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| Miracles With Moira | July 11, 2011 | |
 Greetings!
Are you as free as you want to be? In the realm of the Spirit, you have unlimited freedom. There is nothing and no one to stop you from being and doing whatever you want. In the realm of the Physical, you may feel hemmed in by a needy partner, financial obligations, poor health, or a tight job market. Are you really as limited by these or other constraints as you think you are? Or do you have more freedom in the Here and Now than you've imagined? Since Time and Space shape your experience of the Physical world (e.g., shoes, shops and the Space Shuttle), let's explore the boundaries of your Freedom by looking at it through the lens of the Past, Present and Future. In today's articles, we'll look at some of the ways your Past may be holding you back from the Freedom you yearn for now. With love and appreciation, Moira PS - Click here to listen to these articles and receive illumination around today's topic. Thank you! |
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Your Parents
Do they still run your life?
 When we're children, it's natural to regard those who raised us as God or God-like in that they have complete authority over us.
- They may make the rules - or let you fend for yourself
- They show you or tell you what to expect, or not expect, in life
- They may define you as "the pretty (or ugly) one" or "the smart (or dumb) one" or "the creative (or practical) one"
You may have agreed with their way of thinking; rebelled against it; or ignored it.
However you reacted to the way your parents saw you and explained Life to you ...
It's time to let it go. You're a grown-up now. You can think for yourself.
If you can, do forgive those who raised you. They did the best they could. If they taught you stuff that was wrong, it's because they were misinformed, too.
If you can't forgive those who raised you, would you consider allowing yourself to be a conduit through which forgiveness flows?
Forgiving those who raised you frees you from much of the regret, resentment, rejection and/or rage you've been carrying around all your life.
Consider this: How would your present-day relationships change if you felt free of all the limits and labels your family stuck on you?
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Your Partners
What have your parents and partners had in common?
 We often unconsciously seek out a partner who (a) resembles one of our parents - or (b) is the opposite.
For example, let's say one of the people who raised you tended to be:
Emotionally unavailable: They said they loved you but they seldom acted like it. You rarely felt like they cared about you, so you treasured any crumbs of affection they gave you.
Critical and demanding: Whatever you accomplished, it was never good enough. Any approval you got was undercut by comments like, "Of course, if you'd really applied yourself, you would have done even better" or "This must be a fluke."
The perpetual victim: Almost nothing they did or failed to do was their responsibility. Someone made them do it, or prevented them from doing what they wanted to do. Their motto: "It's not my fault!"
Chances are, you've had a partner with similar tendencies. Or you've had a partner who brought out these tendencies in you.
You may have experienced both kinds of relationships.
In each case, you're unconsciously trying to re-create your relationship with that parent and make it work out better this time.
This will never happen. That's not the game. The object is not to win. It's to stay in the game.
How can you free yourself of this pattern, so you can finally have a satisfying love relationship?
By consciously forgiving your parents, your partners, and yourself. Everyone did the best they could in the moment. No one, not even God, can ask more of us than that.
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Your Projections
Do you let your past dictate your future?
Now that you've got a few miles on you, you may have reached some conclusions about what kind of person you are and what kind of life you can expect, based on your previous experience. For instance:
- "I work hard, but I never get anywhere"
- "I'm always on the outside looking in"
- "I'm the take-charge type"
Consider this:
Maybe you've become successful in your field, yet you still feel like you can never get ahead. You wish you could relax and enjoy yourself more, but you can't. No matter how hard you work, you get nowhere.
Maybe you've married and had a family, or joined a professional association, or attend worship services regularly. You're part of a community, yet you feel lonely. You're still on the outside looking in.
Maybe taking charge still thrills you, yet you feel frustrated because just when you've put out one fire, another starts up somewhere else. It's exhausting. You may wonder, "Why do I always have to be the one who takes charge?"
Why does this happen?
Because the way you describe yourself or your life is more than a description: it's a decision. You've decided this is how you are, how you life is and will be. These decisions create your experience.
You are free to change your decisions about yourself at any time. What would happen if you changed your mind about who you are and what you expect from life?
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Recommended Resources
People whose work I love!
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Get Relationship-Ready: Brilliant coach Ned Kraft offers a 10-week teleclass to get you ready - mentally and emotionally - for the great relationship you've been yearning for. It starts tomorrow - Tuesday July 12, so you still have time to sign up. Click here to find out more. I'll be in the class - hope to "see" you there!
Today is an 11/11 power day: I've been taking part in Jennifer McLean's monthly tele-prayer circles, held on the 11th day of each month in 2011. They're terrific: and she's holding another one today, July 11, at 11 a.m. Pacific Time. When you register for the 11/11 Prayer Circle, you get access to all previous recordings since January, as well as today's meeting and all future meetings for the year. Check it out, if you're interested. I can hardly wait for today's call!
2012: Change is Coming: The hugely gifted Dr. Kathleen Lewis will lead an experiential workshop around preparing for the changes 2012 will bring, so you can handle them with ease and grace. It all unfolds 10am to 3pm Saturday July 30 at the Oasis Healing Center in Mar Vista. Email Dr. Kathleen for details and registration. Hope to see you there!
The One Command Training: Asara Lovejoy's One Command technique has changed my life in powerful, positive ways. It's easy to learn and easy to do. Her next training will be held July 29-31 in Grapevine, TX (near DFW airport). Click here to find out more.
Note: I recommend these people because I've personally worked with them and gotten great results. I gain no financial benefit from recommending them and their work.
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Until we meet again ...
Thank you for taking the time to read or listen to these articles. I hope you found something juicy in them.
As you've seen, we tend to let our past leak into the present and slop over into the future.
What happens when you expect little more than the same old, same old - from ourselves, from our loved ones, and from Life itself?
Boredom ... disappointment ... frustration ... who wants to sign up for that?
We need to free ourselves of the past if we want a better future. We can respect the past without clinging to it, or re-creating it because we don't know what to do instead.
The very nature of life is an upward spiral of progress, and there's nothing we can do to stop it.
We can resist it or ride it.
Which do you think works better?
Have fun playing with this ...
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If you know anyone who feels frustrated with their situation and you think they would enjoy this newsletter, would you please it to them?
Next time, we'll explore how you can have more freedom in the Present.
In the meantime ... I wish you love, laughter and freedom.
Moira Shepard
Miracles with Moira
It's never too late to become who you might have been.
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Moira@MiraclesWithMoira.com
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About Moira
Speaker, author, teacher and healing practitioner Moira Shepard, C.HT, has successfully dedicated 15 years to guiding thousands of people through career changes, relationship dramas and health challenges.
Her acclaimed classes, workshops, radio shows and newletters have made her a sought-after mentor, coach and counselor for individuals, groups and companies.
If you would like to experience new insights and transformations like the ones demonstrated in this newsletter - tailored to your personal concerns - click here to find out more about how Moira can help you, her affordable new rates, and so on.
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Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. Bless you.
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