San Francisco Psychotherapy Research Group, Clinic and Training Center Newsletter
Issue #22
March 22, 2008
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We hope the March Workshop was constructive, informative and fun. Please share your experiences with others who were not able to attend.

EDUCATION COMMITTEE CORNER: THE MARCH WORKSHOP
 
From Patsy Wood

Thank you everyone at SFPRG for contributing to another very successful weeklong March workshop. It kicked off on March 1st with a well attended Introduction to Control Mastery Theory (CMT) workshop at the JCC taught by George Silberschatz, Steve Foreman and Jan Schreiber. This year's weeklong conference also featured a number of new workshops that we have not offered before. This included a workshop on the role of safety in treating anxiety taught by Steve Foreman on Monday. On Tuesday there were two new workshops: one on using a CMT perspective to work with patients in incarcerated settings and another on Thinking Multiculturally: culture, race and power and CMT. On Thursday Heather Folsom led a workshop on Romantic love and Control Mastery theory. The week ended with a workshop by Steve Kanofsky on working with families from a CMT perspective and a workshop led by George Silberschatz and Suzanne Gassner on the strengths and limitations of CMT. Read On


RESEARCH CORNER
 
From Marshall Bush

Dear SFPRG members and colleagues,

I am looking for more members to join my Friday 2PM research group. We are about to begin making ratings of patient progress and patient testing in the case of AR. We are making the ratings as a group. Members alternate reading the transcripts of recorded analytic sessions. If you don't want to be a rater, we also need people to read the sessions aloud. You will receive free CE credits for participating in research meetings. It is fun and interesting. If you are interested in joining, please call me at 415-561- 6775.


DIVERSITY SURVEY RESULTS
 
From Patsy Wood

There were five of us who facilitated the "Multicultural Workshop" as part of the March workshop including Claire Arbour, Amy Basford, Emily Barrett , Beth Kita and Patsy Wood. As part of the planning of the workshop we decided to do a survey of the SFPRG membership and the SFPRG newsletter readership to get a sense of the demographic background of both our members and readers as well as a sense of the diversity of their caseloads. The survey was constructed by Claire Arbour on Survey Monkey with input from all of us. The survey was posted online and was sent out to the SFPRG membership as well as to those who read the newsletter in both January and February. Read On


CO-NARCISSISM: How We Accommodate to Narcissistic Parents; Part 5 & Conclusion
 
From Alan Rappoport, Ph.D.

The following is Part 5 and Conclusion of our serialization of Alan Rappoport's article Co- Narcissism: How We Accommodate to Narcissistic Parents. Please see previous issues of the Newsletter for preceding parts or view the whole article by clicking on the link provided below.

Case Example No. 2:

Jane is the daughter of a narcissistic father and a co-narcissistic mother. Jane's father was domineering with the family and with his employees in the highly successful business he built, although, interestingly, he was quite co-narcissistic in relation to his own father. Jane's father was highly critical of her, her sister, and her mother. Jane's mother had been severely rejected and criticized as a child and, as a result, she developed a strong sense of worthlessness, a loss of inner-directedness, and a tendency to accommodate to the expectations of others. Jane's mother twice tried to divorce her husband, but her low self-esteem prevented her from doing so; nevertheless, she did decide to go to graduate school while raising her children, earned a Ph.D. in art, and taught at the college level. However, the criticism and denigration she received from her husband reinforced her low sense of self-esteem and prevented her from recognizing her talents or respecting herself. Jane, despite her high intelligence and independent spirit, did not do well either in school or socially. She seemed to lack the motivation to succeed, although while in college she started a home design business and consulted in graphic design. None of her efforts brought recognition or approval from her father, who was relentlessly disparaging. As a result of the constant undermining by her father, and the co-narcissistic model presented by her mother, Jane came to believe that she was unable to succeed in a career and could not form satisfying, stable relationships. Her relationships were marked by self-sacrifice, and she had no direction in her life. Read On


ANNOUNCEMENTS
 

According to the San Francisco Chronicle, E7, Denny Zeitlin, "the excellent jazz pianist" played the Florence Gould Theatre at the Palace of the Legion of Honor Saturday afternoon in a "rare solo concert." Congratulations Denny!!

