You are not your possessions, however your possessions reveal a lot about who you are. Remember when your life is in chaos, chaos is everywhere. The state of your home, your car, and your office are metaphors for the state of your life. So remember the vision you have for wanting to live a calm peaceful organized life and take baby steps. If the item does not serve your vision, get rid of it. Recognize and celebrate every space that is decluttered. It will motivate you to keep going.