certified Grief Recovery Specialist
Supervisor: Sandra Sawyer, LCSW, LCS 12477



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