Ed. Note: We welcome any opinions on his performance to share with member/readers who could not attend.

The Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis presents: THE THERAPIST'S EMOTIONAL VULNERABILITY: ENVY, SHAME AND HUMILIATION

Presented by Lynne Jacobs and Donna Orange

Saturday, April 5, 2008 9:00 a.m. - 1:00 p.m.

UCSF Laurel Heights Conference Center

3333 California Street, San Francisco

Contact: Betsy Wootten, ICP North Program Administrator; 6493 Cooper Street, Felton, CA 95018

The Parenting Lecture Sessions Continue:

LOCATION: The Swedenborgian Church is a National Historic Landmark located at 2107 Lyon Street at the corner of Washington Street (close to the Presidio Blvd entry to the Presidio). Childcare is available.


Cont'd: Education Committee Corner
 

Thinking Multiculturally was a workshop led by Claire Arbour, Amy Basford, Emily Barrett, Beth Kita and Patsy Wood. It kicked off by describing the findings of a survey of multicultural issues in members of SFPRG that will be reported in more detail in another section of this newsletter. It also featured a talk by Jane Dulay who highlighted some of the possible issues that one might keep in mind in working with Asian American clients. Her talk provided evidence that, while the dynamics of each client are unique and case specific, certain cultural values and norms may be extremely relevant and important for a therapist to be mindful of in working with clients of different cultural groups. Finally, Emily Barrett described a case of a young biracial adolescent male who is struggling with his sense of identity and whose struggle was deeply affecting for his therapist. The presentation stimulated a lively discussion about how to think about and work with these issues. All in all the workshop was a successful first effort that identified many more questions than it answered. Nevertheless, this provides plenty of potential topics on multicultural issues to pursue in our future workshops and presentations.

The workshop led by Beth Kita and Jack Bugas on "Working with Incarcerated Patients" was also fascinating and offered a unique and incredibly compelling view of the immense challenges of trying to do "pro plan" therapeutic work in prison settings. The extreme polarization between the guards and the inmates that is so prominent in the prison system creates a very capricious environment where therapists must posture in very particular ways in order to create safety for themselves and their clients. Nevertheless in spite of these considerable barriers to treatment, there is powerful pro plan work being done by therapists in the prison system where inmates are hungry for connection and an opportunity to be authentically heard and understood. Yet the unfolding of client tests and therapist interventions because of the lack of safety in these inmate's lives often looks very different than therapy done in outpatient settings. Many of us attending the workshop were deeply moved by the presentations and case vignettes described by Beth and Jack and came away with a broader perspective on doing therapeutic work.

The final workshop taught by George Silberschatz and Suzanne Gassner on the strengths and limitations of Control Mastery Theory was also very stimulating and thought provoking. The workshop began with a presentation by George and Suzanne on their view of the strengths and limitations of CMT. In terms of the many strengths of the model, they both noted the integrative nature of CMT as a significant strength. George described how CMT integrated a theory of how the mind works with a theory of psychopathology along with a theory of doing therapy. Suzanne also noted the integrative nature of the model but in particular she noted how CMT served as a "meta" theory that explains why many therapists working from very different orientations could be successful therapists. She pointed out how resilient clients can be in making use of what their therapists offer in order to get their needs met in therapy regardless of their therapist's orientation. A second strength was the way that Control Mastery is a very clear, straightforward theory that is easy to teach. The simplicity of the model lends it to greater empirical scrutiny and empirical testing. A third strength is that it HAS been empirically tested which is often rare, particularly in psychodynamic models of treatment. A fourth strength of the model is how clinically useful the model is. Consider the assumption of testing and how this concept can make certain common client behavior comprehensible to therapists that might otherwise appear provocative or "resistant" rather than as furthering the client's plan. A fifth strength of the model is that the basic assumptions of CMT are consistent with modern biological research, evolutionary theory, developmental research and attachment research. This provides powerful evidence for the viability of the model. A sixth strength of CMT cited by Suzanne is the empirical focus of CMT. It is empirical because it asks the therapist to monitor the patient's response in order to determine if the patient is progressing or not. So the key to assessing how pro plan our interventions are is to track how our clients are doing both in and out of the therapy. In this way, as Suzanne Gassner put it, "the client is our best supervisor". If our clients are bringing forth new material, more affect and the client is bolder in terms of engaging in behavior that is consonant with desired goals, then we can conclude that our interventions as therapists are likely pro plan. Indeed, Suzanne made the point that this empirical focus should be our guide over any reified model or input from "experts" that we might rely on. A seventh strength is that CMT is client specific so each client is viewed as unique and one's approach as a therapist is geared to the particular needs of that individual client. An eighth strength is the notion of passive into active testing where the client may unconsciously need to traumatize the therapist in order to work through his or her trauma. This concept provides an explanation that allows therapists to contain very difficult experiences and provides a perspective for the therapist to not be reactive in a way that could undermine treatment. Finally CMT often focuses on early trauma - particularly those disruptive events that occur in children in the context of their most important family relationships. This view of the client can be very orienting in formulating a client's case by providing a map for the therapist as to what experiences in therapy might disrupt the therapeutic relationship and what behaviors, attitudes and affects on the part of the therapist might strengthen that relationship. It also provides an understanding of how clients' pathogenic beliefs emerged as well as explaining why clients have such conviction relative to their pathogenic beliefs. In the discussion that ensued, Heather Folsom also noted the power of CMT in focusing on the adaptive strengths of clients and an inherently positive view of human psychological function.

Some of the limitations presented highlight areas for future research. One area noted by both presenters as a potential limitation was that certain key assumptions of CMT such as the concept of the plan formulation and testing remain somewhat vague and may be applied in a diffuse way across CMT therapists. For example, recently Marshall Bush gathered a list of what different CMT therapists considered testing. There was tremendous variability to this list suggesting a possible lack of consensus in what CMT therapists consider to constitute testing. Suzanne also made the point that not everything clients do in or out of therapy is necessarily testing; sometimes life events occur inadvertently that may either further or inhibit a client's progress or plan and these can lead to further active testing on the patient's part. A second limitation of the CMT model that was cited involves the assumption that clients always exert unconscious control over their mental lives. While this may be the case in many clients, this begs the question of how CMT explains clients who have poor self regulation skills and who may appear to have little or no such control. George reminded us that in order for clients to test therapists and thus come to disconfirm pathogenic beliefs they need to be able to read a therapist's response. Yet if a client is very impulsive or "disregulated", he or she may not be able to accurately read and make use of a therapist's response. So how does CMT think about such clients? A third area of limitation has to do with the idea that CMT is a very cognitive model - this is often a common criticism of CMT. Yet, if cognitive aspects of the model are important, how do we work with clients who have suffered from very early trauma, perhaps even preverbal trauma? These clients may have much more difficulty disconfirming pathogenic beliefs because of the absence of narrative associated with their trauma.

Four other areas of limitation were mentioned. First, is the issue of guilt. When Joe and Hal developed the model, a huge advance that they made in psychoanalytic theory was a focus on guilt as a source of psychopathology rather than instinctual needs. As Joe had apparently put it: guilt can emerge out of love. Both Hal and Joe recognized the relational aspects of guilt where people are often traumatized by living with people who have been significantly traumatized. In particular this guilt often manifests with clients living in fear of hurting others or clients who have an exaggerated sense of omnipotent responsibility toward others. The problem with this focus in CMT according to Suzanne is that guilt can be overemphasized and this, in turn, may lead at times to somewhat "canned" interpretations on the part of therapists with their clients. Indeed, Suzanne suggested that CMT therapists may be overly fixated on guilt to the exclusion of other powerful affects such as shame and humiliation, both of which are very common in trauma. She went on to point out that not all shame (feeling less than) is necessarily the other side of guilt (feeling too powerful). Indeed shame can occur in the absence of guilt just as guilt can occur in the absence of shame and often the two can also occur together. Suzanne cited the intersubjectivity model as having a more focused and systematic way of addressing both shame and humiliation in clients and suggested that this may be an area that CMT therapists could give more thought to. A third area of limitation according to George is the inadequate attention that those writing about CMT have paid to the larger empirical and psychological literature. While Joe focused primarily in his writings on CMT in juxtaposition to classical psychoanalytic models, these models have grown tremendously in the last four decades. What future writing on CMT might do is work to tie assumptions of CMT to the broader scientific and psychological literature. Finally Bill Dickman weighed in on the tendency for CMT to overemphasize intrapsychic issues and underestimate the powerful biological and organic variables that play such a strong role in diagnoses such as ADHD, OCD or a non verbal learning disability. For the therapist to attribute pathogenic beliefs to symptoms in these cases may miss the weight that biological factors play in these symptoms. Suzanne agreed and noted in her own work with clients that she had found it important to consider hormonal influences and the role of poor nutrition in her work with clients. The issue of cultural sensitivity in the CMT model was also raised and Suzanne framed the issue as one of safety. She asked how can CMT therapists make it safe for the client to talk about the differences between therapist and client? This discussion can then lead to a greater understanding of the client's world on the part of the therapist and a stronger therapeutic relationship.

In this way the CMT model is a work in progress that, like all good models, needs further elaboration and research. Given this discussion, some of the areas that future research might address include further studies to develop a clearer conceptualization of the plan concept and the concept of testing. Another area is to more carefully consider how CMT might view the process of working with clients who have greater problems with self regulation or clients with preverbal trauma. Those of us writing about CMT might also work to tie CMT concepts into the broader literature on mental processes. Similarly, paying more attention to the role that shame and humiliation play in human life and viewing these affects more centrally might be a source of future research. Finally the role of biology and culture needs to be further explored in considering client safety and the evaluation of client symptoms. In short there is plenty of work to be done. The idea of "beginner's mind" is key here according to George. We need to adopt an attitude where we are always exploring and questioning and refining our model with ongoing research. In this process we also need to resist the "expert's" mind that tends to be closed and sure of one's model. Only in this way will CMT remain vital and adaptive.


Con't: Survey Results
 

In terms of the sample of SFPRG members and readers who responded to the survey, we received a total of 21 responses to the survey. This sample was largely female. Seventy six percent identified as female and 19% were male. In terms of sexual orientation, 75% identified as heterosexual while 10% identified as gay/lesbian, 5% as queer and 5% as bisexual. The sample was largely from the United States with 89% identifying the U.S. as their country of origin; 11% identified other countries as their country of origin. The majority of the sample, 95% cited English as their primary language with 5% identifying Spanish as their primary language. In terms of ethnicity, 62% identified as white, 5% as Hispanic, 5% as Mexican American, 5% as African American, 5% as First Nations, 10% as Jewish and 5% as North Indian. In terms of social class, 20% identified as upper class, 40% identified as professional class, 25% as middle class and 15% as working class. There was a wide age range in the sample with 5% who were under 30, 16% who were in their thirties, 11% in their forties, 37% who were in their fifties and 32% who were sixty or older.

There was considerable diversity in people's caseload. In terms of cultural differences, 53% reported that less than half of their clients were from a different cultural group than their own and 37% reported that more than half of their clients were from a different cultural group than their own. In terms of religion, 73% reported that over half of their caseload were from a different religion than their own. In terms of percentage of caseload who were clients of color, 12% reported that none of their clients were, 71% reported that less than half of their clients were clients of color and 17% reported that over half of their clients were clients of color. In terms of racial difference from the therapist, the majority of respondents, 58%, reported that less than half of their clients were from a different racial background and 26% reported that more than half of their caseload were from a different racial background than their own with 21% reporting that 75% or more of their caseload were clients of a different racial background. Many therapists treated clients from a lower class background than their own with 55% reporting this in more than half of their caseload.

The final set of questions asked respondents to consider how important they thought some of these differences were. We asked how comfortable therapists felt treating clients from cultures different than their own. Sixty percent stated that they felt very comfortable, 30% said they felt somewhat comfortable and 5% stated that they didn't feel that comfortable. In terms of asking how impactful culture was in case formulation, 25% reported that it was extremely impactful; 50% found it quite impactful, 10% described it as occasionally impactful and 10% described culture as "not useful." When asking about religion and its bearing on case formulation, 5% found it extremely important, 45% found it quite impactful, 35% found it occasionally important and 15% found it hardly ever useful or not useful at all. In terms of race and its impact on case formulation, 25% found it extremely important, 50% found it quite important, 10% found it occasionally important and 15% found it not that useful. We then asked how comfortable respondents felt in treating clients from races different than their own, 60% stated they felt very comfortable, 30% were somewhat comfortable; and 5% were not that comfortable. Finally, we asked respondents to consider how often they consider issues of differences in power status between themselves and their clients when formulating a case. Of the sample, 45% reported that they considered power much of the time, 30% considered it some of the time, 10% considered it occasionally and 15% hardly ever or never considered it.

While the sample is relatively small so these results must be interpreted with caution, the sample provides some evidence of the diversity of therapists in this group and the degree of difference that many of these therapists may experience from the clients that they are treating. The last part of the survey asked how many in the sample would be interested in talking and learning more about cultural and diversity issues in the future and 90% of the respondents reported that they were interested in further discussion and education about this at SFPRG. Although this finding comes from a small sample, it represents a resounding vote to continue a dialogue about multiculturalism and the role of power in future workshops and groups at SFPRG.


Con't: Co-Narcissism
 

Jane made good use of her therapy. Initially, she described the ways in which her family was dysfunctional, and she gained confidence in the accuracy of her views by the therapist's agreement with her assessment. She also tested whether the therapist needed to criticize her by characterizing herself as inadequate in a variety of ways, but the therapist showed, by expressing a more positive and realistic view of her, that he had no wish to put her down. He explained these inadequacies as a compliance with her father's characterizations of her and her identification with her mother. The therapist also pointed out her many talents, her creativity, initiative, and intelligence. Jane was able to make use of this support by doing better at school, becoming less enmeshed with her family, and starting a new graphic design business. Jane was late for a number of sessions, thereby again testing the therapist's wish to be critical or disparaging of her, as her father would have done. Instead of being critical, the therapist interpreted these latenesses as an inhibition against acting in her own interests by getting the full benefit of her therapy, and therefore a compliance with her father's view of her. Jane took heart from the therapist's reactions by continuing to develop healthier personal relationships, being less subservient to her father, and becoming more assertive and successful in the pursuit of her education.

Conclusion

All of us are narcissistic, and co-narcissistic, to varying degrees. When our self-esteem varies in relation to how others think and feel about us, we are experiencing a narcissistic vulnerability. When we feel guilty or anxious because we fear that we are not meeting someone else's needs or expectations, we are being co-narcissistic. These ordinary experiences are problematic the more they interfere with our ability to be successful and enjoy our lives. It is often helpful in overcoming narcissistic anxieties to realize that the other person's behavior is a result of their own views and experience, is not a reflection on oneself, and one's self-esteem does not have to be affected by their behavior. For co-narcissistic people, who experience strong feelings of guilt and blame, recognizing that they are not responsible for another's experience is a great relief. It is important for people with either narcissistic or co-narcissistic problems to come to believe that they have intrinsic value, independent of their accomplishments or what others may think of them.

The reader is referred to Elan Golomb's book, Trapped in the Mirror (1992) for a variety of examples of narcissistic/co-narcissistic parent-child relationships. Another discussion of narcissism can be found in Children of the Self-Absorbed (Brown, 2001).

References

Brown, Nina W. (2001). Children of the Self- Absorbed. Oakland, Ca: New Harbinger

Golomb, Elan PhD (1992). Trapped in the Mirror. New York: Morrow

Gootnick, Irwin MD (1997). Why You Behave in Ways You Hate: And What You Can Do About It. Roseville, Ca.: Penmarin Books.

Silberschatz, George, PhD, Ed. (2005). Transformative Relationships. New York: Taylor & Francis.

Weiss, Joseph, MD. (1993). How Psychotherapy Works: Process and Technique. New York: Guilford



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